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Forum decorum
At the risk of appearing in the role of school “MA’AM” can I please ask one thing and pass on a bit of advice?
Can I suggest that we use more “I ” statements[as recommended in many communication books and courses] eg “I believe” or “I feel”or “In MY opinion..” etc. This takes away the message that we are dictating what others SHOULD think, feel or do. It merely presents OUR OWN opinion.
Secondly, can I request that those reading these opinions see them as such, no more valid than any others, merely one persons view.
Hopefully a considered, well presented opinion may take some of the venom and misunderstanding out of the Forum that has arisen lately. -
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Quote:Hopefully a considered, well presented opinion may take some of the venom and misunderstanding out of the Forum that has arisen lately.
What “venom”?
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Thanks Christina, definitely words of wisdom that are needed at this time. I agree totally and also would suggest that when people reply to threads they actually read the whole mail, instead of quoting or referring to one sentence which, when taken out of context, can change the meaning!
Christina, nothing school ma’am about it, mind you, if I’m late to class I’ll bring an apple.Quote:What “venom”?Miss-Lina, you’re wonderful. **LOL**
Cheers,
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Quote:Miss-Lina, you’re wonderful. **LOL**
Cheers,
HelenYes, yes I am…
I was merely after an example of said “venom”…
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Whatever venom there might have existed in a thread will probably get culled by the webmistress (and in this instance I think you will find it has)
The best encouragement I can give to people to follow good etiquette such as Christina proposes is to remove threads that badly loose focus and degenerate into destructive comments. Because I don’t want them seen as models of ‘acceptable’ forum communication for others to copy.
I believe that the threat of moderation is often more powerful than there actually being any moderation. But occasionally it appears that I have to intervene to make the threat effective.
Even if this means that I too am at the risk of being labeled a school “MA’AM”
)Amanda
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Well, there was no venom on my end.
I have an opinion, just like anyone else, and I’m honest.
I really don’t see why it was necessary to delete any of my posts, but whatever… -
To clarify..
I wasn’t particularly deleting anyone’s posts – but once a thread has gone off on a tangent my only option is to trim it back to where the plot got lost.
I can however observe that many of the contributions that were made were not on topic or were abusive – but those that were OK, were often guilty by association as they quoted other posts that I felt I had to remove.
Just stay on topic and constructive and I won’t have any need to intervene again. -
I can understand what you’re getting at, and will do my best to comply.
I didn’t notice any posts that were abusive though.
I also feel that sometimes the flow of a thread is more important than staying strictly on topic, from a natural discussive standpoint, but that’s just me…
