Is TR turning into a dating site?

[Anonymous]

Hi Christina,
No worries. I understand and will withdraw my membership if that is the general consensus. I really don’t want to upset anyone. I am just a quiet genuine person. However, I realise that there must be quite a few lonesome/lonely Tg people in Adelaide and I am extending an offer of a chat and perhaps company.

Do you have any other suggestions about how I can strike up an aquaintance with a x-dresser who is ‘indooors’ ? I really honestly don’t want to upset anyone and if I could find any other contact mechanism I’d be happy to use it (and go away).

In the meantime I don’t think I’m causing any trouble and on the contrary suspect there may be many tg folk who would welcome a chat with a woman that doesn’t mind their tg or cross-dressing.

I sort of get the impression that TR is to help share information and meet people who are tg friedly and oriented. I’m certainly in that boat and am just offering to have a chat with tg guys who may or may not want to have a chat with a woman…. I’m not sure if that is outside the charter or not……………… ?

Cheers,
Chris

[Adrian]

I also don’t want to see TR become yet-another dating site – but on the other hand I don’t want to stand in the way of members finding support and companionship in their journey from others.

The application process makes it clear that you need to be gender diverse to become a member – and just looking for a T-girl is not acceptable grounds to join. This makes it very unlikely that it will develop into a fully fledged meet-up site. There is only one member I can recall who proceeded to post openly looking for a sexual encounter – and that member is no longer with us. I should perhaps make it clearer that this is a gender support site and not a sexual one – and so references to sexuality in profiles are not particularly appropriate.

When Chris joined she was open about both her gender diversity and her reasons for joining. It would be inappropriate for me to repeat this in a public forum but suffice it to say I considered it appropriate that she be allowed to join. And it follows that I support her posting, in a discrete way, to seek companionship.

This is obviously something we need to monitor, and take appropriate action on a case-by-case basis. But there is a continuum between members posting in the meeting rooms that they are looking for places to go, then people to go with, then someone to support them on their journey. Chris’s post is just at one end of that continuum – but if you ban it where would you stop? (that’s a rhetorical question so please don’t discuss it here in this thread!!!!)

[Anonymous]

I have read the comments on this subject and i have no problem with chris being here, in fact if more women join up wanting to make friendships with transgender girls then so much the better, trust me from experience finding a woman who wants to be friends or even in a relationship with a transgender girl is not very common.
So chris…”welcome” and i hope you stay.

[Adrian]

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if more women join up wanting to make friendships with transgender girls

Without being overly politically correct – I think you will find that we have a fair number of members already who identify as being women. It isn’t something new to TR. But thanks for being accepting of diversity in our community.

[Anonymous]

I have no problem with women such as Chris joining TR and if she wants to meet and chat to TG folk ( or do whatever) then that is fine with me and is none of my business. Amanda, you have more information than we and it is up to you who joins TR. However, in the original profile the mention of a certain style of crossdresser viz wearing a suit and pantyhose beneath concerned me somewhat as it hinted at fetish ( again, nothing wrong with fetish!) and I felt that it was a change in direction for TR. I have , in the past had a few emails that implied interest in sexual encounters with me and I have made it clear to those responsible that I am not looking for that ( certainly not online anyway!) but have not made complaint.

I am now satisfied that this trend has been noted and a closer eye will be kept on the tone of introductions in the future and I thank you for that.

[Anonymous]

I am sure most of us have taken on a girlfriend role at one time with a GG.

I have no problem with Chris’ request. I would not say I understand the modern GG but if there is a trend for them to seek us out as partners then why not make an effort to understand requests like Chris’.

I personally think the modern GG who can may be successful in her career and has a bussy lifestyle does see us an ideal partner, where we take on the role of both a female and male partner for what ever reason. That is some of us may like doing the housework so taking on a traditional wife role with a woman.

Are we too caught up in our frocks and high heals to realise by rejecting genuine requests like Chris’ we are just exhibiting our own form of discrimination.

Come on girls why not have a review of Chris request and see what we can learn from Chris and others like her. Ask GG in your life ad see what their views are.

Moderator

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I will clarify one more time. TR does not have, and will not have, a policy of allowing membership from the general population. All members must be gender diverse. This does not preclude either people who associate with being woman and are gender diverse, or those who were born female (GG?) who are gender diverse. It is also policy not to have tick boxes on profiles to pigeon hole what type of gender diversity you manifest. So reader beware!!

I’m moving all this topic now because it has completely hijacked the original request by Chris!

[Anonymous]

“Is TR turning into a dating site?”
Scary thought, don’t think so, no on on here rocks my socks!

[Anonymous]

I don’t feel that TR is turning into a dating site but I will say that every now and then you do see some profiles that suggest otherwise. One of the biggest reasons that I say this is when you see photos that do fit into the guidelines here but still look to be rather “suggestive” if you know what I mean. Quite honestly, a first impression is lasting and photos are pretty much the first thing that you see when you read the “New Members” section. As a result, I think twice if any of the people with a photo of that nature email me wanting to “catch up”.

Having said that, the biggest hassle that I’ve had was from non-members who emailed me as a guest to “link up”. After putting the little footnote on my profile all of those hassles stopped instantaneously.

Peta A.

[Anonymous]

I can not see that TR is turning into a dateing site. I have only noticed the odd pic or comment in a profile that suggests dateing is a prime motive. Personally, I think Chris’s intent is fine – personally I would like to see more gg’s posting on TR. I’m sure that Amanda can and does weed out any potential or actual members who are overt in their postings or profiles.

[Anonymous]

PS – I just had a look through a few profiles of members – and most seem to say that they would like to meet others for support and friendship, so what is wrong with getting support and friendship from a GG rather than a fellow TV orTS?

Personally the best CD experience I’ve ever had was to be able to sit down and chat over coffee with a GG (and her husband – a CD) and be accepted as an equal.

Toni Anne

[Adrian]

I’m closing this discussion down, because, to be quite honest, I find it quite awkward and embarrassing to keep posting reminding members that the terms woman and GG are not generally regarded in this community as synonymous. Yet postings keep appearing which appear to re-enforce the narrow view that desirable women companions are GG. To re-enforce any idea that a gentically born girl is somehow preferable as a female to any other woman is probably offensive to some members of the TR.

So whilst I have no problem in members wanting or even desiring to meet with a female partner I have major issues with the implication that it is TR’s role to provide a forum for such a meet up.

Think it through…
a) Only some women can join TR at present (those who consider themselves gender diverse in some way)
b) If the goal is to provide a forum to meet all women, then TR would have to take membership applications from any woman (presumably what the posters mean by GGs).
c) But if we aren’t going to discriminate on the grounds of sexual attraction, what about all the members who are looking for a male friend.
That means we must allow any man to join as well (including GMs?).
d) The outcome is obvious – the end of TR as it currently exists.

The thread is closed. If you want to discuss how to meet up with the partner of your choice be free to do so in the appropriate forums – but as an issue for the TR Community it is now dead.