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What’s in a name?
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Hi Abi, one of the few things about being trans* is that you gt to choose whatever name you feel you want or like. Usually our parents give us a name that they like and that’s it. Make the most of it.
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Thanks for that. I don’t want to keep changing names so will take my time picking one I am happy with !
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That’s something i thought about several times.’Tried on’ 2 or three names, but none that particulary ‘fit’.
It was literally by accident that I came across what felt right. About the only change was a middle name about 2 yrs ago.
I didn’t have any parameters or criteria in mind, tho i did rather want the two to be rather different. -
Here’s another story for how a new name came about. Years back I called by female border collie the name I always wanted. Sadly she passed away. I have now transitioned and officially have a derivation of her name, well the name I always wanted!
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I just ended up picking something I liked I guess .. As long as I was comfortable with it nothing else really mattered.
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That’s the most important part when it comes to selecting a nom-de-femme. I thought for a while before settling on Luci. For a start at least. That did seem to fit, then the rest just came to me.
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I’ve had a go at this thread on a previous occasion, years ago I believe. My real first name, Ellis could well suit either male or female, I have come across a few female Ellis’s, not a bad name; one for not following the crowd. Now the nearest I’ve heard would be Elise, not a bad name, and I have considered it, like Fido, I would automatically answer to such a name. But then I’ve been Liz for so damn long I answer quite readily to Liz. What the hell, our moggie answers to Milly, Cat, Fur ball or even Pest.
Elizabeth
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What a lovely thread this is – so fascinating hearing about how everyone comes to different names. My name was suggested by my partner but only as she thought I would already have chosen it! She was right really – it was just waiting to be claimed…
I guess it is partly linked to one of my great heroines (Josephine Butler, nee Grey), who was also born and thrived in my native area, and has been variously described (by the great first-wave feminist leader Millicent Fawcett, who certainly should have known) as ‘the most distinguished Englishwoman of the nineteenth century’ and also as ‘the mother of Christian feminism’ – she is even a minor saint in the Anglican calendar these days, not that I aspire to that! lol Partly also, owning my name also connected me to another great heroine of mine, Josephine Baker – that truly amazing French/American dancer, jazz singer, actress, French Resistance supporting, civil rights leading, pioneering black woman – just the thought of her has me moving, singing and jiving and trusting that even seemingly impossible changes and transformations are possible! Mainly though, I just love the name as it makes me feel beautiful and alive, as well as empowered and open to the gorgeous joys and dance of life…
So much in a name, and so much more to discover about ourselves as we live it?
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What better choice of name than one that is so Uplifting! & Meaningful!
