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The Sex Problem
I thought I’d start another thread on this topic as my previous comments in the Community thread look like a bit of a hijack.
Is the main hurdle to TG mainstream acceptance, unity, etc. the fact that the TG lifestyle is associated (perhaps unfairly) with sex? Sexual orientation aside there seems to be a perception that Transgender people are aggressively sexual. Why is this?
Within the community the only time I’ve really seen people get overly passionate is when sex is somehow involved. Be it discussions on sexuality, preference, dealing with sexual advances, etc.
So is it true?I see 3 possibilities:
1. the transgender experience partially has something to do with sex (being different from “normal” desires)? For some it is more important than others but it is still linked.
2. Humans are all sexual beings so sex is important to everyone. The real kernel of Transgenderism not related to sex and things like autoerotic behaviour are manifestations of a deeper, profound gender confusion.
3. The term Transgender is too broad. Members of the community are genuinely different (perhaps some fit into category 1, some into 2, and more categories might exist).
Ok – The politically correct amongst us would pick (2). But why?
Is it because Sex is “bad”, dirty, and sinful – not worthy of being a causal factor? Is society clouding judgement here? I don’t really know.I’m not putting forward an opinion here on 1,2, or 3, just asking some questions. What I can say is that I think a lack of quality information/discourse on “The sex problem” is one of the main issues facing Transgender people today.
Luv
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Hexa, are you perhaps confusing sex with sexuality? Everything we do , think, say and experience is about our sexuality. We ALL have one. Even a hermit in a cave who denies himself the ” sins” of the flesh is expressing his sexuality, if not the sex.
As for sex itself I for one prefer not to hear about the sex experiences and preferences of others ON THIS SITE. Perhaps a special {sealed!}
section where people can express these things would be a good thing but I think ones masturbatory or erotic practices is a private thing and not for others to read HERE.
I sound like a prude or wouser , I am not. I could shock you…but I’m not going to! -
By the way , I have come to identify myself as Transgendered purposely because it is a broad term that allows me the variety of behaviours that is my life. Transvestite was too narrow as was Crossdresser….don’t take that away from me , then I have to go back to ‘ QUEER’ which , though I find it acceptable, can have nasty connotations if ‘spat’ at someone.! TG is a description more than a label.
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Quote:Is the main hurdle to TG mainstream acceptance, unity, etc. the fact that the TG lifestyle is associated (perhaps unfairly) with sex? Sexual orientation aside there seems to be a perception that Transgender people are aggressively sexual. Why is this?
Cause many TG (m2f) are aggressive sexually! They still have a lot of Testosterone and act upon it! So the perception in the stereotype is that a TG is sexually aggressive.
Probably explains why when I go out to a range of venues I get asked by guys if I want to suck their noodles. Not something I do.
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Hi Hexa, I am inclined personally towards 2. I enjoy sex with both men and women, find it fulfilling and wonderfull but it doesn’t have anything to do with me being transgendered. Being transgendered does affect the way I express my sexuality though. Is there an erotic element to being transgendered? We all know that for many people tyhe answer is yes. Does this make us different? We are all different in some way. Although psychs love to categorise us the entire community (that word again) is simply to diverse to categorise simply. To top it off many people including myself change over time. I have experienced earlier autoerotic episodes of crosssdressing which for me intensified and lost the erotic element to the point where I had to seek counselling to find out what the hell was going on with my life. A couple of years later I am living full time as a woman, on hormones, have a significantly reduced sex life and I am very very happy. So what am I? I don’t care anymore. I am just happy now being me, wherever that takes me. And I don’t have a sex problem or a problem with sex!!
Gwen
