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What are your needs in TG Land!
Wandering around in my mind today I came across an interesting thought, ‘What do we all want out of this Transgendered life we lead’
This is an open ended subject as it can cover serious needs and fun ones as well.
For myself I want to be comfortable and relaxed in whatever clothes I decide to wear on any particular day, but in the main I prefer normal everyday attire male and female, although I want to be at least in 50% female attire at any one time. As a young boy underwear was one of my main interests but I think that was due to size and the availability more than a perfect choice.
So what I am asking is, is your desire to be a serious TG/TS and live the life of a woman, do you just like to dress occasionally and go out, do you just want to wear a schoolgirls uniform or a French maids outfit on occasions, are you into latex or leather wear or is your interest just restricted to lingerie and exotic items of apparel?
Whatever you really want out of this life we, have please share it with us, it may help to give everyone understanding of the variety of membership we have in these forums. Noone should be criticised for whatever desires they express as I am sure everyone here has travelled many different roads to arrive at the place they are now.
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Since I only accepted this part of me and then came out to my wife a few months ago, when I really work it out I will let you know
But for the moment I very much enjoy trying out different styles of clothes depending on the occasion and my mood.
Sometimes it will simple be fashionable attire that you will see on any well dressed girl in High St. Other times I love going out with a short LBD, blond wig and killer heals. And the. Late at night I love a tight corset with sexy pull ups.
So I guess for me I am happy living a half life as a woman, although I do really really hate taking the wig off and long for the next time.
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I think this is an intriguing question. When I first started dressing I would have definitely said the need was a purely physical thing, the feel of soft, sheer fabrics on my skin etc. However, as I have come a way down the road now I feel is more than the physical feel, it has become me being Helen, dressing in a smart, elegant manner. Buying and owning my own clothes and dressing to be the woman, wearing make up and just melding into society as a woman.
As I have grown older I have started to cherish every hour I am Helen and I suppose my present needs are being Helen and having quality time as Helen.
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Hi,
What do i wont . nothing really ,
its more about what i have & been given, so this is quite different,
I’v been given so much & thats not about clothes, or what i wear , this is about friendships love kindness & being looked out for, & being accepted .
I have all i need from those who are of ( here ) at home where i live in Waimate, our community with in communitys, no matter what i do or where i go, people become my friends,
As to clothes i’ vbeen give some lovely clothes i can wear & others i make as a member of our different groups as was done this week end some 150 of us the weekend was about Scotland in the south, so we were dressed in our finery,
& as a Scot i enjoyed what i wore & its about our past , now , & future,
We had a lovely neat time together,So what do i need only my friends,
…noeleena…
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Having the good fortune to have both Cathy and Helen as good TGR friends, I can take a small portion of what each of them have said on this matter.
The rest??? Whilst I am happy with my “semi regular” chances to be Caty, (stinking hot weather at the moment notwithstanding), it would be great just to be able to “slip into something more comfortable” when I felt the need to do so.
But my personal and physical location circumstances, just don’t allow for this and are not likely to for the forseeable future. I can however, take comfort in the knowledge that I had lots of Caty time in “days of yore”
Like Helen, there was the initial physical and mental buzz from wearing all those lovely soft feminine materials, but now as I get further into “mature age”,when I’m dressed and made up, it just feels “right”. IE., it is a part of me and it will never go away.
But like the pollies are want to say, “having said that, let me say this”. I find that a maximum of 36-48 hours of Caty time is quite enough for me.
I have many and varied other interests that are best conducted in male mode and if I’ve managed some quality Caty time, happy to put all her gear away in its hidey hole until next time.This leads me to think of all the lucky ducks going to TF, (that’s you two Cathy and Helen!!, Me jealous.???. NEVER!! )
But against that I’m not sure if I could go the full 48 hours plus in femme mode
Last but not least, perhaps not on the same personal face to face level as Noeleena, I greatly value the on line and phone friendships I have made through TGR.
Thanks a million Amanda for being such a great facilitator of the above
Now if this *&*^%$ hot weather down here in Vic would just kindly take itself way, way, out into the Tasman, I may get the chance to “practice what I have preached” above.
All the best and happy (cool) dressing
Caty
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I think I would like to be happy. I would like to wake up one morning and enjoy the kind of experience my partner has, as she get dressed, applies her make-up, gets ready for work-asks my opinion-“is my foundation too dark”-“what do you think about this top”, “is it too revealing” “do you think these shoes go with this”. A endless list!. “Darling you look beautiful”. Then reality check, as I put on a pair of grey pants, white shirt, black shoes for city work, or green hi-viz shirt, a pair of workers, and steel capped boots for the bush.
I guess I would really like to indulge myself, and give my partner opportunity to say “I don’t think that top goes with the boots”. Rather than ” that shirt needs ironing”
Ruth
