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  • driving dressed

    Posted by Anonymous on 11/09/2005 at 2:42 pm

    hi all, I have been driving home from work dressed in my girl out fit, pink top white bra black hold ups white skirt black shoes.
    I still look very much like a man and need some help with my make up. even so, no one gives me a second look. but i find it very hard to get out the car in public, please could you tell me how to over come these problems.

    Brenda replied 13 years, 11 months ago 4 Members · 34 Replies
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  • Anonymous

    Guest
    13/09/2005 at 4:55 am

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  • Anonymous

    Guest
    13/09/2005 at 8:36 am

    Hi, I did worry what would happen if i was stopped by the cops, thanks.

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    14/09/2005 at 12:06 am

    Hi girls,
    reading the thoughts on driving, and I now drive my car wearing heels all the time. I have been out driving while dressed up a few times, and I know it isn’t illegal to do this, it just feels so intense a feeling. Can’t explaiin it too well. Mostly I drive at night, but Sunday morning drives are nice.
    I have no need to go out in public to shops or to crowded places, and be seen by others, but in the car, I am out in public, sort of.
    At night, I can drive to a park, lots of bush trails and a lake to walk along , all while dressed up and drive home. Bit cold here at this time of year, but this is perfect on balmy summer evenings. See ya in the park.
    with love, Laura

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    14/09/2005 at 12:33 pm

    I got stopped once at night dressed femme…. had a very short skirt on and a slinky low cut top, fake boobs and a little make up on. Anyway I got stopped for speeding and was also made to blow in the alcotest. The young copper made me get out of the car, i hesitated then thought bugger it…so I got out, he looked me once over… smiled, warned me not to speed and that i should replace the tyrs and then said” have a nice night” and told me to go….
    I guess that this day and age they see everything and anything so it doesnt really bother them…they are just there to do their jobs and as long as you dont hinder them or be rude they will treat you with respect.

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    14/09/2005 at 2:25 pm

    Hi,
    Firstly let me introduce myself. I am a pre op TS who works as a Prison Officer for the Corrective Services in NSW. I come into contact with the Police on a regular basis. With that in mind I can say that 99.9% of Police who I have had dealings with ,are just plain curious about Transgendered people.They do not openly discriminate or harass me in particular. Sadly my name has gone around the Police in Sydney that there is a “tranny” at Surry Hills Police Centre.
    In two years working fulltime as a female prison officer I have had only one ocassion where I received a form of discrimination from two police officers and after placing a report in too there station it was finished and never have I had any problem since.
    Now to the point of my post. If you are stopped by the Police for Breath testing or any problem they may see,be polite and pleasant and follow the directions given. If you feel though that you are receiving any form of discrimination,harassment or alike,get the officers badge number and even ask for his/her station. Then once clear of the police prescence make a complaint to the station either in written form or by phone.
    There are rules we all have to abide by. As civilians we are bound by laws as are the police. The Anti Discrimination Law of 1977(avaialable online) states that we(TG people) are not to be discriminated against in any shape, form or fashion.
    Of course if you feel that you do not want to follow through with a complaint that is your choice. Dont either, due to your privacy or you are wanted by the police for outstanding warrants.. :D thats your choice.

    Now the worst possible scenario is if you are arrested,admit you are TG(if you are dressed enfemme) if it isnt obvious to the police. You should be at all times kept seperate from other offenders,for your safety.
    If you come into Corrective Services,expect to be strip searched(thats the law) and treated as a Tg inmate. Again you will be seperated from general population inmates.
    Be advised …..try not and break any law dressed. I have seen too many of our community come into my custody………

    hugz
    Monique

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    14/09/2005 at 3:59 pm

    Very well said!!

  • Brenda

    Member
    18/09/2005 at 12:57 am

    I have never had any problems driving dressed, whether it was along the highway, getting fuel at a service station , being breathalyzed, (14 times in one year, I actually went seacrching for the RBT three times> was even pulled over for a traffic infringent All in Queensland.

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    18/09/2005 at 5:10 am
    Quote:
    Hi,
    Firstly let me introduce myself. I am a pre op TS who works as a Prison Officer for the Corrective Services in NSW.
    […]
    Now the worst possible scenario is if you are arrested,admit you are TG(if you are dressed enfemme) if it isnt obvious to the police. You should be at all times kept seperate from other offenders,for your safety.
    If you come into Corrective Services,expect to be strip searched(thats the law) and treated as a Tg inmate. Again you will be seperated from general population inmates.

