Helping and supporting

[Wendy_3]

Hi Everyone,
I’m in total agreeance with Sarah.
When cross dressing and seeking to go out in public we need help & support not only in our appearance (makeup and dress standards) but also to build that needed confidence.
If we don’t support each other then we will remain in the closet forever (that’s Ok, if you just want to be there).
Sometimes we need that extra push to help embark of that journey.
I took the first real step on New Year’s eve and went to a restaurant – yes, nothing said.
For me, it has been a six month journey from being closeted to out in public and I know I wouldn’t been there if it hadn’t be for the support from a couple of girls to who I am thankful to for their contribution to my journey.
Help & support are key factors in our journey.

Cheers,

Wendy

[Anonymous]

Ironic isnt it that in Nov 2004 I posted a message to all trannyradio members that my partner and I were going to host a garden party for those girls who were interested. The party was in Penrith,Sydney and set for Dec.
It was an open invitation for those girls who find it hard to get out and about either due to nerves or other reasons. A chance one would hope to get together with other girls in a social acitivity. A chance,too to chat,socialise and get information first hand…………….We did this for our community,not for our personal benefit. We are both fulltime TS,working in government departments.

Sadly the party didnt happen………….Why you may ask………….
Because TWO girls contacted me….TWO……….one wasnt even from this group. Two isnt good enough for the expense involved….
The invitation was given…………and lack of attention has showed me that it isnt worth our time hosting another…..
You missed the boat………….

Angered,
Monique

[Wendy_3]

Monique,

The point is well illustrated.

Wendy

[Anonymous]

I was once offering to host a venue opnce every 6 weeks, at my expence for those in the closet to come out meet others the same and get together.
I rented a unit in a high rise in surfers paradise twice for the occasion and guess what. Those who called “i definatly want to be there” didnt show up.
I know exactly how you feel.
It is not worth the effort.

[Wendy_3]

Anne & Other Girls,

Obviously another disappointing story that wants to make you give up.

Perhaps we all need to re-start our building at base level – providing help and support at individual rather than a group level.

Whilst I am far from being an experienced CD (from a going out in public perspective) I’m certainly prepared to offer whatever reasonable help and support I can provide.

If we can achieve this inter-action at individual level then we will flourish at group level. Otherwise, disappointment and gloom will be the front runner.

I think, I’ve said enough on this topic.

Cheers,

Wendy

[Katherine_1]

Very sorry to hear of your dissapointment. I live on the Nth Coast of NSW and if there had been an opportunity up this way I would have made the effort for you. Please don’t give up on the girls that are really struggling with their dressing, partners and the like. We all still need each others support and understanding. Love Katherine

[Wendy_3]

Katherine,
I’m not giving up by any stretch of the imagination.

Just making the general observation about help & support which we all need to keep going.

It is obvious that some girls have tried to lift this to a “group level” without to much sucess. We need to ensure that it (help & support) grows at individual level.

Cheers,

Wendy

[Anonymous]

It is pleasing to see a small group of individuals who have our communities best interest at heart………Small though it is………..We can only succeed if we band together…….”this band of sisters”…………

For those of you sitting on the fence…take the chance girls…….your life will be richer for it……….

If someone offers a place to meet,socialise and chat………take the opportunity because chat rooms and the taxi club arent going to make things easier……….

Sadly this community of ours lacks the one good thing we desperately need…………a bloody good PUBLIC RELATIONS DEPARTMENT……….

If we had run with the gays and lesbians all those years ago we would not have to put up with the mentality of the general community today…..

If any girl out there who seeks advice………drop me a line………

Hugzzzzzzzzzzz
Monique

[Anonymous]

Hi -I’m over in Hobart and found it very difficult to even get replies fromj listed Tassie girls.I have two local tg friends who keep in contact but would love to hear from others.
I have a Canadian gg friend who wants to help with dressing service znd venue soon.
Don’t get discouraged about others-I just try and keep the few friends I have and be open to help when I can

Love

Yvonne

[Anonymous]

Hi all ,,, i really shouldnt be writing this but ,,,, i have tried MANY times to help people ,,, and love the idea that i have got someone out for the first time ,,, even to one of my bbqs that got so many girls to come together for a bbq and meet similar girls ,,,,,, taking someone out or helping them is the main aim i continue with seahorse and this site … One thing i enjoyed was helping a girl in Vic to get out for the first time with just some advise and a chat she had her first outing ,,,,, it got a smile on my face……
But sometimes i question WHY judy is trying to save the world as 95% of the time after helping most people you never hear from them again … The bbqs are the same ,,,, very disappointing …
So sometimes i question why i bother ,,, then after 12 days off the net with work i find 4 peoples emails asking abt ,,,,crossdressing and wife ,,, what should i do ,,, saw your profile and can we chat ,,,etc again
So i seem to enjoy helping people but not many girls say hello again

judy

[Anonymous]

judy i am still coming out and it does take time, but without support from a good friend and girls like yourself and the other girls on here it would be more difficult, although i have not contacted any of the girls apart from my friend, i read all that is posted and replys and am encouraged by all that is said. dont be discouraged by not getting any feedback from some that you have helped, you and other girls are helping people like myself and that is what counts most although it is good to get some feedback i must admit. you and the others who care do a great job helping others like myself even though you might not know you do so keep up the good work and take a pat on the back and feel good about yourselves and the work you are doing to help others
regards brodie

[Anonymous]

Hi girls. When the new forum started I used to check it all the time but it was extremely rare for new postings to appear. Now with email notification of new postings we seem to be getting more posts which is great. Monique if I had known of your party I would have gone but alas this is the first I have heard of it. I think that was a major problem getting the word to everyone but now we will all know if it is posted here. My first time out en femme was alone to put a cheque in the bank and pay bills as I could not find any local girls for the support we all need. In November I went out for my first social outing en femme. I had arranged a lift with a friend who backed out at the last minute so had to travel all the way into the city by train, alone, en femme. I had no troubles and a great night out. Due to my cars age and unreliability I don’t travel far from home so haven’t been able to get to a seahorse meeting but hopefully will be able to replace that this year.