[Lisa_W]

Thank you Portia

I have a rather large part in the centre of my head. Therefore the wig is on both bare skin & my own hair.
My wigs are synthetic.
I have used a wig cap; it does help but does not resolve the problem completely.

Lisa

[Lisa_W]

Hi All

This is all very close to home for me and from my own experience & from what I have read very typical. I have a theory about it which I will expound upon later.

Around 8 I was wearing my mother’s underwear – no opportunity to wear dresses. At early puberty I repeatedly tried to freeze my male parts off. Unfortunately that was unsuccessful. But as one of my daughters said – she was glad that it didn’t work.

Then testosterone kicked in and like so many others here, I tried to be the alpha male etc. Married & had kids.

I never really stopped wearing female underwear & still do even though I am still working as a male. As others have said the boobs are hard to hide – thank heavens for double breasted shirts – 2 front pockets.

Now my theory. At the Pre-pubertal stage there is not much testosterone in our bodies & our feminine tendencies appear. However we are often forced to hide then due to parental pressure etc.
Post puberty the testosterone surge sublimates those feminine feelings. However there is still mental conflict. To resolve this we try hard to be the macho man.

Later in life – the timing varies – the testosterone levels drop. ?male menopause or natural decline in T which occurs with aging. then those feminine tendencies are physiologically allowed to re-appear. Now we are emotionally more able to cope with it (some don’t) and take the decision to transition. The tendency is there all our lives it is just overwhelmed by T for awhile. Where the tendency came from is another story.

I have too glibly down played the mental anguish that we all go through & the consequences to our families & our friends. We all could write chapters on that.

Well that is my theory & I am sticking to it!!

Hugs
Lisa

[Lisa_W]

I agree with everything that has been said about preventing this site from becoming a sex solicitation venue & therefore will not rehash what has been previously written.

However there are some of us who do not live in big cities and therefore have limited or no social interaction with other CD’s or TG’s or who are still in the cupboard and not ready or afraid to come out. Some of these are looking for genuine platonic friendships. We are isolated enough in the community. Therefore I make a plea that we be careful not to scare off fellow gender diverse people from seeking friendship through TR.

Lisa

[Lisa_W]

Hi All
I am new to TR but I would like to comment on the difficulty of communicating via email which is essentially the same as these forums. I have been in a very isolated situation for about 21/2 years and the only way of maintaining contact with the outside world was via email.

Is there a worse way of trying to express emotion or trying to convey ideas? When we talk to each other we rely on facial expressions, intonation and many other visual cues. These are all lacking in emails.

Secondly there are so many words that have different meanings when read a different way.

We are such a widespread disparate community. The only way that we can effectively keep in contact is via emails like this (read forum).

Therefore I beseech us all to a; keep talking to each other to clear up misunderstandings b; before you hit the send button of a critical email to sleep on it. Review what you have written in the morning & then if that is what you want to say hit the send button.

I get so much out of these forums (the plural is fora) that I would hate to see them fold – even if I do only just read the entries.

Stay classy everyone.

Hugs Lisa