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What is wrong with these people!!!!
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Now, this acceptance malarky is getting WAY out of hand!!
On Saturday I left a letter for my new manager, outing myself as he is the only one in the office that I have not come out to and I hate hidden agendas. I apologized if I had been confronting to him as he is ex army…. yadda yadda.Today he said ” oh, I got your letter, thanks. I have no problems with you wearing what you do.” Then he went on to say that his 2 brothers are gay and they have lots of TG friends and so he is familiar with all that stuff.
I will have to get used to the reality that all my fears were mostly baseless. Where will it all lead?
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One of the major milestones on my journey was when I stopped concentrating on trying to “pass” and just enjoyed the experience of being dressed. Once I’m out I don’t care what others think. However I do try to avoid what could be a confronting situation such as a group of teenage lads or 20 year olds with a skin full.
Young children can also pose problems and are keen at spotting ” that’s a man over there”
Experiences such as the Opera Bar and Carrington where staff and other patrons don’t turn an eye or are chatty and friendly build self confidence and show that we can blend in socially as good as any GG.
There is nothing wrong with vast majority of people, it’s just the vocal minority that stir things up or mock us to have some so called fun at our expense.
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Fay wrote:However I do try to avoid what could be a confronting situation such as a group of teenage lads or 20 year olds with a skin full.
Young children can also pose problems and are keen at spotting ” that’s a man over there”My continual fear factor were groups of teenage girls. I have found that in a group they can be quite feral. One afternoon I was in Melbourne and walked out of a car park in the CBD and a horde of them were sprawled all over the footpath waiting for a bus. Luckily I was moving too fast, like a gazelle fleeing cheetahs. **LOL**
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Claire, did the same thing last weekend came out of shopping centre to a group of school girls, and head down whisked past them only to get stopped by trolley man with a snake of trolleys, so thought here goes the comments, but nothing they missed me.
But don’t know how many times I go out and put my head down so as to not make eye contact, and when you do look up no one is looking.
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I love to go out en femme and the most heart breaking thing that has happened to me was a mother in a shopping centre who “made” me as I stopped to let her pass she grabbed her young daughter and pointed me out and said stay away from them queers they should be locked up. It is sad to think that a young mind was poisoned. But head up shoulders back be proud and be who you are and thankful this is 2015. Julie
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I would have replied ” I was locked up but I escaped!! Boogitty!” Call their bluff I reckon or you empower dickheads to keep up their ignorant rants. It is fine for people to believe whatever opinion they wish but they have no right to share it with you in public unless they are invited.
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I agree with everyone who has posted, I have been dressing regularly at least once a week, and have a regular guy I meet and spend a night with each week, and we go out every night we meet to tea, I don’t even worry about how if I pass as he tells me before we leave that I look great, gives me real confidence because he wouldn’t lie. I am 67 and dress conservatively but fashionable, I have mastered many of the female ways, and I hardly get a second glance unless I wear a short skirt with my high heels as apparently I have sensational legs still. I find that those that might have an inkling about me being a male don’t seem to care even when my voice is a bit of a give away, as being with my guy seems to throw a bit of a question to them as they are not really sure, next week we are going to Dracula’s in Melbourne for our night out, I was recently encouraged at a pub to get up for a karaoke number by my guy of all people, well I did my best and got the most amazing reception from about 100+ crowd, I felt so amazing getting down off the stage, as I had a short skirt on and must have shown a bit of leg, but got lots of whistles and to top it off my guy got up and kissed me, and walked me back to our table, lots of people came up to congratulate me for being brave enough to do it, and nearly all of them complimented on how well I conducted myself in the karaoke. Its good to know that things are changing, I feel so much better now about being a crossdresser and am not afraid to go out dressed anywhere, I too have passed the dreaded school kids bit, but one thing I always do is look everyone in the eye, I have found that to be the most challenging them for them to deal with, always with a smile and as softly and gentle a voice I can muster if they talk to me I answer, it appears to work for me at least. I hope that this helps in this discussion. love to all Rachel
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Christina wrote:I would have replied ” I was locked up but I escaped!! Boogitty!” Call their bluff I reckon or you empower dickheads to keep up their ignorant rants.
I’m not sure if you are serious Christina but all that would do is confirm her fears are well founded. If it is possible to respond without creating a scene that drags other people into the confrontation mine would be “I’m sorry that you feel that way when I tried to help you by stopping to let you pass.”
Aggression isn’t an antidote for fear and prejudice.
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I know that the reply suggested by Michelle is probably the best course of action. A confrontation only feeds into their already super bigotry. Making such a person feel like a deflated balloon would make them think and think twice. It’s a pity there such people around but education, education and even more education will eventually sway their opinion.
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Julie, I believe that people who behave like that have something in their background which causes this fear. To my self I think she is probably jealous as I have bet ter legs, or she had a cd in her past who most likely got more attention than her. Either way, SHE is the one with the problem, and I can really about how well grounded the poor child will come out
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I am sorry but I am serious…well, perhaps not the Boogitty bit but anyone ignorant enough to say that to their child, never mind to me , would be a candidate for my sarcasm. I don’t care if they became more entrenched in their bigotry. I have spent my life worrying what other people may think of me but the dickheads are now beyond my concern I am afraid.
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The only trouble with confronting the mother apart from it being in a busy part of the store was that it would of justified her comment in the eyes of her daughter that it wasn’t a nice person. Sometimes discretion is the better part of valour no matter how frustrating
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On Sunday I turned up at the local tip to dump my rubbish with my hair done in a roller set 60’s style and makeup( that I love to wear) as it was a nice day for an “outing”. The woman at the tip said ” My God, what have you done to your hair?” and I replied” I just woke up this morning and it was like this!” which was absolutely true as I did it the night before and I wear a scarf to bed to hold the curls till morning. She just laughed and we did the rubbish business.
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As that speaker on TED X said “OWN IT” .. IMHO Confidence will power you through any seemingly difficult situation
