Antidote for depression

[Anonymous]

Hi Clare

My antidote for depression is hope. Hope of transformation. I looked in the main mirror on sunday and I said to my self nowhere near the real thing yet. More time for hormones and weight reduction to take effect. I then looked at a picure of myself a year ago and yes there is much improvement and this gives me hope of a positive final fem outcome. Voice is comming along alright but the looks of a male face even with make up is still disappointing as you can probably see. It is 23 months before FF which depresses me but what can I do beforehand and I do research on the net and call doctors, plastic surgeons and laser therapists. Then I look at female faces and compare this to mine and think what can I do. Yes I can get a permanent chin filler for a pointy female chin [$1100] . This gives me hope. Then my cheeks are saggy [jowls a little ], get skin thigtening, no, wrong, it is fat as I am loosing weight, so now I will wait and divert funds to skin tightenoing in the eyes and brow area for a lift [$2000]. I then contact a plastic surgeon for a female nose job and a average of $6000 price, came back so I may not have to go to Tailand. This give me hope. Lip enhancement give me hope and other modifications to look forward to. Spend $600 a month and do it gradually within the budget give me hope as it is affordable.
So moving forward gives me hope and with hope a large decrease in depression. The only thing that give me depression at the moment is time!!
This is my way. Hope this helps, Clare
Jane Anderson

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Hello ladies,
I just loved the feelings when I looked down to my lap and saw the nice black skirt and stocking-clad legs under the steering wheel. And felt my longish hair softly blowing in the breeze. I can remember and relive those feelings, and I’m straight away feeling much better, with a little smug smile on my dial.I wonder how many depressed people out there could do with a little dressing therapy?Clare

What a great idea. There’s nothing like a good experience when dresed to generate the good feelings! I too have gone through many times when I have had the ‘Black Dog’, (As I believe Winston Churchill referred to it). It is a slow sneaky sensation and creps up on you so deviously. But dressing is one really good antidote, as well as having a good friend to share the experience with.
So if we get in contact with those psychiatrists and psychologists and recommend bringing their patients round to one of our group meetings. Get them frocked up I bet they would have the best time!
Helen

[Anonymous]

hi all
Diet can make a difference.

Quite a lot of the brain and most of the chemicals it produces to control mood and stuff are mane of the omega3 oils.

These are almost completely absent in the diet . Found in fish and a tiny bit in gren leafy vegies.

I have been taking linseed oil (60% omega3) for a few years now and so far it:
cured my hayfeaver
lower cholesterol
made me feel more energetic and overall much better.

The lack of this stuff may also be causing the epidemic in diabetes.

I hope this helps Vicki

[Anonymous]

I also have suffered from depresion and it is not what you would want others to have, but with help and medicaton I am much better, I think when I decided to get into the C/D more,this has also helped me find more of myself as I am on my own and this is a great outlet and to know there are others who can be of help..
Love to all of you wonderfull girls
Alexi 😉 xxxxxx

[Anonymous]

I have heard depression called an ‘insidious thief’. It sneaks up on you and before you realise it it has taken control of you. When I separated from my first wife I went through a lot of qualms, fears and doubts.
I hadn’t realised that it is a cyclo-thymic in nature. By this I mean that you go up and down like the proverbial yo-yo. One day you feel so high, the world is such a beautiful place. You walk down the street singing and greeting everyone like they were your best friends, a few days later you crash! I’m sure there are those of you reading this who have ‘been there, done that’.
For the rest, it definitely ain’t funny.
When you are that far down the toilet the strange thing about depression is that you can’t conceive of a decent reason for going on. It actually makes sense to end it all. I had two plans worked out how to do this, happily I worked with some great people who recognised the symptoms and encouraged me to go see a psychiatrist.
Again, luckily my situation wasn’t as far down the tube as I felt and after a short course of anti-depressants and counseling I was able to sort things out for myself. I still get down now and again but I bounce back.
My point is that never treat any thing like this lightly, if you have feelings that approximate this go see someone.
Sorry I might have brought this thread down, it wasn’t my intention, I guess it’s a tad close to the bone for me yet. And yes, preparing for a femme evening by dressing nicely, fixing my hair and putting on make-up and helps

[Anonymous]

Ah, and yes, and I should add, I agree with Alexia, being here, meeting so many nice people and making friends is definitely a great help.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad to see at the end of your post you appeared at peace with youself. There is nothing to be alone about or even depressed, if your suffering from that unfortunate ailement. Love yourself, as it appears you do and enjoy being Clare for who she is in your life.