    Hi Monique.
    Does this apply if you’re Post-Op but your documentation is ambiguous? For example, even after SRS I’ll have a Male Birth Certificate, but a Female Passport. The price of remaining married, and having been born in the UK.

    I’m pre-op but transitioned (like yourself), so I imagine I’d be currently put in the TG category. Hopefully with full access to HRT as preecribed.

    Here’s hoping I never have to find out. But not all those arrested are guilty, it can happen to anyone. Worse, Innocence of wrongdoing is a pretty good protection against conviction, but not absolutely effective. So everyone should know this info, not just Crims.

    Hugs and all the best, Zoe

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    18/09/2005 at 5:32 am

    Hi Girls ,
    I Get all dressed up and get in my car and go too “karioke” theme nights…..Rocky horror … country Western…Rock ‘n ‘ roll….if you want too see me this weds night and next …Sporties hotel Springhill…best costume is a prize for audience …lots of $$$$$….partisispation is expected …come boy or girl noone cares its fun ….. r

    Luuv Ella

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    02/08/2010 at 8:07 am

    hi i was wondering if i could get some help while driving around while dressed in my girls clothes.
    i drive a small car (ford fiesta trio) and the seat is high up and the window is low.
    since im still havent fully come out while dressed. driving around is kinda of a thrill. so i was wondering if there are any tips on still being harder to see while driving around

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    02/08/2010 at 8:22 am

    Hi babe, simply drive at dusk or later in the evening. You will find that people don’t look much anyway. Being out driving for the first few times is a real buzz. Enjoy :-)
    Gwen

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    04/09/2010 at 5:41 am

    i went for a drive in one of my school dresses, the other day, but i kinda of cheated myself out of the whole being in public thing, by wearing a jumper over the dress, the dress bottom could still be seen, but only if you were in a very big car.
    but i guess what i did was a step in the right way, i do plan on driving around soon with just the dress on, so wish me luck and i hop i dont chicken out

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    04/09/2010 at 2:48 pm

    Best of luck, Misty. Perhaps if you wore something more demure than a school dress you would have more confidence. Don’t get me wrong, I sometimes wear my schoolgirl outfit at home but, at my age, to wear something like that in public would certainly cause a stir.

    Good luck!

    Julie

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    04/09/2010 at 4:56 pm

    Hi

    This posting reminds me of one of those police videos seen on the tv every now and again.

    Whatever you do, if you are stopped by police, or they try to stop you, don’t try to drive away from it for whatever reason may come up in your mind. The embarrassment will be nothing compared to what the fallout will be if you fail to stop. And you will still be embarrassed.

    Dress & drive – cool. Dress all the time regardless of the comments – cooler. Try to get away from a police person – not cool. Having a reason to try to evade the police other than the black skirt and heels – really not cool.

  • Anonymous

    Guest
    04/09/2010 at 10:13 pm

    Hi everyone,
    I am a fulltime tgirl and on HRT and am finding this topic interesting.
    My only form of transport is a Black Harley Davisdon, and when riding, I wear what I always wear, being jeans and T’s, as thay are very practical, but at the same time, very feminine. (Target Hot Options, not only sexy, but practical and cheap).
    In my past boy days, I rode my bike on numerous charity and protest rides, and whilst I have never been a member of an outlaw gang, because of the current association laws, I am now classed as an associate member of an outlaw gang and my details are on record.
    Its mud that sticks for many bike riders unfortunately, and many off us have never been so much as charged. or even recieved a traffic infringement…yet. šŸ˜†
    Fortunately for me, most local police know who I am through my work, but im waiting for the day when I get stopped by one who doesnt, as I think they will be in for hopefully a pleasant surprise šŸ˜† .
    When at work, I always park my bike next to the police bay, and its quite amusing to observe some of their responses when they see me come out of the unit after work and mount my machine and ride off.
    There response can range from a polite smile, to almost a hostile glare, but then that is more likely because our service has kept them hulled up for hours on end.
    Regardless, I remain courtious and polite at all times as these guys could give me a hard time if they choose.
    So far however, I have found my dealing with police to be polite and professional, however in saying that…I find many cops are curious ….but then thats what makes a good cops do their job right…their curiosity.

    Cheers Libby

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