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Finally out to my wife
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I found that when I finally told my wife about my cross-dressing, the thing that upset her the most was all the years of keeping secrets from her. I think it was more of a trust issue at first, she still doesn’t believe that it is right for a man to crossdress, but she tolerates an awful lot these days from me.
She has told me that she doesn’t want a life without me, so hopefully she will become more tolerant in the future. So hang in there and maybe things will get better as time goes by.
Like everyone else has said noone can really advise you what to do, as your situation is different to all of ours. However there are some things that are true in all types of relationships, and if we do our best to stick to them there is always some sort of light at the end of the tunnel. You have to be honest, caring and love your wife unconditionally, if you expect to get the same from her.
A friend of mine once said “the light at the end of the tunnel is a freight train coming the other way”. I sincerely hope that in this instance that is not the case.
Good luck and keep the faith, Pamela!
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Well it’s been a couple of weeks and we have not spoken about it at all. Both my therapist and Caty have been very helpful and suggested (insisted!) that I STFU and give her time. At first this made me sad and angry, but it was definitely the right advice.
We have been away together without kids on a four day holiday with now mention of it and haven’t a great time. Really connecting, really talking. Tonight I said that she may not like some of the changes ahead, not specifically referring to Cathy, just a generalisation. She said, in a positive way, that we will just have to work through them.
We will get there.Thanks for everyone’s advice, especially Caty.
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A pleasure to help out Cathy. Having been through the mill with my ex over me wanting to be Caty, (but not even in her presence!!!!), I felt duty bound to try to ensure another couple did not go through the same separation/divorce wringer that I did. Not to mention 90% “losing” two “sprogs” in the process.
Life is tough enough without the above “distractions”.
As previously mentioned, Cathy and I have exchanged a number of private e.mails on matters, (not including being CD’s), of mutual interest.
So if ever two Victorian ladies ever show up at Katoomba for TF via light aircraft, (with at least in my case emphasis on the Victorian, tho getting in and out of a light aircraft in a crinoline could be difficult), all present will instantly know their identity
Caty
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Actually Caty, landing a light aircraft would be problematic at Katoomba as I don’t think there are any airstrips in the immediate area.
However, there might be space enough to land a helicopter in the forecourt of The Carrington Hotel.
😉Jenifur Charne
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Jeni,
An old friend of mine has a classic saying, “Thank God we have someone else to blame”. Cathy’s the light aircraft expert, not me!!!
So I’m out from under on that one.
There’s another old saying about the word “ass-u-me”, that’s where I fit into this equation. For those that don’t know this one, have a good close look how I have hyphenated the word.
Caty
Moderator
Quote:It appears that Cathy’s story has run out of steam for now. So I’m closing off this topic before it rambles too far into the joys of flying (or not).
Chapter 2 of Cathy’s coming out can always start a new thread.
