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how do you get out of the house – are you recognised?
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Hi, I just made my first venture out dressed to visit another CD friend nearby. My main worry was driving out of the fairly enclosed part of the suburb in my car, a blue MX5 which is fairly unusual and noticeable. I took a deep breath and left with no one seeing me. But once out on the open road I had no problems. Oh what a feeling.
All I can say is go for it.
June
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june – aren’t those mx5s a b!tch to get in and out of though … especially if you are wearing a skirt or dress, and even more so on the passenger side when the car is parked right against the footpath so you have to basically step up to get out! and driving with the top down plays havoc with the wig … which makes for a good incentive to grow the hair and dispense with the wig … but i think i’m getting off topic, unless you can argue that these things make it that more difficult getting out!
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I drive a large vehicle that is sign written with my company details all over it and a phone number. Does this stop me…. not at all.
I agree with what Alice had to say concerning your relationship and neighbours.
If you want 100% to be sure that you are not seen, the only way is… not to go out dressed enfemme, the next safest way is a hotel away from your home area. In my opinion, the best way to go out dressed is to just act like there is nothing wrong and most people will just not notice. No guarantees though
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thank you all you have given me a lot of food for thought,I know that I still hired this secret from my partner is just not time yet to tell.
I am going to try to go to the Christmas party this year at the Imperial Hotel, so I hope to meet you all this Christmas.Penny
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Congrats to all you girls who get out of the house. I am way too chicken to do that……besides the major ground rule from my wife is NO ALERTING THE NEIGHBOURS….EVER. I respect that because we have an otherwise exceptional relationship, ans she allows Tash plenty of girl time.
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I went out again yesterday, first I dorve to a friend’s home to get makeup assistance wearing everything except my boobs and wig, then home completely en femme. No one noticed and I live in a cul de sac with 5 houses and no privacy at all.
The out just before dusk with a friend for a picnic on the river foreshore where we sat for a couple of hours eating cheese and dips and drinking a Kanunga Hill Cab Sav. No one hassled us and the people walking by paid no attention. Just two middle aged (OK I am old) ladies out enjoying the cool of the evening. Fantastic fun and feeling.
June
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Stepping out in public is reaaly rather simple. The key is to blend. Dont do th short mini skirts, massively high heels etc. Dress for the occassion and weather. Like most women would.,, trying not to draw attention to youself.
Up until July 08 I was dressing full time, even to work in the city of perth. catching the train, ordering lunches, walking down the streeet in midday. Funny thing is that if you look the part . hardly anyone really notices you..
Trick is being confident, walk and behave and just do what a women would.
If you have major concerns, a pair of womens sunglasses can help. ( again, dress your age, sunglasses for your age too.
I am 44 and would easily waer a nice black skirt, stockings, heeled boots ( winter) blouses and jakets. Dresses for business made me blend and on the train I would just bury my head in a book. hardly anyone even gave me a second look.
So dont be afraid to step out, it the most envigorating experience. -
Its all confidence, people are conscious about creating a scene and won’t comment on your appearance unless you are dressed in a completely outrageous manner. The more you go out dressed, then the more you become comfortable with going out dressed, then the more you enjoy and appreciate your real self.
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I Agree with all that has been said, yes Helen its all about confidence, the first time I went out I was by myself and was not confidenent, I was walking down the side of the mall, hiding behind my hair, shoulders forward and I heard comments from people that walked passed who noticed, the next day I walked in, shoulders back, straight down the middle the mall with a smile and I just blended in.
The first time I walked into a clothing shop in a manner that I had a right to be there and I owned the room, I was asked if I wanted to try the dress on that I was looking at.
So thats the thing, blend in with clothing styles, and be proud and have confidence, the world will not notice you are the wrong gender, they will notice a woman and will not give it another thought.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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Hello everyone it’s been six months since I last wrote on this subject and since then I made it to the Christmas party I have also been out to dinner with other girls from the club on three different occasions. I certainly agree with the advice of the other girls of blending in, if you act with confidence you blend in so much better.
Also since I last wrote on this subject I have come clean and told my wife about my cross dressing who has accepted me for who I am!
On my last night out with girls from TR it was around seven o’clock when I made my way to my wife’s car, it was quite dark got all the way to the car which was parked on the street to suddenly have someone say from behind me “off to dinner are you” it was my next door neighbour. I said nothing I think I might have harmed yes, he walked past me and straight into his own home. Now I am 5’7″ in my bare feet and 4 inch heels makes me six-foot 1 inch. Now my wife who normally drives this car she is 5’1″, now can my neighbour think that my wife wears 12 inch stilettos I think not. So at this stage of my dressing life I think I have fails getting to the car!
It’s been to three weeks since my neighbour surprise me when I is giving in to my wife’s car, we have waived and said hello and no comment on that night.
Penny.
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Quote:There is so much difference between my male and female appearances that people simply don’t recognise me as the same person.
Another interesting effect is that of stereotyping. If someone reads you as a CD, they’re likely to remember that they saw a CD but they won’t remember details of the person’s appearance.
Alice.Wow Alice, you are so spot on here.
I was reading this thread when I saw that I posted here 6 months ago saying that I don’t do out in public. Well, all that has changed now and just last week I did the walk through one of the biggest shopping centres in North Brissy. What an adrenaline rush.
I am totally confident that Tash is so visually removed from her drab alter ego that no one will ever recognize me. My height is the only thing that gives me away unless you really look at me, so I just act like I own the place.
Can’t wait to do it again.
Cheers
Tash
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Last year my wife and I west out to celebrate someone’s birthday, I was in best dressed mode
My wife started talking to someone we both knew well and the friend asked
“where is *****”Then my wife said right next to you,
She did not recognise me standing right next to her.
Usually if I meet any body I know I just Say Hi with a big smile 😆
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I used to sneak out with guy clothes over my dresses hide car in back yard jump in and drive with sunnies on, then take extra clothes off in undercover car park. Or some times I would dress in my nice undies + guy clothes pack a bag and find a unisex toilet to finish the change. Now I only worry about the car when it is the middle of the day and the neighboure kids are out. I go out day or night now most people dont care the ones that make a point I dont care.
