Just joined the “Sprung Club”

[June]

Well good luck Caty, did you tell all?

I lost track of the time on Thursday morning and when her indoors arrived home I was in a nice skirt and top.

I proved her comment early last year that every time she went out I dressed to be true. I did not really need the air conditioning for a few hours, it was a trifle chilly. But all seems back to normal.

I really do wish you luck Caty and hope it turns out alright for you. It could be the best and it could be the worst; I will be waiting for news.

[Anonymous]

Caty,

All the very best. My next door neighbour saw Helen last November and has said nothing about it. We still chat and share a glass of wine. Hope all goes well.

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[Elizabeth]

Hi Caty,

No doubt your heart was in your mouth and wished a giant hole would appear swallowing you up. On the other hand such a revelation may be a good thing, at least Caty is now (hopefully) out in the open. Lets hope is goes a positive way.
A suggestion, have her read the Womens Weekly (current) and read Lt. Col. Cate McGregor’s story. Invite her to the Transformal allowing her to speak to others and perhaps SO’s.

Good luck,
Liz

[Anonymous]

Well better jewelry be found than hormones as in my case.
I didn’t really hide them just covered them in a place where I knew they could be found.
Sometimes I think it is a subconsciously deliberate thing people do in order to open up.
You “hide” something with the knowledge it can easily be found.
Anyway I am still with my girl so there’s always hope even in the most difficult times.
Positive outlook and good attitude should bring you all the luck you need I hope.

[Anonymous]

SO FAR SO GOOD

“All quiet on the “Sprung Front” She has an excellent capacity to strip things that worry her from her mind, plus, I had not thought of this, spent many may years in an admin job in mental health where she had to work with and has seen all sorts of medical histories, including I dare say those poor souls troubled by transition.

So thus far this morning, It’s business as usual. And I’m not going to say dicky bird, unless she wants to talk about it.

Me??? I had to hit the “get me to sleep pills” a bit hard, but I know I’ll come out of that. Other family members have put me in that space in the past and I got through, so I will again this time

Caty

PS The irony of having a dream about getting sprung about two night ago, has not escaped me….But in the dream it was my ex. Perhaps that wasa supernatural way of warning me… But regrettably I did not heed it.

[Anonymous]

Caty I have just read your post and I do hope all is well. Interesting comments from some of your other friends here on TGR….the sub conscious that maybe you (we) would like to have it all out there but I don’t think we would ever necessarily leave the hints around unless we were absolutely sure we wanted it out there.

When really thought through…the other woman in our lives is not a threat to our wives and partners, most of us are not looking for a relationship with another person…just that we fear sharing this part of ourselves for fear of hurting the ones we love.

That’s starting to get too heavy. I hope the “SHEDOUIR” will be able to continue and flourish.

Best wishes

Jennifer

[JaneS]

It’s been over 48 hours Caty so I hope all is well on the home front.

My greatest fear was always the thought of being caught out by one of our daughters. As I worked shift work I often had time at home on my own when the kids were at school and my wife was at work. That didn’t stop a couple of very close calls when someone came home early, for various reasons. I managed to survive.

Now that I’m ‘out’, courtesy of a deep, revealing discussion rather than accidental discovery, I no long have that fear. The only sense of being sprung now was one time a postie came to deliver a parcel – poor bloke didn’t know where to look, though he did seem to check out my toes a bit. I hope he liked the colour.

Best wishes with your good lady. Perhaps now there’ll be another aspect of her ‘other half’ that she can get to know and love.

[Anonymous]

Thanks to everyone who has responded so far. Your kind words and support are much appreciated.

I think its was LIz who suggested thus

A suggestion, have her read the Womens Weekly (current) and read Lt. Col. Cate McGregor’s story. Invite her to the Transformal allowing her to speak to others and perhaps SO’s.

Understand your motives here Liz, but she is a very quiet sort of person, (as a good friend of mine says, “watch out for the quiet ones”) and would not want to talk to anyone about my “femme side”, let alone a public gathering of TGR’er’s and their SO’s .

The other reason is just me. As much as it looks like great fun, spending 48-72 hours as Caty just does not appeal to me. Half that is about my normal thing. Much of this centers around having to lock myself up in the house/Sheduioir, I do tend to get a touch of “cabin fever” and of course being “free” at TF would change all that. But having done a lot of the “public stuff” in earlier days, I’m just content to be Caty as and when I can.

The exception is I am planning to try for the Seahorse Ball in Sydney in August. That would only take my usual 24 hrs max and would satisfy just a tiny urge to “do it all again”.

But that’s months away and we;ll just have to see how it pans out. Would I tell my beloved about this??. Probably not…I’m going to come up with a whole list of excuses as to why I need to be in Sydney solo.

If, as it seems, she has just wiped the “sprung time” from her memory bank and everything is going on as normal, why stir it all up again???

Thanks again to one and all.

Caty

[Elizabeth]

Caty,
You yourself know your SO better than anyone so it’s a softly, softly approach. As I’m sure you know for someone who has just found out a new and daunting aspect of her partner it’s a bit of a shock. It takes time to digest and adjust to what she has learned about someone she thought she knew all about.
The quiet ones can well be unpredictable as to their decisions on such news. Give it time, much time, and perhaps your partner will round to accepting the new you or maybe Caty will have to retreat into the depths of Hades for eternity.
Best wishes for your future.

[Carol]

Caty, Others have said this but it really is personal. My wife knows because I told her, our daughters know because she told them and I quickly confirmed it, but many of the steps forward have come because I was caught. All my fault as I tried to manage the depth of their knowledge from:
> he’s a CD
> he does this in public
> he’s changing his body
> she’s trans

Only you can manage the relationship. My experience can’t help. Firstly I’m not you and secondly I’m seriously unsure that my strategy is working. Good luck in your management of your relationships.

[Anonymous]

I got sprung 32 years ago just 3 months after our wedding Still going, though she has her up day and cold ones.