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dressing in public
HI GIRLS
BEING AN OUT DOOR GIRL DAY OR NIGHT .
Istill find it hard to belive you are worried about having hips or a big bum I tell you no one gives a shit . why do i know such things i been there done that my friend kim and my self have been to place you just dream about . The one thing that comes across regular is THE WAY WE LOOK AND DRESS . well hip and bum padding isn’t going to help the ONLY thing that is going to help YOU is your own CONFIDANCE . why because I have been there YES BOOBS helps but its the way you show them off blow MEN away think you have them . I don’t have any but the way i present my self they (men ) think i do so do other chicks . LOOK PEOPLE STRAIGHT IN THE EYE AND SMILE they will turn away . REMEMBER YOU ARE HAPPY IN YOUR SELF
See you Steffi xxx000 -
6 Replies
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Hi Steffi,
Couldn’t agree more with your comments concerning dressing in public. At first I was the one looking over my shoulder until I made a conscious decision & took the attitude that I dont care what other people may think. Having adopted this attitude, I am now very comfortable with my public appearances & it is surprising just how many people seem to be accepting of you.
Compliments of the season to you.
LOL
Joanne3089
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Still only confident enough to go out at night, but the more I go out, the more confident I feel and the less concerned about what others think. I believe that people only take notice of the bleeding obvious and if you walk or act normally then most people won’t notice or for that matter care about you.
The more you get out the less self conscious and therefore the less people will have to notice.
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I very much agree that going out in public is about self confidence and, if you are confident, then others will react like you are an accepted part of this society rather shunned like a leper. Sorry that’s a bit too dramatic. However, for me, self confidence flows from my self image and, therefore, the foundation is looking the best I can and the most womanly I can – irrespective of whether or not others care or not.
I also build self confidence from the incidents, even the minor ones, that happen when I’m out dressed that probably they wouldn’t cost me a thought in male mode. By way of example I was changing a pair of shoes that I had bought as I wanted to switch them for a different colour. In the shop where a couple of other women trying on shoes and one was there with her daughter. She would have been 7 or 8 years old and, while I was sitting waiting to try on my new shoes, she came around in front of me and gave me a big radiant smile.
Another time in the Myer handbag department, a woman customer approached me with two bags in hand and asked me which colour was best? We talked about it for a while and in the end I pointed to the dark tan one. She said yes you’re right it will work with more colours.
More recently a young man who had a flat battery asked me if he could jump start his car from my car battery. He was very courteous and he went to great lengths to explain how it all would work and that it wouldn’t damage my car.
When I was young a very wise and experienced tranny told me ‘if you wait until you pass 100% you’ll never go out’.
I do agree that you have to feel proud of yourself and comfortable in your own skin. For me that means having the mindset that says – I love being a tranny and I look pretty good. A year or more ago I was going out regularly but mostly keeping my trap shut for fear of revealing myself to the 70 or 80% who hadn’t already twigged I was a tranny. The result was a bit of anxiety and very limited ‘interactive’ experiences in female mode. I then decided that, if I wanted to live a genuine dual gender life, I needed to bite the bullet and basically do anything and everything that I wanted to do or needed to do when dressed.
I can honestly say that I have had no bad experiences and generally people treat me as a female. I still have some way to go but I’m starting to believe that my end goal may be achievable.
On a side issue, I think it is quite important that those trannies who want to go out – do get out into the community – including us ‘part timers’ – so that people become even more familiar with dealing with trannies of all persuasions, come to terms with us and maybe even understand our differences – and put to bed some of those misconceptions.
Fiona xx
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Fiona,
Confidence works in mysterious ways, previously buying clothes was stressful, furtively looking for things close to the end of a rack that might fit. I went out and bought a new skirt and top today and felt comfortable enough to take my time and find clothes that a. I wanted , b. fitted and c. went together. Result a niice outfit that doesn’t look too garish and can be worn with confidence that it does look good and won’t attract people for the wrong reasons. A few years ago I woulo have been far too flustered to even think of doing that.
Self confidence is a major factor in your appearance and if you can feel comfortable in the way you appear, then the chances are that you will enjoy dressing even more and go out more.
Helen
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Yes you’re right Helen. It can be a pretty fragile thing too – sometimes it seems things work out best when I have a ‘don’t give a damn’ attitude.
Glad you had a successful shopping spree today.
Fiona xx
Quote:Fiona,Confidence works in mysterious ways, previously buying clothes was stressful, furtively looking for things close to the end of a rack that might fit. I went out and bought a new skirt and top today and felt comfortable enough to take my time and find clothes that a. I wanted , b. fitted and c. went together. Result a niice outfit that doesn’t look too garish and can be worn with confidence that it does look good and won’t attract people for the wrong reasons. A few years ago I woulo have been far too flustered to even think of doing that.
Self confidence is a major factor in your appearance and if you can feel comfortable in the way you appear, then the chances are that you will enjoy dressing even more and go out more.
Helen
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I have a shop in the outer suburbs and live a hour away. I do service work. My profession is in high demand at the moment and am working long hours. This situation sometime requires me to save 2 hours travel and will stay at the shop overnight. Of course in fem mode. I am surrounded by houses and a reasonably busy road. The outside is semi lit during the nite.
At 5am I prepare my vehicle with items for deliver and extra stock and will go out the front of the shop to load/unload. Back and forth.
I am fully dressed in femme with demin mini skirt to be the same length as the shorts I wear so unless someone really looks they would not know.
I did a delivery to a client yesterday evening and went about my usual way.
The client lives 45 minutes away from the shop
Out of the blue he says that I saw you comming out of the shop at 5.20 this morning.
I said that I am doing long hours and sometimes I have to camp there overnite and left it at that
Whew!!
Jane
