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Echoes from the Past – Employment or Personal
I had an interesting experience today.
I was phoned by an employment agency regarding an application I had lodged with them about a year ago. I was a bit wary when they asked for me by my male name but did not let on straight away about the changes I had made in my life.
He was busy asking about my work history, if I was still working for the employer I had originally told them and if I was still interested in looking at changing my job. I told him I would be interested in considering the position, BUT, I have made some changes in my life, I am transgender and now live as a woman. There was no way I was going to be able to hide that one, so best be up front to start off with.
I asked if the prospective employer may have any prejudices against hiring a person like me and he told me he would have to get back to me on that one. He did ask if my current employer was ok with my situation, to which I replied that my current employer has been fully supportive from day 1 and that most people accept me as a woman.
We will wait and see on that one.
Also, I am finding that people I have not seen for a while and haven’t been told about my changes, usually do a big double take when they find out. Usually I get a “Oh!”, followed by “Are you happy with that?”, then silence, which I am usually the one to break (got to let them digest the info) and then I procede as if everything was just normal. For most, it comes as a bit of a surprise, but after they have a while to think about it, everything goes back to normal. However, the longer the conversation goes, I find many start to revert back to referring to me as “he” or my male name. Most appologise, and insist on telling me that I am still the “same person”, I just look different which is where their confusion comes in.
I am only 2 months into living full time as a female and I am sure these moments will pass the longer I live my new life. I actually like the fact that people still see me as the same person and most accept that I have changed a few things 😈 . I have no regrets over my male past and have embraced both sides of my personality which is probably how I was able to transition without destroying my life as it existed before. But, I can’t get over how easy it has all been so far and feel just a little annoyed I didn’t do this years ago. No tears for spilt milk though.
Has anyone else had similar experiences?
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2 Replies
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I had the same experances when I was transitining, but the further down the track I got the more I despised my past.
I dont know why, it could be that the fight has gone from me. To start wiht it was almost exciting to see peoples expressions and the joy of been accepted. Now I am over that and I have been fulltime for more than 2 years and I am just a girl in my world, so to be outed tends to hurt.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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I had a very similar experience. What I found is that over time my previous life became less and less real to me to the point today where I simply can’t connect to who or whatever I was then. If you choose to undergo SRS you might get some more surprises
Gwen
