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Living or Existing in the Real World
When I started dressing up and going out in public en femme I was a full time carer for my disabled wife. In the last 2 years I have been thrust back into the real world of having to find a job and have only had the chance to dress twice and depression is my constant companion. I am currently working casual full time and due to being casual have seen a few workers say they need a day off and been told that they need not come back. As I want to work I can not risk loosing my job due to my need to dress en femme and I can not take time off for counselling as the time off may also cause me to loose my job. As a casual they don’t need to give you a reason for firing you. On the weekends I am continually driving my new partner around or working around the house (mowing the lawn in a dress is not a good idea) so I loose out there also. From my previous dressing just throwing on a dress is not enough and I have to go all the way with stockings makeup the works to be as passable as possible. I keep thinking I need to be single again so my weekends are my own and I have no one dependant on me for anything.
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To me, if I were in a situation like that I would wear female clothing for the situation. When mowing a lawn I would wear shorts [fem of course] and top. Dressing up is pleasing but even in female mode we need to get on with life in general as females do as well. Being female would not be glorious all the time. Depending where you are, also depends on how much make up you would wear. I am on property and all this morning I worked in a mini and top, no make up as no one could see me anyway. My hair [my own to the collar] was tied back as female would normally do and that also is satisifying as it is. Distance can hide our faces. Look at the other person view. How much detail would they see at the distace and if you move around naturally they probably would not notice anyway if they were closer. Save time on make up as well
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I understand how Karina feels: If I don’t dress fully including makeup, hair and the whole shpiel then the feminine feeling is just not right. There are days when I am alone at home for few hours and put on heels, skirt and a blouse. It is just not it and I feel a little ridiculous. I might leave my heels on for practice but just cannot continue half-dressed. I also understand Katrina’s feeling about days going by without having the chance to give yourself a complete makeover. It is very frustrating. If I try and break that frustration by “part-dressing”, then one look in the mirror puts me into a bad mood.
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Living/ existing in the the real world?
One need not wear the whole female garb to feel female nor think differently from male. I you wish to, change how you think about yourself: I stopped bashing myself up over the feelings and thinking of myself as a guy and a girl. Not I think of myself a female even if I’m still in guy mode much of the time. I even have started to tick the female box on forms etc, only been queried once and I simply said yes, that’s correct.
Yes the clothing does help to make us feel comfortable, and going full time is not for everybody… but finding the happier compromise is and option for everybody. One of the worst things is to sit at home and get depressed about it all…. get off your bottoms and go out the door, join the local trans community and associate with them. If you go with the intention of finding likeminded peers and approcach with an open mind to friendships etc, then you will find good people in your local area. The world is often too small and too darned lonely to sit at home moping about how wonderful it would be. Instead try to go out and do it!
Celebrate who you are… shout from the roof tops: I am a Tranny and damed proud of it !!!!! If most people ask about me these days, I just say yes, I’m a transsexual and my name is AbbeyJane. Its upto them if they have any hassles, none of my business how they react or think about me.
So, live the best way you can girls, make things better for yourself, talk to others that have been there and done that and are doing it. Get advice and live, embrace yourself and LIVE!!!!!!
Cheers
AbbeyJane
