Telling my wife – what should i say?

[Anonymous]

Hi Emily, I am sorry to hear that you have found ( or put!) yourself in this position. It is a very hard situation and in my opinion the only way ahead is to try and negotiate a place for Emily within your marriage. As you no doubt know , this stuff will not go away, you can be Trans and NOT express it ( and probably be a miserable person) but it is (IMO) not possible to not be Trans. You are what you are.
Remember that your wife is probably angry with you mostly for deceiving her ( maybe more than your being Trans) she is confused and fearful of her future. You have lived with it for years and may or may not have come to terms with it ( maybe not if you are still in the closet!), she has just discovered this in her life. She has to have time to come to terms with things and she may come to understand your point of view. TALK to her and be honest with her. Try and see a therapist together .
I am sorry if I am blunt but there is no time now to muck about. Good luck, I hope you can work out some resolution to this problem in your lives.

[Anonymous]

I agree with Christina, Emily. If you want to have any chance of staying happy/married then you will have to sort this out with your wife. Seeing a therapist or someone in a neutral position at the bare minimum will probably be a good move I think too. Don’t procrastinate with it either, you will end up with a big “festering sore” if you do I would suggest.

Peta A.

[Anonymous]

there’s not much I can add to what has been said, but I know telling my wife about my cross dressing has been the best thing for me. We both know where we stand in our relationship but I have no interest in going full time that’s the big difference between us.

If you don’t start talking now and you keep hiking its only going to get worse. So put your cards on the table and have a good heart to heart talk to your wife. Just remember she didn’t marry you to end up with a woman instead, it’s only fair to talk about this issue.

[Anonymous]

Hi Emily,

What Penny, Peta and Christina have mentioned is absolutely true. The more you procrastinate it, the more you will regret later on… I know this is easier said than done: telling your wife the truth and reassuring her of your love for her is the best way foward. Only when the truth is laid out in front of you, can both of you work with it. Best of luck and keep us updated.

Hugs
Kirsty

[Anonymous]

All of these girls have been where you are and they are correct. This will never go away, the feelings you have about dressing will only get stronger and consume you if you dont watch it.

You need to seek a gender specialist / phyc and get your self in a happier place. They will help you understand and will also help you with your wife. She will have her issues as the other girls have explained and you need to either find some middle ground or move on.

This will be your darker time, but there is light at the of the tunnel, there are so many girls here that have been there and are now a lot happier.

Lots of hugs and luck.

xxx

Kelly Jones

[Anonymous]

Hi,I can only agree with what all the other girl’s have said….this is not going to go away,and you need to get together and talk the situation over with the help of a therapist or the like.procastinating is only going to prolong the difficulties that you will both face in regard to what you want to do..best wishes to both of you,and I hope that you work things out for the better.

[Anonymous]

Hi All
My wife and i have been talking again Yah.She has excepted that i dress but wants me to sort myself out and get back to her with a proper answer about transitioning, as long as i do it in private and she doesnt know about it lol. Apparently she looked a website up that was very helpful to her but dont know what? So yer sorting things out but still a very long way off, cause i really am considering transitioning to be female??? full time????

Thanks Everyone for all your help
Love Emily