Love Tina
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I have also been depressed although I masked it with alchohol for years. So alchohol works but I don’t recommend it.
I am at the not yet out at work or family but otherwise living full time stage and I can teel you it is driving me nuts…quite schizo…boy…girl…boy…girl arghhh. Evertime I go to work I am so depressed about it I could scream but due to circumstances beyond my control it is not the time to come out to either work or family and I am feeling seriously stuck. The only other thing that works? Retail therapy
Gwen

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I have also been depressed although I masked it with alcohol for years. So alcohol works but I don’t recommend it. ever time I go to work I am so depressed about it I could scream but due to circumstances beyond my control it is not the time to come out to either work or family and I am feeling seriously stuck. The only other thing that works? Retail therapy
Gwen

Hi Gwen, I hope you can find something to help, as you say alcohol is all right but there are too many problems with that, it’s temporary and expensive, (if you’re going to go on a binge buy the good stuff), also it’s bad for the complexion and can give thumping great headaches!
Retail therapy has its pluses but the biggest drawback is money, or lack of enough!
Counseling is good if you find the right counselor which is the trick! I was lucky enough to find one who was able to help me. My depression was only in part to do with my being a c.d. and I did spend a session going through it with her educating her, she didn’t give a discount for my services mind you!!!
Depression is a weird thing, sometimes you get into a state where you want to feel miserable! You feel you should be there in that state and seek to replicate the feeling, we all know the old saying “there’s nothing like a good cry”? Women, who are usually in touch with their feelings, are aware with this and recognize that it’s one way of relieving stress and emotional upsets.
As a nurse I used to wonder about the emotional state of Greek and Italian (and others) relatives of patients, they would do the weeping and wailing very vocally sometimes which perplexed us. we came to recognize that this was the way they handled their grief, giving it an almost physical existence which could be controlled, managed and dispersed.
So I would suggest to anyone to seek someone, maybe a close friend and allow them to share your feelings.
A couple of years ago my son, who is very blokey, was going through some deep problems to do with his confidence. I sat with him and we had a hell of a great long conversation, he was balling his eyes out by the time he was finished, but he said afterwards, “God, that feels good” he hugged me and told me he loved me which made me feel good as well.
So good luck, and just keep hanging in there. I know it’s not really a help at this stage but as I’m sure you’re aware you aren’t on your own. And a lot of us would love to help.

[Anonymous]

Thank you Helen for your kind words. I lean heavily on my partner Liz who deserves more medals than I could conceive of and have a couple of close friends. I had a bad day today too with my boss who I cannot stand deciding he will share a room with me….so kind…so male…..
My brief thoughts of suicide were replaced by feelings that maybe he should go first 😈 or maybe I should just take another dried frogs pill.
Gwen

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Partners deserve huge hugs, medals, parades and the keys to the city! I like the idea of your boss deserving to go first! That is a very generous thought, allowing him relief from your problems!
I still recall an acquaintance ringing me to offer support, I wasn’t in the mood for this person, very much superior to common mortals such as myself but thought she would bestow her wisdom on me. I politely declined and she was so sizzled at me for refusing her generous assistance.
But anyway, take care and give your partner a huge **hug** from all of us, there should be more like her.
Cheers,
Helen
(Dried frog?????) 😯

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Thank you Helen for your kind words. I lean heavily on my partner Liz who deserves more medals than I could conceive of and have a couple of close friends. I had a bad day today too with my boss who I cannot stand deciding he will share a room with me….so kind…so male…..
My brief thoughts of suicide were replaced by feelings that maybe he should go first 😈 or maybe I should just take another dried frogs pill.
Gwen