NSW: Why are there so few pointers about places to go?

[Anonymous]

Adrian wrote:

… the fact is that it is healthy to have close friends who are diverse. The sort of friends who just understand what you are going through and don’t need an explanation of what is going on inside our heads.

Maybe … but maybe not. Our circle of friends and our opportunity for growth are hugely limited if we think this way.

So answer this –

Moderator Deleted…. Please do not ask off topic questions in a moderated forum – NSW – Where to Go. The current topic is to discuss why there are so few pointers about places to go

TG groups and gurlfrinds have there place but we need to think differently about “something going on inside our head”. Our own mindsets are what constrains us and what defines our comfort zone.

Michelle

[Jane]

I tend to agree more with Michelle rather than others on this one.

While I have a number of very good TG friends (Michelle being one) and it is fun catching up I find there is still a tendency for the conversation to return to TG issues, which is needed and often comforting with the similar views expressed; however, I love meeting and talking and chatting to GGs. I feel that I relate more to them. I suppose this reflects to my preference for female company and not male company when I am in Jane mode. Just some more thoughts to add to the discussion….

Jane

Moderator: Please can you ensure your posts have a clear link back to the topic of the thread. Why are there so few pointers about places to go?

[Anonymous]

Speaking of Tranny friendly places ! I was talk into going to such a place but suffered “reverse Discrimination ” in that just so many people came up to our table ( another Tgr member came with me ) and expressed support for dressing ,then asked so many questions that this took a sizeable chunk out of our night – But this was much better than the reaction I could expect 10 or 15 yrs back …
Be aware that you may be smothered with love …
Oh the irony of it all !
Hugs,
Suzz

[Anonymous]

It really is entirely up to us in the community to participate in actives that support the community if we want them to exist. I’m president of the Carrousel Club in Adelaide we meet once a month and we have dinners twice a month at a couple of local pubs simply because new people need someone and somewhere to feel safe.
There are times you wonder if anyone has any interest but when someone in need of a little comfort turns up it is all suddenly worthwhile. Here it seem once people join the community and get connected they find several people who like to go out and suddenly there are choices. This often leads them to forget about the entry point they had.
That is what I really think makes it difficult to establish a regular
haunt and without the diligent effort of some it will remain a common problem. The community lacks social cohesion and is generally selfishly transient. We can easily forget to give back what we have received when we find comfort in our own lives.
SO if you want to see places and events that are gender inclusive it is up to individuals to make an effort to support the things people organise or there will continue to be few options available.

[Deleted User]

Hi. Having been out of touch over the last ten years, as in ‘lack of outing activity’. I am finding this theme very interesting. Once upon a time I was quite active in Victoria, we had two groups, Seahorse and the, sadly lamented, E.B.P. I was fortunate and confident enough to go out a lot, shopping, coffee’ing, I also had a few work colleagues who knew about me and we had girls outings which was also nice.
But after a period of time in a relationship which became less supportive I have moved on and hope to do some catching up. I am meeting new friends via FaceBook and, hopefully, here. I am so gratified to see that there appears to be a lot more outlets. I agree with earlier comments that sometimes we have to make our own way though to ‘spread the word’. I did manage to gird my loins and took to going into shops, no matter how I was dressed, and make purchases or ask to try something on, Anthea Crawford outlet shop in Richmond comes to mind, assistant was pretty cool about it.
I suppose what I am saying is there is nothing like self advertising, looking round for possible places to visit and introduce your self.