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Are others happy being a guy but just like to dress up?
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Hi Girls,
I read your post Christina and it prompted me to add my 2 cents worth. I think I am the ultimate Gemini. I still love my boy things Boats, Fishing, Cars and would love a bigger shed. But right along side I would have the most beautiful of Boudoirs filled with Heels and lacy bits of nothing and makeup and perfum counter. I love both. The only trade off is the hairy male. If I could be smoooth all over and a thick head of hair it would be the icing on the cake, oh that and the usual 10kg lighter and reverse the aging process. Like you I work away and I take Bree stuff with me. I sleep in a nighty every night and try to dress one night while away. But a long day and the time it takes to make Bree respectable and put her away again makes for not much sleep.
Other than that I wouldnt change a thing. Happy as. -
I totally understand what you mean Bree. I also love working on the car and gardening and nothing makes me happier than having a few beers with the boys. There just isn’t enough time right now to focus on my feminine side as much as I’d like. Of course I’d love to not have to work another day in my life and spend my time being made beautiful but at present there just isn’t time, but there’s always the future to look forward to
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hi. all . as some of you have met me youll know where i am coming from . what you see is what you get .. no pretence . no acting just me as a women with a male background . . i am one of those who could not live as a male any more . i am wired both male & female so at some time something had to give . so i spose my male side had to if you like take a back seat . . to let that other women take over . or i know i would have gone stircracy. for me now i am free . even through it was a hell its been the best thing for me i am not perfect . yet i can just be me a women & be able to express my self in a way i never thought posiable before .for me now i am just a women & acceped as one …… what i like here is we are all different we all have different backgrounds . so that gives us a better idear of being able to come to gether & get to know each other. & as we accept each other we are better able to help each other . we can not all be the same nor should we expect that . for me i dont expect others to do what i have done that was for me & yes it was right . hey this is so neat thanks for putting your thoughts up here ….. …noeleena…
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Quote:I am now full time girl and I would never change it for anything but I must admit your focus does change a lot.
The first major change I found was that you dont the looking forward to the next time you dress, for me it was my “happy time” where I would feel the best and most alive feelings living as a girl, where you can not take my smile off with a dozer. Now it is just normal, although it is much better in someways, you miss that excitement.
I also find I have to put the effort into everytime I go out, I always did take pride in my appearance but I can not just shoot down to the corner store for some milk without making myself presentable, when I was a guy it did not matter as much, a moment of scruffness was ok. I dont find it too much of a problem but it is a differance. But I can not just change back to guy mode and not care.
As a “full time” girl myself I cannot agree with you more.
Take care,
Michelle
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Hi Girls.
A great topic that I’ve often thought about. I’m a part time girl, yet now in my late 30’s I want more of the inner girl/woman in me to evolve than when I was in my teens; where I would just sneakily wear my sisters knickers when the chance was available.
Every now and then I think of going to my GP & psychiatrist to dicuss my thoughts of transitioning etc. They know I dress, yet also know that change is very difficult to implement because of my male life and persona etc. Sorry, that’s a long story!
Regards
Brenda
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I think that you will find that most (Not all) girls that do go full time have always known that they have always wanted to be a girl.
Some of us have taken a lot longer to work this out but we still get there and other have known and just dont it sooner.
There are a few that did not know what was wrong and it all has happened real quick.
But you will find that there is a lot of girl that the mix of boy and girl are enough to be both. The hardest part of all this is working out where you stand on this, then accepting it and living it.
I know that I would never go back to been a boy ever, as there is not one thing I ever liked at been a boy.
So those that are only part time, dont dispare, if you can have the best of both worlds then just enjoy it.
Just always remember we all just have to be happy with in ourselves, if you are unhappy then fix it so you are. Sometimes it seems hard but when you get out there and do it and then look back, it seems soo easy.
xxxx
Kelly Jones
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Hi all,
Best forum on the site. I’m very comfortable in both worlds mainly because my male life is rewarding & full of loved ones. If I had two lives to live I’d love to go full time but I don’t so that’s not going to happen. I think it’s really important to accept individuals for who they are & what their needs are.
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HI GIRLS
There are times when Iwish I was girl full time but now in my 50s I love
my friends my cars ,my farm ,my work , my projects, and my crossdressing .
I Don’t give a s___t what people think if I want to dress in mini skirts and boots I will .
If I feel good in what ever I wear I will wear it out .
