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Do You find yourself doing other female stuff ?
hmmmm…. when i watch the tele, i stick to one channel… no clicking of the remote… and i don’t watch football… prefer watching those cooking shows instead… or rather… those lifestyle shows… i only start changing channels if there are 2 shows that i’d like to watch but both are at the same time slot… sry i don’t have a working recording device to record the other show….!!!
i’ve always been interested in knitting and other forms of needlework… just never really got into them.. doubt i have that much patience to actually complete a piece of work either..
and i think i tend to walk a bit more feminine nowadays… but i am still glad that i don’t wear heels to work… it’s much easier to dash across roads on flats than on heels..!!! :p though i remember getting told off by my dad when i was much younger for walking like a girl… hmm….
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Crying at emotional movies or stories. Loving chocolate. House work , (oops, is that politically incorrect?) Puting toilet seat down.
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Quote:Crying at emotional movies or stories. Loving chocolate. House work , (oops, is that politically incorrect?) Puting toilet seat down.
Ditto, ditto, no (Come on, no one enjoys housework), and ditto.
Add to the list: a feeling of outrage at sexist anti-female comments and attitudes; a dislike of and no aptitude for footy and cricket; a love of cats; and a fear of mice and most insects (“You’re such a girl, Dad!”, I have heard my kids say more than once.)
Christine
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Quote:Quote:(Come on, no one enjoys housework), Add to the list: a love of cats; and a fear of mice and most insects ChristineHonestly, I stick on the stereo real loud, Status Quo, air guitar doing the ironing! Fleetwood Mack, use the vacuum rod as a mic stand and imagine I’m Stevie Nicks swirling round in those gorgeous dresses she wears.
I love cats but my little dog is so cute, he doesn’t yap all the time, in fact he never barks at all!! I hate spiders and most creepy crawlies as well.
I have a two girl friends who have a large poodle which they bring round from time to time. This dog loves me and is very happy to snuggle down beside me on the couch, The interesting thing is that the girls tell me the dog hates males. I’ve heard of drug sniffer dogs, but tranny sniffer dogs?Quote:I have to Admit for me Lady Hawk was the all time best ever movie made, and I am drifing of the darn topic I know! :twisted:.One of my favourite as well, also loved Princess Bride
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I find I have far more interest in housekeeping when dressed, as well as
other “girlly ” interests – yes like keeping the toilet seat ( and lid ) down cleaning up my male mess and dusting etc – maybe I dont want th house to be dirty because I could messup my nice dress or some thing or its just my feminine side coming out …
I think my mum dressing me in my sisters clothes when very young has alot to do with my Cding I just wish she had ‘feminised’ me more to the point where cooking, cleaning , arranging my room and generally being neater came as second nature rather than th estuggle it has been
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So doing housework = a female roll?
Is this the dark ages??
Quote:Crying at emotional movies or stories. Loving chocolate. House work , (oops, is that politically incorrect?) Puting toilet seat down.I cry during emotional movies, eat chocolate, do housework and put the tiolet seat down, and it has nothing to do with being feminine…
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Quote:I been collecting dolls for a long time. And always cast that off as being a collector. But now as I look back on it, I wash and keep them clean and in their sets and find myself coming to at last understand, thats it been a female side of me all along.
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I used to collect Star Wars figurines…
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about Miss-Linas comment on housework .I wasnt seeking to equate housework with feminity rather to say that when I was a kid the last things my mum would do would be to get me to do any or get me interested in that or cooking or anything else in that time which was classified as the ‘womens area ‘ – they were taboo .Like wise my mates were never taught to do things like this, rather we were dismissed as “boys being boys ” when were messed up our bedrooms, the house etc or waited till mum came home to eat .It was not a good state to be in as it left us to learn these skills at a mature age . Things are different these days with young males, as far as I see and this is very good
whta I was saying is that I findit so much easier to do these things as my alterego suzzanne, probably because of this earlier conditioning
As to my mum dressing me up yes it was fun but i was always told “never tell anyone ” about it ,which left me in a state of conflict. Why did I have to be so cautious about some thing that i enjoyed and my mum did also ?SUzz
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I also find Im more interested in other peoples emotions and motives for doing what they do (and tend to be more concilatory) when dressed – seems to me to be more feminine
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Hmm that’s an interesting question and can only be answered by the fact that we actually believe, inside of us, there is a whole other person. It’s our feminine intuition that makes us do things we think are feminine. I’m not really sure if it’s what we believe we think is female habits or more to the point the subtle way we are female.. next time someone says your in touch with your feminine side .. take a while to think why they said it.
