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My friend Cathy
I have a friend by the name of Cathy. I have known her for 4 or 5 years. We often go out together; one time I spent three days touring Chiang Mai with her; we were girls the whole time – lovely stuff. She, like me is a T-girl but I think she may be a little more T than me. Why do I say that? She started wearing girls’ clothes at the age of 4! And was caught in the act by her grandmother! Shock horror in the family :ohmy: To meet her as a male, one might be tempted to think “effeminate” and rapidly come to the incorrect opinion that she must be gay. But no, Cathy is heterosexual but aspires to do SRS and become a female 24/7. Is that unusual? I don’t think so. I have always told Cathy that I think she is much more credible as a female. That is where she belongs, I feel, and should have been from the beginning. I value her advice and her friendship: a mine of information on anything transgender. My only criticism is that she assumes that we are all like her i.e. ultimately we all want to reside in the female gender permanently. She calls it the “slippery slope”. Some might feel that way, but I don’t. I am happy to be transgender for always. (If I could have T on my passport and driving licence instead of M or F, that would make me really happy.) In conclusion, I am grateful to have Cathy as my friend and hope it will continue until we are too old to know the difference lol
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Cathy sounds like a great friend Martina. I think you are both right. Some of us started off convincing ourselves that we were “just” crossdressers but then admitted to ourselves that there was more than that. We voluntarily slid down the slope. Others of you have no inclination that way and will keep improving your appearance with no risk of approaching the edge of the slope.
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Quite so. I guess it just depends on the ratio of female to male in our gender make-up, and that may vary through a lifetime. If the female is the dominating force then it is understandable that one might choose to live 24/7 as a female with the additional options of SRS and medication to take the process even further.
Cate McGregor chose that path. I found it interesting that during her interview with Jane Hutcheon on ABC TV that she said: “I can never BE a woman.” The fact is, that whatever we do to embrace our female side, at the end of the day we will always be transgender.
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Yes, yes. I’ve just had lunch with a former member of this site. Someone who took a long time to decide to transition, then went gang busters, then woke up to the negative side of loss of family relationships late in life and has taken (in my view)the rational decision to put family before transition.
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Thought I would include a photo of me and Cathy after coffee and later a wine in Chiang Mai earlier this year. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words:
