legal exposure

[Anonymous]

Hi Bianca
This a horrible situation for you,and the worst way you could come out. But as Cathii and Vampi said let them do their worst and tell people,or you get in first and tell them on your terms.How vindictive will they seem to your true friends.This isn’t going to be easy but when you come out the other end of this you will be so much stronger and your wife and daughter will look to everyone like sadistic bitter people.
As for the credit cards contact the police as our friends have said and contact the card companies as they will go after them with all the power of the law.
Good luck Bianca I feel so sad this is happening to you ,I hope you resolve this as soon as possible.
Take care Lilly M.

[Anonymous]

I know exactly how you feel. My cat came out of the bag a few months ago and I was lucky, one of the very few I suppose.
As suspected my SO went and told a lot of people. I was devistated. Hey!, no one really bothered about it. She keeps on telling more and more people.
Who did you tell today, Dear? so and so My reply ” Oh! Ok!” and that is it. I could not give a d**mn. Everyone talks to me normally. SO WHAT. No negative feedback.
But then again the people around you are different and in my case all have been worldy conditioned. I am being conditioned as well, A guy with girls long hair, I get looked at, I just ignore. Customers still speak to me normally at this stage.
I can’t speek for you but I recomendations are, Take it light heartedly and in fun. I am sure those who are told have someting in their closet.
Tell them it is a experiment. You ex SO is telling you to get in touch with the feminine side. So I am testing it out.
You never know a friend until they are pushed into a corner. Only then you will know how loyal they are.
Best wishes, Bianca lottasa Hugs
Georgette

[Anonymous]

Interesting term public exposure. They are threatening to expose you to what…ridicule…embarrasment….social ostracism. From direct experience the more you take control, give yourself the permission to be as you are and claim your space, the less likely any of these things will happen. They are based on fear. Fear that paralyses and buys into others (read spouse) distorted perception of who you are. Yes some people will react negatively but if you project positively and just be yourself, mostly it will work out. People can be shocked but if you share with them your suffering and give to them your understanding and compassion at their confusion they will mostly come around. Time you came out girl….take their weapons of fear away…
Having a chat with a gender specialist on the BEST way to come out is probably the best advice I can give.

[Anonymous]

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Hello Girls

With great sadness I need some help;
Firstly does anyone know a girl friendly lawyer in South East QLD (surfers) or some one who can help me – my daughter (24) has come accross photos of me on this site and others; and her mother and her have sent it upon themselves to ruin my life.
They have run up bills on my credit cards that were cancelled, threatning public exposure and humilitation amongst work collegues and friends/ family. They have rang friends already with their claims. I am being blackmailed and i need some answers.
Help please
Bianca

Have you reported the fraud to the credit card company and police? Credit Card fraud is a serious offense. Without your express written permission at the time of a purchase it’s unlawful and a crime. There is no “you have permission to use my credit card whenever you feel like it” and any merchant should check.

As to telling people, well start telling people yourself! I’m sure by now you have all the best lines and explanations for why you should be accepted if needed.

I’ve found no one has rejected me except for people who would anyway and aren’t worth having around in my life who wer ejust using me or my status.

You have nothing to loose. There are plenty of high profile examples to call upon – from Girl Husbands of Politicians to Natalie Imgruglias Cousin!

Be open and honest and share yourself with people who you will find actually will accept you and your dressing without bating an eye.

Oh and Pixar have a Cross Dressing day every few months during their production cycles. So lets get a bit real here

You have nothing to loose and a lot of fun to gain!

You might even find your workmates will enjoy you turning up in a dress

[Anonymous]

Best advice I’ve ever given people and all too often they fail in acting upon:

Go on the Offensive, not the Defensive.

If someone hassles you cause you “ex” told them about you wearing a dress, respond with “See what’s she’s missing out on! She was always a lesbian in disguise and now she can’t have me!”

Of a more indulgent one: “Yep, she kept buying dresses and asking me if she looked good in them, evidently you can see she’ doesn’t, now she’s jealous I look better than her. Don’t you think so?”

You can throw as good as you get.

You could quickly get a list of famous crossdressers and TG’s up your sleeve – Dame Edna for example. There are plenty more.

“Really she told you that – damn my opening night show isn’t for a few more weeks and getting into character is really hard – do you think I look better than Dame Edna? Cause the money She makes is enough for me to have a great life – wanna join me?”