Your more of who you really are than you think
love and huggs tina[img][/img]
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I am on the transgender programme at Monash.
I find that since starting the programme I more and more do “feminine” things. These range from cooking and dinner parties being able to cry and now I really enjoy being creative in working out what clothes i will wear each day.
It seems to me that before I was acting a role but now I am living my life.
It feels more natural and not forced.
It does not mean I am a girly girl but rather I have been able to leave the straight jacket of the male role and live my life rather than act. †he great thing is being female is that I have a much wider range of choices for my life than as a man – its a lot more fun.
Regards
Jen
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Hi Jen ,
let me say i envy you in feeling more ‘free ‘ .Im certain that many of us ( well at least myself ) would like to have that feeling .Last night I was having dinner (not dressed ) at a resturant in a suburb here in Sydney which has a high content of a certain ethnic group and noticed just how stereotyped both genders are there – Girls as girlly as possible dressed to th hilt , guys all bodybuilding ,arms exposed, heads shaved types trying to look as tough as possible.No middle ground there. I felt glad that I dont exist in such a group/culture.
Now your comment being able to decide what you wear each day just makes me green with envy … Also i d love to feel motivated and capable of hosting dinner parties ..Hugs
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It may not be necesarily a feminine trait, in your opinion, but suppressing of emotions such as this definitely is a masculine one.
Quote:Quote:Crying at emotional movies or stories. Loving chocolate. House work , (oops, is that politically incorrect?) Puting toilet seat down.I cry during emotional movies, eat chocolate, do housework and put the tiolet seat down, and it has nothing to do with being feminine…
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What is Feminine and Masculine anyway? I think that they are only social
constructs at best. For years I was a sole parent of a daughter and had to perform many of the “roles” that a mother would do, we bought her first bra together, I would buy her sanitary needs as she was too embarrassed. I worked with disabled people for years in a personal care role and am a Hairdresser, all roles that are usually done by women. Does this make me “feminine”? I don’t believe so .W hen I am dressed as a woman, I ACT in a way that I believe is feminine but I try to BE as much MYSELF as possiblein the outside world. I wash, cook, clean, put the toilet seat where I want ,also fix the car, built a house, do woodwork etc , just like a lot of my female friends do as they too are single and talented women.
I believe that the more we work against roles the better off all of us will be , free of role expectations and limitations.
The reality is that to be called a “girl” or “old woman” in the pub is still a grave insult for most Aussie men.
What I have observed in women is that they are mostly, very tough when it comes to protecting their kids, more open with their feelings, loyal, supportive of their friends,and more “real” than most men I know.
This is where I aim to travel in life, to a more sensitive ,compassionate and strong SELF , it has nothing to do with the frocks that I wear! -
Christina, I agree with everything you say, I have done most of what you have done, never had daughters though.
I’m a nurse and also have done hairdressing, I agree that the items we are discussing should be considered gender neutral, but as we both know they aren’t. Many a time I’ve been asked what do I do for a living, when I inform them I’m a nurse they give me ‘the look’! I know what they’re thinking, it has even been asked directly a few times over the years, “Are you a poof?”, or, my favourite, “Couldn’t you get a mans job?” We are in a minority.
My father was one of the blokiest men I knew, served in the merchant navy during the war, loved his sport, was an absolute gentleman. Every Saturday morning he would give my mum a lie in and do the house work himself, get the kids, (us) organised and cook breakfast etc.
But most men I know would laugh at the idea of them doing that, “It’s womans work”. Sad but true -
I just adore fashion – & read all the mags
. I avidly follow my favourite designers.
I also love shopping and scoff chocolate like water. I also love to cuddle up and watch a romamnce movie. 😳
