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Are You Happy Being Transgendered?
Are you happy being trans? I have asked that question of myself sometimes. It was Clare46 recently said on a post, ‘I’m so happy I could burst.’ For me the short, simple answer is absolutely.
Had you asked that same question several years ago you may well have recieved a quite different answer. The reason I may well have answered differently was because I was in a different space. I was in the throes of major depression and everything else that accompanies such major depressive episodes. In fact I probably would have said that I hated being transgendered because of the intense and seemingly unstopable pressures that was placed upon me.
I have frequently considered what life would be like if I were not transgendered? I answered myself, bloody awful. There would be no interesting things to do or places go to. I would be the same as everyone else, dull as dishwater, all suits and ties. I much prefer floral dresses, any dress than a male inspired suit. Horrors upon horrors, there would be no Transformal to attend, except to stand at the Carrington bar and ogle the gorgeous trans crumpet.
I consider that I have been born more than fortunate in being transgendered. It has had its downside, nasty aspects and blatant horrors. But all in all the sheer pleasures of being transgendered supasses the most horrific aspects of being trans.
That’s me, out and intensely proud.
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Liz, as I disagreed with your last post now it is time for me to violently agree. Couldn’t have expressed my attitude to the privilege of being diverse better.
I am aware how this is not always the case – it is something that both you and I have come to apparently over time. Like you I wouldn’t have said the same thing 10 years ago. When we did the TgR survey in 2011 (http://www.tgr.net.au/cms/home/about-us) 46% had positive feelings about being “T” and 18% had negative feelings.
I believe that the sun shines on those who have a positive attitude to life.
Negativity breeds more negativity and depression.
I feel the signature tune of the Life of Brian fading in in the background….
“always look on the bright side of life…….
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What a good question…To give an honest I just have to say Yes Yes Yes… It is something I have always dreamed and fantasised about and the feeling of sheer joy when eventually I went out in public as Helen I felt that this is the real me and after getting over the initial nerves it felt so natural to be Helen. There have been episodes along the way where I have questioned my desires, but each time I have allowed my feelings to take over an each these hurdles have been overcome I have felt both happier and internally more fulfilled. I have no idea what will be the end of my personal journey, but I am happy to say that I feel happier when I am Helen than during the days when I repressed it. Would I change anything? Probably one thing and that is I should have accepted my transgenderism earlier.
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I agree. Yes there are ups and downs and after struggling for 50 or so years in the closet, 2013 was the year I came out. I told my counsellor recently that 2013 was the best year of my life and I really meant it.
