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CD’s/TG’s-Empathy with “real females”
Hello to all on TGR,
I deeply and honestly believe that as a cross dresser, I have an innate capacity to relate really well to the “fairer sex”. It has happened so many times in both my work and personal life, and in the latter case I’m not talking about getting “romantically involved”. Just great friendships, some of which are with women I’m either unlikely or will never see in person again. But the e.mails just keep going back and forth
At least two were told about Caty many moons ago and just adapted to it all without a problem. This was a great help cos my “better ‘arf” at the time just hated anything to do with the subject.
Whilst these ladies did not want to meet Caty in person, they were prepared to indulge me in my “black” sense of humour on the subject.
For as we all know ’tis better to laugh than to cry!!!
Any comments??
Happy dressing, (when you can in this hot weather!!)
Caty
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4 Replies
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Hi,
Yes there are a few men who do relate well to us, in fact many men can just they wont because of a number of reasons how they were brought up with in family’s some in the armed forces very hard men and no respect for us whats so ever, and if you were different then your better dead than alive,
i wont say i relate well with men never did though i will say i get on better over the last 5 years, does not mean i understand men i dont .
remember not all of us will take on board why do men dress in a way to be like us, or wont to be us, we dont understand that part about men .
Its not the clothes thats not the issue its this taking on who we are as women, .
I understand where your SO is coming from .And those youv told yet do not wont to see you dressed, yeap i get that ,
There is a difference between men and women in so many ways, and its very deep seated, in our makeup and who we are, its allso quite complex so is there an easy answer of cause there will apper to be some answers of cause yet theres a lot thats just a part of us and not easy to express in words ,
…noeleena…
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I have to agree with you Caty as a crossdresser I also find that I relate better to women but when I am not dressing such as times where there has been no chance etc I find that I again drift back to the male side of the fence.
I think it relates to us being able to relate to what women are feeling and the interests we have. So when I am dressing I am interested in clothes makeup all the little things that make a female female and because I am paying more attention I develop a better relationship because albeit it subconsciously I am more in tune with them. The same goes for when I am in male mode, I again have the common things that males have an interest in so my attention is focussed. This of course means that when in CD mode any talk of male stuff becomes less interesting because I am focussed on my femme feelings.
Does this make sense I hope I didn’t just babble, but see here is my more communicative female side emerging. Had I been in male mode the answer may have been single sylable -
Hi,
So it appers to be only when dresser’s are dressed that you have an interest in womens detail so its an act your performing then is it its not the real who you are,
if you were wired as a female then there would be no changes in you, would there or if you were female at birth, this is where i find it hard to understand where men who dress are coming from,
So take all your womens clothes makeup shoes and what ever you need to be like a woman well look like one, then what, .
You see take my clothes makeup shoes and what ever else i have away, im still female those things dont change me or who i am, im not acting or performing or trying to be like a female or a woman for that matter,
This mind change thats going on with dresser’s is . what words do i use, spos its weird to me . as a ? is it really a mind change .
Iv worked with people on meds for different reasons and did see mind control take place, plus other detail when the meds wore off they then returned to thier normal state, so though the meds worked it was only tempery not the real who they are,or were,
Or does it become a matter of to look right i have to dress right and then talk right and then act in a way that appers like a woman,
any ways interesting .
…noeleena…
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So it appers to be only when dresser’s are dressed that you have an interest in womens detail so its an act your performing then is it its not the real who you are,
I have to disagree here Noeleena, I do take a lot of notice of women when I’m out and about, trying to see if what they are doing or wearing can assist me in my endeavours to improve myself.
As for not being the “real who I am” that person knows exactly who “he/she” is.
I happen to be someone who is quite happy being the macho male for about 85-90% of the time, but the remainer, (when I can), is as femme as I can manage on that occasion. This of course is due to time and or envioromental constraints, (as ias in where I am and how easy it is at the time to become Caty).
This topic yet again illustrates yet again what a great Forum TGR is. We can debate such matters openly and freely and it’s from this angle that I thank you for your contributions.
Sincerely
Caty
