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I’m so confused – I dont know what to think of myself
hi all just wondering if anyone could help as i am so confused. I love seeing all you girls on here even more so when im dressed but know that even if we were to meet i would not worry if were still all male underneath like me as that is something we are. Is it wrong for me to want to find another girl and if so have oral sex with her does that make me gay. being dressed with another girl does that make me gay. I dont know what to think of myself all i know is I love being a woman but at the same time know i could satisfy my girl as a man or a woman please any ideas
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I can only comment based on my journey in life and not speak for others. Sexual attraction and the genderwe are or identify with differ so if you identify as female and are attracted to men its mny viw your straight.. if you identify asa crossdresser who is male and are attracted to men your gay as for me im attracted to females so im gay aka lesbian?>> if your attracted to both your bi sexual Do not let your sexual desires get you down as long aswhat you do iswith a consenting legal aged partner
) As i do not know where your at asfar as gender issues ill suggest if your getting confused and its effecting you go see a dr and get help and be proud of yourself:))
may your tomorrows be better than your todays
jess
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Hi Carla. First up, I would like to say that Jessica has put up a really good reply to your basic question so I’m just going to relate a few basic personal thoughts of mine.
In my circumstance, I still like girls and that’s the way that it will stay. It doesn’t worry me about what I’m likely to be perceived as a result of my thoughts in this nature as I know who “I” am and that’s what matters as far as I’m concerned. Having said that, if I don’t end up in another relationship due to my change of life then so be it, no complaints.
The way that I came to my decisions is that yes, I did act on my innermost feelings but also I sat down [and still do] and slowly/quietly thought out my situation. By doing that, I came to a clear decision about me and the rest of my life. If you can do something like that, then by all means do it. If you can’t think it out on your own then maybe you will need to talk to a professional [sorry to put in a downer] to help you realise who and what you really want out of life.
Everybodys journey in life is different, no two people are the same. You are not exempt from this rule so all that we can do is offer you some thoughts/personal circumstances. The best advice that I can offer is for you to take your time and work it out the right way, but in the long run, only YOU can make the final decision on what is the right way for you.
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Hi Carla,
I think too much is made of the am I gay or am I hetero or even am I bi.
It doesn’t really matter, those are just names. One is presumably either a male crossdresser, a transgender female in a male body and perhaps other definitions; I don’t want to get in a discussion over that. So what?
I think you should enjoy sex however it comes, whatever floats your boat as they say, and not worry about tags or names.
I have considered whether or not I would be less gay for having sex with a man while I was wearing a dress or while wearing drab and in the end couldn’t see it mattered.
There are enough other things in this world for we CDs and TGs to worry about.
Hugs
June
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Quote:Hi Carla,
I think too much is made of the am I gay or am I hetero or even am I bi.
I think you should enjoy sex however it comes, whatever floats your boat as they say, and not worry about tags or names.
Hi Carla,
I whole heartily agree with June, without getting into the “pros and cons” of labels, it’s a big “So what” anyway.
I call myself an “A Sexual”..I enjoy sex with both genders and never pigeon hole myself.
With a male, whilst dressed, I am super feminine and will always please my lover.
Same can be said in the role reversal with a lady. Some-times, the roles are crossed and some ladies prefer me dressed…The upshot of this? we all have a good time indeed.
Hey, don’t worry about labels, just have super sexy fun ok? -
Hi all
I do agree with what everyone has already posted.
I just want to add that your gender and sex (who you are attracted to) are two different issues.
I also agree with that the TAGs we give everthing are reallly just that .. TAGS. Gay, straight, bi. I have to to point out that you are attracted to the person and the TAG does not really matter.
Work out your gender and keep sex out of it … everything else then just fits into place.
xxxx
Kelly Jones
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I’m of the opinion that the only tags that really matter, are the ones that describe the size of the outfit I want to buy – and even then, they are not always right.
Unless you are deeply religious does it really matter if you like guys, or girls?
Life is too short to worry about if you’re gay or not, if it feels good, do it. As has been posted before, as long as you’re with a legally consenting person, I would use the try-sexual approach.
I’ll try anything once, and if I enjoy it, I’ll try again.
Before I came out, I had shut out any thought of being with another man, but I have questioned that recently if I’m in female form.
I think at the end of the day for me it’s one of those things to fantasize about, but will never act on.
At the end of the day, no-one here can tell you what to do, each person is different, and has different circumstances.
Honey
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Quote:I think you should enjoy sex however it comes, whatever floats your boat as they say, and not worry about tags or names.
I like this thought
There’s nothing wrong with being a gay dude, there’s nothing wrong with being a trans lesbian, and there’s nothing wrong with being a straight or bi CD. So relax, and don’t worry if you can’t figure out what you are ’cause that question is just not half as important as whether you can have fun doing what you do!
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Much of the confusion on this issue arises from the pressure to classify everyone as hetero, gay or by. Human nature cannot really be sqeezed into such a simple classification. Some guys like women with big breasts, some like them with big bottoms and a few are interested in guys with dresses on. The variery of taste is infinite. No classification can capture this and attempts only confuse the issue.
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Quote:No classification can capture this and attempts only confuse the issue.
I don’t think so.
Bi makes sense to me…a lot more than hetero and/or homo…Bi is totally flexible…
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In the late 50’s and into the 60’s There was an American researcher who went by the name of Kinsey, He developed this lovely graph to describe the sexuality issues. Question did he go far enough? Did he let the pressures that he faced curtail his research? Most likely he thought he’d finished.
But what if you take the Kinsey scale and apply it to Gender as well as Sexuality. As soon as I worked that out, things made a lot more sense. It gave me the explanation that I needed at the time and I still use it.
Also creeds are a lovely thing to live by and they’re usually easy to remember. Mine is simple (and I’ve posted it several times) ” Be yourself everybody else is already taken “
Hope this helps
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Dear Carla, if you’re doing what makes you happy with a person (or people for that matter) that’s happy to share that with you-you’ve got it made.
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thank you all for your comments i have took your advice and i am no longer cared about what i am just who i am Carla and loving it so thanks girls
Carla xxx
