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You or them?
At a personal level, my experience of transition to my preferred gender, so far has been easier than my prior transitions to live in different countries with completely different languages & cultural expectations. Even my transitions from child to adolescent & adolescent to adult were more troublesome than my transition of gender at age 47, with all that history in place.
This post is not about transition but rather as compliance requires, about the issue of gender in society. The only way I personally can directly measure gender in society i.e. what people other than me think about my gender, is to make a real life comparison, hence my transition.
As stated my transition has not been traumatic, it’s had it’s moments but they have always been ‘my moments’. Any difficulties I’ve experienced can always be traced back to my expectations not being met, which raises the questions; Are my expectations valid? Just because I want a certain outcome, does that somehow entitle me to receive it? Are my expectations realistic – is it reasonable to expect everybody else to comply with my thoughts & understanding? Is it it realistic to expect a unanimous decision? These are intended as rhetorical questions.
As human beings we are extremely diverse. This diversity on the whole is recognised & accepted/tolerated in most instances. My experiences so far, suggest to me that singularly the most important issue for gender variant people is self acceptance not acceptance by society. Once you can fully accept your gendered self, the variation of responses from others becomes quite insignificant in most instances. Once the initial difference is observed, gender is not really much of a deal in day to day life – I am speaking generally.
There seems to be a greater discrepancy between what gender variant people think of each other than what society thinks of me as a gender variant person.
Is it them or is it you that creates the biggest barriers to you living your gender the way you experience it. You may read that as rhetorical or feel free to offer your own view, the choice is always yours.
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Hi,
Them or us ,well , who’s them to start with, or is it i am one of them . so if them means people yes im one of them & if it means women im allso one of them, so no contest there,
My time is spent with our groups that im involved with as you all know with in a membership of over 1000 members, & even with in those groups we are very intertwined with each other, for us its not tolerated , its acceptance why should it be any different
To use socity is a cop out its a non i talk about real people those who know me & are our Jos & i friends, now thats real, real people face to face, or real life, big difference ,
…noeleena…
