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childlessness
I am having a real battle with childlessness. I could never sexually function as the other gender, I tried sooo hard, but never could.
Sometimes I get so low about being without children that I wonder if life is worth living.
I know it is, and things are getting much better for me now, as I live as a female 24/7. But this issue of childlessness just won’t go away. I have done all the pscho babble about it with a psychologist, but it never goes away.
Does anybody know of any women’s groups that can support me with this as I am desperate to resovle it. Please I need your help., today is one of my worst days for this issue. An empty house does not help things. -
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Hi Erika
I am not sure whether the law will allow TGs to adopt children. However have you perhaps considered caring for foster children? My parents have been foster carers for awhile now and have looked after kids for both short-term (weekends to a few weeks) and long-term (months to years).
It does not appear to be an easy job – as different kids may have different needs and behaviours – but I would admit it does bring joy to my parents, as both my older sister and I are no longer kids, and they do not see or look after their grand children (all at school age) at the same frequency.
Hope this helps.
.maya
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Thanks Maya,
I did consider this, but giving up a child when I have bonded with him/ her?
I don’t know if I could do that. But it is something to consider once the ”powers that be” have finished with me and surgery is complete.
Thanks for your reply, it means a lot to me that people care. -
Hi. Im Aleesha. I read your post and felt very deeply for you.
Sadly I have no great advice or magic solution but can only offer friendship and let you know I feel for you.
To have a child 24/7 I have no idea accept one.
I mean this with the utmost respect for all concerned and if this comes over in ANY way negative ,it is not meant to be.
Is it possible to adopt a child from another country, where laws and requirements may differ from here ?
I have seen on TV as most would have there are some desperate (not meant with disrespect) situations for parentless children around the world.
I guess you have already thought of this.
Do you have family with young children you can form a close bond with.
I hope you find some peace soon
xx
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Hi Aleesha,
Thanks for your kindness. I am fortunate that I come from a close family with a plenty of nephews and nieces. I used to figure large in their lives, but they are now grown and are doing their own thing. We have our get togethers as an extended family and they now treat me as their aunty. those moments are occassionaly now, but precious. Sso I suppose that is why I am expereincing my childess state more acutely or perhaps I am simply being the women who always wanted kids. When I see pregnant women I feel the loss so acutely that I want to cry – sometimes I do.
However, as my psychologist pointed out, there are many women, whether by choice or otherwise who are childless and they are going through what I am going through. -
Hi All
I think I understand what you may be going through now .I didnt want kids earlier in my life ,partly because I was concentrating on my carrer partly cause I didnt have a stable marriage.Now that im a senior I look at my friends with kids with envy . I know now that growing old with some offspring is far better than without .In fact ,for me friends as well are now very important for Im no longer married to my job .BUt thats the way I feel …
Hugs
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Being trans, the heartache of being childless. What makes me cry.
“When a trans woman knows she needs hormone therapy to survive yet is priced out of banking her sperm for a desired future motherhood, this is forced sterilization, “forced” because it is within the power of the state to not exact such demands,….”
