Ignoring emails

[Anonymous]

I’ve just found this thread, simply while having a look around and after reading Pips’ (God rest her soul) first comment, I would have to agree wholeheartedly. I have emailed heaps of new members who said that they wanted to make friends and meet people etc. I reached out to the “newbies” that lived locally to me judging by their postcode entries and so many just plain straight didn’t reply at all. Pips’ comment has a lot of meaning, the lack of politeness that I received just makes me wonder what some people are all about.

Peta A.

[Kristen_james]

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I’ve just found this thread, simply while having a look around and after reading Pips’ (God rest her soul) first comment, I would have to agree wholeheartedly. I have emailed heaps of new members who said that they wanted to make friends and meet people etc. I reached out to the “newbies” that lived locally to me judging by their postcode entries and so many just plain straight didn’t reply at all. Pips’ comment has a lot of meaning, the lack of politeness that I received

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just makes me wonder what some people are all about.

Peta A.

For sure Peta! I pretty much always reply to people who have contacted me, unless they are obvious “tranny chasers”, & I try to make some kind of connection with them if I can, but many times when I’ve replied to these emails, I get nothing! Is this strange or is it just me? Why make the effort to try to connect with someone & then not follow through? Maybe they realise I’m just not that interesting after all!…………………….no need to respond to that last statement BTW! lol.

I’m with you Peta. I often wonder what some people are all about too!

[Anonymous]

No it’s not “just you” at all Kristen. I’ve met you and yes, you are an interesting person, just like any of us for that matter. The lack of replies does get to you after a while though and if you’re anything like me you do start to question yourself but don’t, you haven’t done anything wrong.

Peta A.

[Anonymous]

Fear is a terrible thing.

Afraid of being caught. Afraid of the “wife” finding out. Afraid their fantasies might be shattered. Afraid they might want to explore further.

So many people live in fear. And they fear the most those who have faced their fears and now living what they think is a mere fantasy.

Don’t worry about those who do not answer. Their reasons are as many and varied as there are colours in the rainbow.

Just focus on those who do reach out, who are truly looking for answers to the questions no one will talk about.

[Anonymous]

Wow what a sweet reply Portia. I do agree with you, there are so many girls out there that are terrified. Some of them will just read post for a long time before they can get a grip of what is happening in there life before they will talk to anyone.

Others may never get their head around it all, so work on the girls that do reach out for help, they are the ones that need our attention and support.

xxx

Kelly Jones

[bee]

I think another plausible reason for some non-replies, is that recipients don’t actually read the instructions in the e-mail and just hit reply, send it and when it gets bounced back, they give up.

[Anonymous]

Dear all,
As a less active member of this site perhaps I can offer a different perspective on the e-mail question. First I should state that I agree that one can can justifiably feel annoyed by not receiving a response to your efforts/thoughts because writing a reply to someone demands at least a degree of sincerity, time and effort to communicate.

Where I might offer some consolation/understanding, and particularly with respect to ‘nubies’ is the fact that many new girls ask for help simply because they are very anxious about themselves as ‘girls’. Consider that a new person joining this site confronts a range of personalities and experience as well as ideas like ‘coming out’ or ‘transitioning’ that may be very unfamiliar/challenging and indeed intimidating for a person exploring themselves and others for the first time. Many people in this category also suffer from low self-esteem at the beginning of their journey and probably feel they don’t know where to start or how to approach someone without exposing themselves and the frailty of their first steps. I have often reflected when considering to comment on some post for example that everyone has more experience, is more ‘out-there’ than I am so what can I say that everyone doesn’t know already. Even for some who have taken the first step the follow up can be a real approach-avoidance conundrum-“how can I admit that I now don’t know what to say to further interest a contacted member?”-or “I’ve bitten off more than I can chew right now”

I suspect that this issue is a bit like the personal photos in that people are probably well intentioned but will also hesitate and make mistakes until they are ready to be themselves. Make your replies brief and be generous.-For most girls remember you’ve been there yourself once upon a time.

[Anonymous]

the last few posts that have come up here since I posted a few days ago make a lot of sense and also when combined with the points that Amanda has moved to the “Bug Report” section help out a lot with trying to get my head around this. I do wish to point out though that when taking the thoughts of new members (nervousness and so on) into consideration, it is the whole reason that I’ve reached out in the past. I was new once as well and to this very day can sympathise with what the feelings and thoughts of any other new member here are likely to be. Maybe the hassle that Amanda identified is a bigger part here than we think so I’m hoping that it was because I’ve never wanted to put anyone off.

Peta A.

[Anonymous]

I have just read all the posts for this subject, I’d like to thank Peta for finding the time to revisited one of Pip’s topics and breathing new life into it.
I don’t think there is one easy answer to the reasons why people do not reply to e-mails some may be from a software problem but all the others can be a host of reasons ranging from fear to laziness.
I do understand Peta’s concerns about trying to reach out to new people and receiving nothing back can be frustrating especially when the people expressed an interest in wanting to communicate as many people have written in their profile.
I know our community can be a very fragile thing, from people who worry about who knows what they’re doing to those who wish to just get out and party. In having people from both ends of the spectrum can make it a very diverse group but at the end of the day simply writing back to someone is just common courtesy.

Penny