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trans experience
This is an article I wrote a month or two ago wasn’t sure where to place it here seems like the spot.
A life denied
Trans experience is ultimately about difference and everyone who is trans has a different experience so is it any wonder we have struggled to draw attention to our needs. When you have an infinite diversity of experience and attach a myriad of personality and opinions there is unlikely to be a clear picture of any specific need.As a group we have a stream of experience that does join us if we choose to see it and it is what the makes me and everyone else who lives it transgender or gender divergent. We are born into a world of two genders and from the very start we are directly told which gender we are. We are dressed and treated specifically to suit the gender we are supposed to be. This is a world that has condemned contradiction of the binary gender division and persists in perpetuating it’s myth.
In the event you challenge thisthe vast majority of parents will direct or coerce you to conform to the accepted rules, they want you to be accepted. It is rarely anything other than a parents attempt to protect you from the ingrained oppression of the society they have come to know. It is for gender divergent children a massive pressure, being someone you really aren’t is extremely hard work.
For those of us who grew up with such pressure and who accepted the role imposed on us we carried a weight unimaginable to any but those who live it. You act a part for society and you give up the truth of who you are and your oppression of your true self also suppresses your real feelings.
You live a life that is incomplete the life of another the world wants , another whom most often you despise. Yes the reason we are often touched by depression and suicide is oppression, self oppression brought on by a life full of ignorant social pressure.We are taught to hate ourselves, thanks world for the support you give for us to engage self loathing to become depressed and ultimately too often exit life to escape your ignorance. It is tragically true that the experience we have is ultimately unique and gender is still seen as male and female even by many in the trans community. So deeply ingrained into the software of our minds it seems impossible to remove. It is not, that is a choice not to think about others, like the many other choices we make to ignore the suffering of others it allows the arrogant and self-righteous to perpetuate the oppression of those who are wrong in their veiw.
I know that many people in the LGB community try to support and promote issues facing the gender diverse community but as much as you have faced your own social pressure you are still true to your gender. The voice of the trans-gender diverse community must be an unfiltered voice from the community not under the influence or control of an outside group.
As you’ll appreciate binary identity even in the trans community makes it difficult to negotiate a unique and united voice but outside interests have no right, reason or place interfering in its establishment or what it has to say. If you are not gender diverse we will always appreciate help and support but never appreciate interference.
Having been denied our own lives we will no longer be denied our own voice.
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1 Reply
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Kristyana
Great writing. I wish I could write so.
What you said covers me and I guess a lot of other folks.
Oppression is a weight that I as a mature adult can handle but it is a crime when we oppress the young for being who they are. Binary is crap. Let’s not be categorised – let’s be free to be who we are.Juliette
