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The right message?
I think it fair to assume that most of us here understand the feeling of being different & also the almost inevitable feelings of isolation & self doubt that can be a consequence of such difference.
But I ask;
Is it really helpful to constantly remind people of their difficulties? Most in the helping professions would say no.
Is it really necessary to remind others, who for whatever reasons, are having relative success in living their identity publicly, that their path is easier than expected? As one of those people I would suggest that any person would become frustrated when others wish to ‘make sure you know just how lucky you are’. There is no benefit to anyone in pointing out that an (apparent) minority of people within an already minority group are actually doing O.K.
Is it possible that those who are (contrary to their own expectations) succeeding in being publicly understood, may actually have something worthwhile to offer, even if that is simply hope.
It might be worth noting that often those who are encouraged by knowing that someone is succeeding, let it be known privately, whereas without exception, those who wish ‘let it be known how ‘lucky’ the person is’ do so publicly.
There is a message in there.Moderator
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It’s a lot like depression Chloe. Those most in need can’t see that they need help. There is a certain comfort in being depressed. And maybe one of the reasons why many complain about the link between GID and depression.
I am one of the “lucky” ones. It took me a long time to stop feeling sorry for myself and into realising that I am the only one who could do anything about it and plucking up the courage to do something.
I tried several times to commit suicide but obviously from a deeper subconcious level managed to successfully fail. Cries for help that always went unanswered. Hospitalisation, drug therapy and counselling could only edge me closer to the core of my problems but never solve them.
So what we see here are a bunch of people on many different journeys. Yes, there are the “lucky ones” who for whatever reason have arrived at a point where they are comfortable (or at least unable to see any benefit from changing their current situation). I would challenge anyone who is not “happy” with their current situation to be brave enough to be honest with themselves as to why they are not. Why can’t you change your situation? Why can’t you work towards a goal where you can be happy?
The journey is never easy. The solutions are never easy. Life is always a compromise of sorts. Anyone who thinks that someone else has it all has never got to know that person on a deeper level. Is it any wonder that the “lucky ones” walk away and just live their own lives as best they can.