Both side of me are petrol heads and a lead foot 👿 the sounds of a thumping v8 will turn my head or a girl in a great dress or skirt oh and the girl .
Not so long a go 2008 I found my self in a problem situation . I just had to ask the girl where she bought her dress from nice girl from japan to ask where she got here dress she was thinking I WANTED SEX MMM not a bad thing mine you she was attractive but just to tell me
where she go her dress from tookforever but it was worth it . guess what not in my size all sizes under 10 just about wanted to cry
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Hi Girls
Another voice from the “happy as I am but do need to dress sometimes” group. If I was able to live two lives that might be interesting, but I have not ever really stopped to think how I would prefer life as Jan fulltime.
I guess, like so much of life, it’s a part of a whole range of attitudes – not to be value judged, or seen as any better than another. Just the way life is for me.
Having said that, if I was able to dress as Jan more often (happens very rarely) I don’t know if my feelings might change.
Regards
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Interesting answers and as always highlights just how individual we all are despite outward appearance.
Personally I can find rewards in either role though I shy away from destructive macho behaviour. Nirvana for me would be if there wasn’t such a definate line between the two roles. Sometimes at home I might be found in a skirt and top with no wig or make up. This would probably look ridiculous to most people but hey it feels OK. Don’t get me wrong, I love the full girly thing and going out but it is just not practical when doing housework.
Like some other girls any radical changes would be difficult at this age but if I won lotto………..never say never
Chrissy xxx
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Mel,
A belated reply, I cannot say where my dressing will lead. I think back to when I started by trying on pantihose, then panties and pantihose, bra, pants, pantihose etc and the evolution continued. Until now I find I dress most days and the clothes I wear are fairly stylish, my wig is suitable and I feel feminine enough to wonder where I will go next. I cannot categorically state that I won’t go further in areas such as laser hair removal and piercing, however the tempttion is there and gets stronger as time goes on. Helen is not a fictitious character, she is my female side and as time has passed Helen has progressed and her influence has grown.
Great question and very thought provoking.
Hugs
Helen
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If I woke up tomorrow with an hourglass figure, I wouldn’t complain, but if I won $50m+ in the Lotto tomorrow, I don’t think I’d use any of it to pay for the hourglass shape. I might buy myself a house with a walk-in closet twice the size of a master bedroom fill that closet with all the latest from DJ’s; I might start a scholarship fund for transgendered uni students; but I wouldn’t stash any away for SRS.
Twelve years ago I seriously thought I might want to transition: I went out in girl mode a lot, felt more and more comfortable with my girl side by the week, and made a number of friends who knew me as Parker (actually Catherine then) months before they saw my guy side. It seemed that life as a woman might be more the life for me. But was it? I reached the conclusion that it wasn’t. Money had a bit to do with it, but the biggest reason was that there were still plenty of things I liked about myself as a guy, and a few things I wanted to do as a guy but hadn’t done yet. There still are.
So that’s where I am — one place on a wide spectrum of experiences!
Parker
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Parker, I’m finding so many of your posts insightful, open, sensitive and very relevant for me.
At the moment I am a guy who likes to dress occasionally, but when I’m dressed I love it. I love the sense of being and feeling feminine, and being treated as a feminine woman. The feeling is wonderful, and leaves me wanting to dress more often. And when I’m dressed, I do feel very womanly. I do not feel like a bloke in a dress. As I feel feminine, and being related to and treated as a woman, then I feel more so, and the feeling seems to snowball and I want to experience it again. I can certainly see how the path to transitioning could eventually become an enticing option, if the planets aligned.
But there are many parts of my life where I want to be a man, and where I like being a man, particularly with my family, and so being part-time is where I’m at. Family to me will always come first.
The future cannot be predicted. I may always be where I’m at now, but one cannot know, and one can never say never. Or, as politicians sometines say, “I’m not ruling anything out, I’m not ruling anything in”. -
Hi All
Parker I do take your point “plenty of things I liked about myself as a guy”. I guess thats where I did differ as there was not one thing I liked about being a guy.
You have a good point and full time with hormones and SRS is not for everyone, but you have hit it on the head with that comment as I find it so true.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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Parker,
Your experience living “a lot” as a woman is exactly why Harry Benjamin established his Standards of Care. There are girls who seriously consider transitioning but after a short time realise that it’s not what they want.
For those of us who do successfully transition, it’s a breeze, an awakening of our true selves, all doubt just disappears.
And this is where the all encompassing ‘trans’ umbrella has it’s shortcomings.
