Oh! What a feeling!

[Anonymous]

Hi,

Try being a female / girl / woman for 64 years tho perceved as a boy / male. tho a mix would be the better word for me.

They , not sure who they are so i’ll skip that.

The sensual feelings as youv said are in fact just that feelings they,
even with all the trimings dont make one a woman, ether you are born a natal one that of cause means body wise as to haveing a womb one that i dont have,
so to be like a woman is quite different from being one, some of cause have as they say the mind of a woman i was born with both, so how i see things is not in how i dress or all of what you have described. tho nice & lovely dont make any difference to me ,

I can wear any clothes im still a woman regardless,

Each person must know inside what or who they or you in this case are or is, no one any where can tell you, you must find your self or be true to who you are, ,

I knew from age 10 what i was no one ever told me that came from my self , had absoutly nothing at all in reguard to how i was brought up. in fact i was not told i was a boy or girl tho i knew i was both i was left to my self & it was just accepted because i looked like a boy i was one yet that was not the case. as every one knows now & i dont just mean a few 100 or 1000 or so people,

what im getting at is your mind set how you are wired how YOU, see your self not the mirror ether detail this is about what makes you , YOU..all the time,
Try this get out of your girl / womans clothes change in to male, walk down the street how do you see your self are you still a female / woman. just as you were this morning no lovely smell’es, make up or any thing else are you just a male or a woman.

Because i can wear rags or what ever does not change who i am as a woman… see the difference, im a born one not a wont to be one, .

One thing i will say is we who are intersexed dont all have wombs yet does not stop us from being female / woman in the context here,

So things are a bit different for us,

This is why its so important to really know inside who you are,

I agree its nice in womans clothes as to make up very little & most of the time none i dress to suit my self not all dressed up every day , i do things & get on with my life ,

Involved with many groups women only as well. meeting people talking & yes still do my trade , yes im a trained builder. plus other things iv done i am who i am & just accepted for who i am & known as noeleena.whos got a interesting background,
& we all come as different, ]

…noeleena…

[Anonymous]

Yes, you’re absolutely right, Noeleena.
Those of us whose brains are wired as female are women no matter what we are wearing.
I work as a man, but I walk up and down the corridors of my hospital knowing that I am woman inside. I practise walking, talking, standing and sitting as a woman, and I am woman when I am caring for the desperately sick patients in the intensive care ward where I work.
And they respond to me as they would to a woman who is able to give loving compassion and motherly words of encouragement.
I had occasion to work in the Mothere and Babies ward for a while, and after two days I was overjoyed to hear the young mothers call me Mum…while dressed in trousers and work shirt.

Thank you for your reply. I understand that it’s not what we wear, it’s who we are.

Love Clare

[Anonymous]

With all respect to those who cannot step aside from the gender duality trap, I don’t think it does our cause any good to adhere to the man/woman/male/female divide.

Sure, those who have won the genetics lottery and can present as a natal woman and fit in to the ideal image of womanhood , are top of the tree. For most Tg folk this state, however, is only achieved in fantasy. This marginalization of the majority, even within our own community at times cannot be a good thing in our quest to be recognized as a part of the wider general community.

All humans have both male and female elements. In this case male and female do not exist, we are an amalgamation and if we ( as humans) could just realize this and live as human BEINGS ( note that this word is a verb , a doing word. Mostly overlooked in our search for a definitive fixed -noun- answer to who we are) , we could achieve the heights of strength, softness, compassion, nurturing, reasoning -in fact the full gammet of human attributes.

Why do we continue to limit ourselves to a narrow expression of human nature in our quest for “womanhood”. Why don’t we broaden our selves and set an example to our peers that they too can be more whole and ” real” in the world.

Nature is not fixed, it is a curvy, blurred, perverse and miraculous process. To choose to be a fixed point in this moving process is the cause of human misery IMO.

[Catherine]

Christina and Clare have both made very realistic comments about our community, and the need for us, individually, to search out; who we really are.
I for one, would be in a completely different place today, if I hadn’t been railroaded in my earlier years by the grossly inapt, misleading, perverse and bigotted labelling that pervaded our community, and to some degree, lingers today.
If the correct information about my womanhood was available, I would be a far more effective and contributing citizen to our entire society.
And the evidence continues to flood in each day. The ABC Stateline ACT programme indicated the Canberra group are receiving 100’s of calls from people absolutely sick and tired of living in denial for 40, 50, 60 and even longer years. As they said,”And this is only the tip of the ice berg”.
Well Canberra is not an isolated case, NSW Gender Centre is being inundated with similar requests for support and information.
It’s time we all ‘got real’ and looked at ourselves in the naked light of ‘who am I – really’. Smash down the walls of denial and start living the life of who you were destined to be. Don’t live a life of abject misery attempting to fulfill the expectations of everyone you know. Disappoint them now and get it over and done with.
Just look at the breathe of fresh air moving through the US, where parents in urban and rural communities are actively supporting the gender correction of their siblings. WOW!! Try that 30 years ago, and you would have been thrown out of home, like I was. So much for unconditional parental love.
Time for us to make a stand. Just remember, womanhood or manhood (whichever side you are) starts from within. It then radiates out exponentially allowing each and every individual to reach their desired goal – if they so desire – Embrace it, Enjoy it, It’s – YOU –

Be safe, well and happy
Catherine

[cathybch]

hi clair it seems we are both from the same unerverse i have experinced the same feeling that you have and dosent it make what we do so much special i am picturing you with your eyes closed and being at one with your self lovley of you to share it with us girls hugs Cathy