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July 2011 (Thanks to Kirsten for the photo as usual!)

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I can’t find the advert in a video on the internet… but if there is proof that it generated adverse publicity – read this extract of comments on:
http://forum.sportal.com.au/default.aspx?g=posts&m=2142935

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my local tab is exactly like that, especially the woman with a beard

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I find it piss funny actually. One of the funniest ads on TV.

Sure they give it to the TAB punters a bit but they are pretty careful in that it is loosely implied and not specific. Plus it is heavily tongue in cheek.
As someone who still ventures to the local TAB every now and then, I don’t find it offensive at all.

If you are highly offended, might I suggest it is just hitting a little too close to home?
(Are you a woman with a beard?)

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I’m not going to lie. I agree with most of the sportsbet ads. There is a lady at the local TAB down the road from my place who has a better mo than Merv Hughes!

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Catherine, Loren, many others here, I may have this wrong, but I think what we’re trying to say here is: “It’s not a choice”.

I found this gem posted on transgender zone:

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People do not seem to understand WHY untill they grasp that want has no part in it all…
A good question for them, simple and direct… do men WANT to go bald? .. no choice!

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Amanda, you have made an interesting point in clarifying the duality implicit in the thread topic .

Strangely enough after making my post I picked up the DIETHYLSTROEBEL survey being run by WA Chameleons. There at the top is the same question.

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Q3. Do you consider yourself a cross-dresser or transsexual?

Which re-enforces the view that not only has the concept of non-binary gender yet to percolate down to the general community
it doesn’t even exist in organisations that cater to our community!

And yes – I did write to Claire Elise to let her know

I feel a new serious topic coming on !!!!!

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Well – this feature thread has been going for over 6 years… so I decided to give it a bit of prune and remove some past ramblings away from the topic.
And then I realised that I’ve thought many times about saying something on this thread… and not got round to it….to here goes.

Kiki asked over 6 years ago

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“Are you crossdressing or seriously wanting to be a woman?”

and certainly my views towards answering the question have changed in that time.

Now I know, like Shakespeare, you can read too much into the words used on forums…
but my first thoughts were that this was another case of mistaking something we do “crossdress” with something that reflects our inner gender (wanting to be a woman).

Crossdressing is defined by Wikkipedia as

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is the wearing of clothing and other accoutrement commonly associated with a gender within a particular society that is seen as different than the one usually presented by the dresser.

So it is by definition “part time”.

As we know women crossdress freely, and many men like wearing female clothing just because of its fabric and style.
But many people’s gender journey starts with crossdressing, and at some stage, even if one yearns to be a woman, occasional crossdressing may be the only manifestation of it.
So it appears that crossdressing and a journey to be a woman, are far from being mutually exclusive and we

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“can be crossdressing AND seriously wanting to be a woman!!”

Then, as others have observed before in this thread, the original question doesn’t leave room for any middle ground.

I have become aware that there are many members of our community who don’t desire to be anything other than themselves. To those people applying a label like man or woman to who they are is meaningless, and often insulting.
Life just isn’t that simple!
Depending where they are on the gender spectrum, these people may not consider themselves to be crossdressing and their destination doesn’t have a simple label like “woman”.
So that means we

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“can also be NEITHER crossdressing nor seriously wanting to be a woman!”

As I said, 6 years is a long time in exploring your gender identity and developing, and I know I might answer this question differently in another 6 years time.
But, for now, I think I would find it is difficult to apply the label “crossdressing” to my presentation.
Why?
Because what I wear is consistent (virtually all my clothes carry a women’s size tag) and
Because the image I present 24/7 is not completely “male” or “female”.

So my clothes reflect correctly the fact in my gender I seek to be neither “man” nor “woman”…..just me.

That means my vote falls for “NEITHER crossdressing nor seriously wanting to be a woman” which sadly wasn’t one of the options given!

[Adrian]

OK – the only site that is sure to work now is forum.tgr.net.au

If you use links and bookmarks that contain forum.tgr.net.au then be prepared for them at best to not work….

[Adrian]

Fiona has been suspended from TgR in accordance with the Acceptable Conduct Policy.

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Fiona,

Your membership of TgR has been suspended.
On 28 Jun 2011 06:45 pm you replied to a posting I made in the forums saying:

> i wasn’t aware i was hijacking it. obviouslt you arent interested in what people have created.
> sorry hitler

As you are aware I found your post offensive (as I don’t see hitler as being a complementary role model)
I have also confirmed that others also agree that the post was outside the TgR guidelines.

I gave you 24 hrs to retract the post.
Your explanation that calling me Hitler was realy an attempt to be affible does not address the offense you caused.

So your account has been disabled.
If you wish to discuss this in 6 months time contact me then.

Regards
Amanda

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I have been advised that the web site will be down from midnight EST on Thursday 30th June 2011 (well actually Friday morning) as they play with the things these people in server farms like to play with.

Ooops I missread that… the server may go down tonight (Thursday morning)

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I’m close to switching over to the new domain.. so in the process I need to copy all the images/pictures over.
So from tonight – till the new domain is running I have to block the upload of new pictures….

[Adrian]

I have been advised that the web site will be down from midnight EST on Thursday 30th June 2011 (well actually Friday morning) as they play with the things these people in server farms like to play with.

Anyhow… expect everything to crash after midnight – so it might be better if you just went to bed early!!!

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Highjacking a forum will not achieve what you want.
a) because it annoys the webmistress who has to tidy up.
b) because what is needed to get your idea started is NOT content – but a statement as to what the forum is to be called and what is the acceptable content.

In other words the forum needs a mission to say why and what people can post in it. If you use the flag post to discuss that and not to post gardens the forum will appear a lot quicker!

[Adrian]

Highjacking a forum will not achieve what you want.
a) because it annoys the webmistress who has to tidy up.
b) because what is needed to get your idea started is NOT content – but a statement as to what the forum is to be called and what is the acceptable content.

In other words the forum needs a mission to say why and what people can post in it. If you use the flag post to discuss that and not to post gardens the forum will appear a lot quicker!

[Adrian]

June 2011

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The web site colours will be going through a fairly sick time…
unfortunately colours are shared between the new and the old site.
And as I adjust the new site to look OK – the colours may become
quite bizarre at times….

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Looks like the Digests were the first casualty.
A big thank you to Sonya for pointing out that, although a lot were being sent from the server, fewer were arriving.
I think the issues is that an email title of TgR triggers spam filters (too short!).
If you don’t get digests starting overnight on the 23rd please drop me an email and let me know.