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Does the desire to dress get stronger as you get older?
I keep hearing posts and comments about the desire to dress getting stronger as people get older but for a while now I’ve been finding the opposite is the case for me.
I dont know if its the case of having the freedom to dress whenever I want with living by myself although I felt much the same before moving away from my parents place.
Its only been about 2.5 years since I started dressing fully and going out which happened on the same night. Is this something others have been through or am I in the minority? -
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Hi Melissa
I found I have ups and downs, sometimes I just can’t wait to get home from work to get dressed other times I just cant be bothered for days.
Its not weather based either, does matter it its too hot to dress or nice and cool so you can wear nice stuff and makeup it varies.
Maybe it TG femenstral cycle, who knows -
Hi Mel
I think we are all different. You found dressing exciting when you could not do it and it was the centre of what was around you. Now you have your own pad and you are finding so much more things around you that is new and exciting too.
As we grow and change through life so does the priority or things in our life. It does not always go away, but we find other things that grap our attention.
Being female or wanting to be female so not always about dressing, it about the way you are inside and how you react to the world outside. Dressing is a way of the outside seeing how you feel. and getting that responce back from how others react to you.
Just relax and enjoy your life, you will dress and enjoy it when it feels right to you.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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A gay friend of mine , a man who has done his fair share of DRAG in his time , once told me ” wear makeup everyday for year and you will soon get sick of it” I did and he was right , it became a chore to do my eyes every day. I still enjoy wearing it but I too find periods when I have no need to dress and other times when it is a constant interest, I just think it is “normal” part of trans life. Enjoy it when you can and take a break when you feel the need.
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Are we getting tired of being girls or just tired of putting on makeup? Even GGs have plenty of no make-up and tracky-dack days. Probably more than we do.
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Hi Mel
Last post to this topic I replyed to your example and not the topic. The topic has made me think for a bit as how my life has unfoldered.
I have always dreamed of myself as a girl and that had never changed, but because the rest of the world told me I was a guy. I spent most of my life trying to prove that I was a guy. It was only when I was sick of things just not fitting into place that I started to question the rest of the world and started to follow my heart.
So although there were times I stopped dressing and tryed to surpress the feelings, they never went away. I took it further when I was older because of experance telling there is something wrong, not because the feelings got stronger. I realised that what I had tryed in the past did not work allowed me to take the feelings and do something about it.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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I am excatly the same a you Mel. Only on my own since June, son got own house giving me the time and room to do as i like including wearing my favourite wedding gown but i don’t get the desire to.
Maybe it was the thrill or dare to do it when others were around or the challenge i don’t know ? Christina’s comment is true to – “wear make up every day and you will get sick of it”, i’m not sure what it is. But yes Kelly i guess we are all different.
I often go a few weeks without doing anything so Mel i guess your not alone !
Good topic Mel.
Cheers,
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It may not be the desire to dress but the novelty of dressing which decreases. We would wear a bra as often as we can. But if we had been women, wearing one 16/7 then we would want it off as often as possible.
Novelty is what drives us when first start dressing. But it is comfort which decides our style. Most men have joking thrown on wig or female peice of clothing and say look at me. This is the novelty effect.
Things are not about what you wear or how you look, it is how you feel on the inside. Women don’t change how they feel by throwing on a pair of overalls or a male business suit, it is just about about showing off a look.
The problem most of us are trying to address is that our outside look does not match our inside feelings.
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Hi
I feel similar to Melissa . Since I started living on my own I have lost a lot of the desire to dress.More so with makeup – I just dont do it these days.
I think its a case of desiring something then finding if we have it its not as good as we thought . Years back when i had a girl friend who was really keen on me dressing I dressed every night and it was really fun ,but even then it started to get a little tedious when she insisted i wear a full skirt,blouse etc or dress with full lingerie and make up all the time .I even rebelled a bit a wore tights and top only …
Since becoming single I have lost a lot of the desire to dress yet I live in a relatively large house on my own.For me there is a sort of thrill in dressing in company , especially in the company of GG s . This I gather is why some girls seek company to be dressed in or dress in – it not only produces enthusiasm but it validates their feelings – well thats the way I see it .Now it feels strange to dress alone – sort of feels a bit like being lonely TV who dresses in secret except th secrecy is provided by th house … Ah well !
I still welcome any one who wants to meet while dressed or dress here
Hugs
Suzz
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Yes Fran, I agree with what you are saying
The novelity is in the change for many. Getting in touch with your feminine side, as they say.
Unless you want to feel sexy or portray a look, both male or female really just get on with their respective daily routine and not really worry to much about clothing unless it’s uncomfortable. Clothing complements the different shape of the sex and color/frills etc dictated genererly by society
As a male you don’t get excited about what you generally wear on a daily basis and the same would go for the GG’s
I have been in denim skirt [just above the knee], top and worked all day on my acreage and after a while I don’t even think of what I am wearing. Mind you if you pick up something bulky I get reminded my boobs are in the way but other than that the daily routine prevails.
I have been wearing female clothing for years now as daily clothing ie female shaped shorts to suit my now shape, sports bra and average top siding to the female side a little. Mind you you don’t have to look to closely to see that they are female clothing and there is something reasonably bulky up top, but I am used to it and don’t even think about it during the day anymore. I just go about doing what I always have. I have had no real coments so far but from some the little things I know many have noticed.
Yes, I to have ups and downs but my daily clothing does not change as it is now part of me, like it or not.
My disire to become female is still very much in tact.
One question I would ask is ;
If clothes were not available in any form or outlawed for arguments sake.
A naked woman
A naked man
Would you still want to become a woman?
ModeratorQuote:Asking another question is a pretty clear example of an off-topic post. A new question should go in a new topic – please!Jeorjette
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Quote:Does the desire to dress get stronger as you get older?
In my case – NO!
In fact, the “Natural Inclination” to be a girl was far stronger when I was young – say early teens thru to late twenties. Probably because I didn’t understand the cause of the feelings and the associated inability to experiment with clothing, makeup, etc, at that time!
30 odd years later, I have embraced my Transgender lifestyle – so much so, I don’t even think about being “different” anymore – I just am! Yes, I’m still a boi on the outside, but I naturally think as a girl and see life as a girl. I’m able to “be” femme anytime I want without (well, very little) any adverse influences.
Although I don’t obsess over it, I do wish to progress further with HRT and possibly surgery in the future, but at the moment i’m content with my Transgender lifestyle.
CLARE.
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I have to say that while I may want to dress casually at home – ie tights and top or trackies etc .I still insist on wearing femme underwear at all times and rarely miss wearing a nightie and panties etc to bed as they all feel and look so woncerfull ! Wouldnt miss them for th world !
I guess one reason why I dont wear a dress or similar,nor make up around here when home is the prospect of having to go outside or answer the front door …been caught before ! Lol
Suzz -
I dont thik about it any more – it is my lifestyle
This is from my blog
“2004 untill now. I live alone by choice… I call it. Sally has arrived. I started dressing better, longer and enjoying the relaxed atmosphere of it.
I wake up and Sally dresses in the morning, from 1 to 3 hours (depending on work start times) . The boy puts on the work clothes and off he goes. Sometimes wishing Sally was still around and always looking at clothes, fashion etc. After work Sally dresses again. Sally is in the house all day Sunday. “
Most mornings its leggings & tops And wig
Most nights skirts, tops etc, And wig
Saturday night Fully done up, makeup and the works – going out or not
Sunday is usually a continuation of saturdaythis is me – the boy clothes are infront of the computer right now but i know Sally is answering.
lvoe and hugs
