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relationship between behaviour and sexual preference?
I am not sure is this the right place for this question.
What is relationship between masculine/feminine behaviour and sexual preference.
That is for example in genetic males, how does feminine behaviour relate to homosexual preference? Are there any relationships or is it the same as in the general population.
Does anybody have any acurate statistics.
I can imagine a homosexual male with an extremely strong male self image, he would look and behave very masculine. Could this be the more common situation.
On the other side I can imagine a lesbian wanting a gentle, intimate relationship with a person who conforms with her internal image of how someone should look and behave. A transgendered fella bordering on transsexual might be her perfect match
On a personally level I was always given the gay label but my focus was on the far end of female, so much so I had a bit of difficulty relating to other boys. My partner has told a few friends that she thought I was gay before we got together although I find this a bit funny and sometimes act it up a bit at times.
Crossdressing requires so much attention to women it must be very very difficult if not painful for a gay guy to cross dress. For the hetro guy it is concentrating on his favoutite subject women, as he looks at how women dress, talk, act, walk and look.
Could someone be so hetro that they are so attacted to the opposite sex they want to become the opposite sex (autogynofilia?). Just an idea .
In finishing does any body have statistics on feminine behaviour relating to homosexuality in males. I tried the web but it was like looking in the tip all I could find was smelly rubbish.
Thanks
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Vicki – If I could open this response by quoting Rachael Wallbank in an article from the Melbourne Age (I have posted a reference to this elsewhere in this forum). Racheal says most acurately – “Sexual identity is determined between the ears, not the legs”.
Firstly I should be open and say that my comments are coming from my pan-gendered point of view.
There is a good deal of confusion between homosexuality and gender issues and the reality is that neither are mutually exclusive. I have gay friends who are very “feminine” but don’t dress. I have CD friends who do not make love to guys. I have friends who do all of the above – so hows that for clouding the issue?
I have seen some excellent articles on this subject on the web and I will try to find them and post the links.
In the meantime try to think like Rachael – it helps.
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As i said before I am trying to find the statistics so I have the data to correct the misleading stereotypes.
The problem is nobody wants to talk about it.
That is why the lies keep getting circulated.
To solve a problem it must be aknowledged, seen to be a problem,looked at and talked about.
If it is kept as taboo the truth will never come out.
on the lighter side
At the few last outing I went to the guys who were not crossdressed where homosexuals
This could be a good subject for a stand up commedian: to get the true message out.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
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Quote:Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
Remember do not shoot the messenger.
OK Vicki – I won’t. I think its a fair question.
I don’t think there is much of a correlation between gender preference and sexual preference. In relation to their genetic gender, TGs seem to be ‘heterosexual’, ‘homosexual’, ‘bisexual’ and ‘asexual’. Further some seem to be quite adaptable depending on how they are dressed.
From what I have observed through my life TGs seem to be more adaptable – or perhaps simply more open to changes in their sexuality. In my own case when I was a teen I was 100% sure I was hetero. In my 30s after a failed marriage I was sure I was asexual. Now I think I’m probably weakly bi.
Also I think the ‘feminisation’ process that seems to occur with many TGs often includes a need to form a relationship with a man at some point. It is the ultimate expression of femaleness – well apart from being a mother.
On gays – I think there are heaps of macho masculine guys who are gay. And judging by the number of admirers around lots of ‘hetero’ guys who are into girls with that little bit extra.
Fiona xx
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Great topic Vicki. I have a couple of comments. Firstly is why does everything have to have a label or fit into one category or the other. I consider myself to be a, well gee, what am I? I am a guy who likes to dress as a woman. In boy mode I am fairly masculine, in girl mode I like to be more femm than slutty, and dress in smart casual/office wear in pastels and pinks. Lately I have been interested in meeting another Cd to explore my feelings and sexuality in that area. My partner says I want to have sex with a guy and I say NO I don’t. But then she says that I do and I see her point. Just because they are wearing sexy lingerie and a pretty dress doesn’t take away their male bits and that is what I want. So where do I fit in? Am I a CD, a Tranny, Trans Bi sexual, do I have gay tendancies or just a weirdo with a problem???!! We come from a group of people who are as diverse, with different emotions and outlooks as the rest of society. I am not out (YET,very soon tho) so I may not be qualified to talk about this, but these are my thoughts on the subject.
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I think you are fully qualified to talk about it.
I know it is very difficult to understant why we have these desires.
One thought was ithat you could be so attracted to females you want to be one.
On the other hand I find i tend to mirror the company I am with.
Masculine in the company of men although i do not feel very comfortable and feminine in the company of women.It just seems right to me to be soft and gentle in the company of women. this could also be why I had such difficulty strating relationships until reciently I found someone who like a guy who loves being soft, gentle and caring.
The reason I posed the original question was when I was younger most people thought I was homosexual because I was not very masculine but very heterosexual and wondered if this is a lot more common than people expect, in fact I wondered if masculine/feminine behavour had nothing to do with sexual preference and needed some data on it.
The subject appears taboo.
How many young boy are given ridicule and insults due to less than masculine behavour, called gay although they are very heterosexual and are just what the girls want even if they dont realise it till later in life.
Vicki
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You will find many hetro guys who want to experience being with a tranny and they can’t explain why. Maybe its because women nowadays mostly wear less makeup, slacks or jeans, have short haircuts and have lost that feminine alure. On the side of sexuality with trannies most don’t know themselves. I myself am curious what it would be like to be with a guy but I don’t find myself attracted to guys so I believe for me its more about being made love to as a woman more then wanting to make love to a guy. So if I am not attracted to guys I am not gay but if i want to be with a guy I am. Trying to work these things out you will keep going around in circles so why analyse just go with the flow of what feels right with you.
