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Are others happy being a guy but just like to dress up?
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Quote:Hi All Parker I do take your point “plenty of things I liked about myself as a guy”. I guess thats where I did differ as there was not one thing I liked about being a guy.
You have a good point and full time with hormones and SRS is not for everyone, but you have hit it on the head with that comment as I find it so true. xxx Kelly JonesHi everyone…… I agree with Kelly…….there wasn’t anything that I enjoyed about that male person I lived with for so long. I was doing grocery shopping today and I thought… “Wow, I cant believe how wonderfully happy I am now especially compared to that miserable person I was last year who ended up with debilatating depression! “
Like Christina said ” It’s a breeze” and all my imagined fears were so unfounded. The other day I dropped my nine year old boy at school but I forgot his tuckshop order and when I returned I got chatting to the Tuckshop lady for about 5 mins.
Later that day she saw my boy and said..: Oh hi, I was chatting with your Mum today!”
Ahhhh, I love it !
Hugs all round
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Hi Girls
this is my first real post on Tranny but this forum is a tppic which is closest to me.
i have dressed much more over the last year or so helped by interstate trips…….Madeleine’s bag comes along. So hotel rooom at night is full make up, dres, enjoy it but not much sleep. I find it so relaxing.The question is i want to do this more often, go a little further each time but i also like being a bloke. I am 54 have no intent to do anything other than dress.
The question i would like to ask others is this. When i dress i also get an amazing female sex desire, dream of being “laid” and fantasise and get some make relief. Then i immediately think “what am i doing?”…..and the femme desire diminishes and i am quite happy to get the make up off and go back to male mode.
The satisfaction of going thru this used to keep me happy for a few weeks……now after a day or two i want to do it all over again.Help…can anyone relate to this and give me your exerience and help me unmuddle Madeleine’s mind.
Madie
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Hi all… of all the forums on the Internet relating to our life choices, this is the only one that keeps me interested on a daily basis. Great site, great membership.
“Are others happy being a guy but just like to dress up?” — 30 years ago I would have answered yes to this question. In retrospect, I now realize I only thought I was happy as a guy, possibly because the alternative was (at the time) only “wishful thinking”.
Although I still present myself as a guy on ocassion, nothing about doing so makes me happy. I’ve been more female than male for as long as I can remember, and it’s only age and finances which keep me from transitioning completely.
Quote:Madie
When i dress i also get an amazing female sex desire, dream of being “laid” and fantasise and get some make relief. Then i immediately think “what am i doing?”…..and the femme desire diminishes and i am quite happy to get the make up off and go back to male mode.
The satisfaction of going thru this used to keep me happy for a few weeks……now after a day or two i want to do it all over again.Help…can anyone relate to this and give me your exerience and help me unmuddle Madeleine’s mind.
Madie… I can relate. From the moment I begin to dress, my female sexuality becomes supercharged, and it is infinitely more powerful than anything I’ve ever experienced in the male mode. The dreams you have of being “laid” were once my dreams, and I used to fantasize for relief, then wonder “what am I doing?” — as feelings of guilt and shame would sweep over me once the “urge” was satisfied.
Eventually, those dreams became realities, leading at one point in my life (not very long ago) to a seriously romantic affair. I’m at the point now where I no longer wonder “what am I doing” after getting “laid”, because the female sexual desire stays with me continuously, and because I have accepted who I am, there is no guilt or shame associated with “the urge”.
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I am one of those who is happy to be a guy who dresses.
When I was in my early teens I wanted to be a girl. As that got pushed down, my crossdressing became a sexual fetish and that is where it stayed for the next 25 years.
Now that I have sorted it all out with my wife, it has started to move back the other way to dressing for something other than a sexual turn on. I think it will always be about the thrill for me though. Having said that, I joined up here specifically to make sure that wasn’t the only part of it.
For me, that is the difference in the terminology:
Crossdressers dress for sexual pleasure. TVs dress for non sexual reasons.
How many girls here dress primarily for the sexual thrill?
Chrissy.
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Hi All
When I first started I wanted to be a girl, but not knowing this was an option, I conviced my self it was sexual thrill and then I would feel guilty and shamed. I got to the stage when that was not enough, I wanted to look and pass more than just a sexual thrill, the clothes expanded to things that made me look fem, but the guilt and shame was still there.
When I found the net I found that there was others like me and then I learnt to accept myself and stopped feeling guilty. I then found I could reach my dream of being a girl, so it all changed for me from that point.
So ddiamant I can really relate to your post.
When I look back I have worked out the sexual thrill was mistaken for the first time being happy within my self, not understanding the excitement turned into sexual, then guilt, shame and then unhappyness and depression when the reality came back that I was not a girl.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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Hi Kelly,
I have to admit, I have never thought about it that way before. Those times I have been able to dress for a few hours without the need to get off have certainly been very comfortable.
Bears some more thought.
Chrissy.
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I’ve posted on this topic before but Kelly’s latest comments really ring true for me. The only thing that makes me sad about my situation is the time I wasted feeling guilty. About what? About being who I really am. I’m in the middle of a divorce and I reckon she who I used to have to obey will publicise my dressing to anyone who’ll listen. Bring it on!
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Good question. it depends on how I am feeling at the time!!! Sometimes I am happy, mostly I am not, when it comes to the amount of time I get to be Lori. Don’t get me wrong I am not depressed, I just don’t get anywhere near enough time for my girl side as I would like, but that is not unusual for a lot of us!!!
I get frustrated when I can’t dress (married to a wonderful woman who knows and accepts but have her three kids living with us and I am not allowed to tell them, which severly restricts my opportunities!!). I spose that is the selfish boy side of me emerging lol.
On the whole I don’t want to go any further at this stage, but if you asked me 5 years ago would I be going out and shopping at the supermarket, I would have said, yeah right as if I would do that, but I do now, and want to do it more and more.
Perhaps it is the thrill of going out that makes it that much more enjoyable, or maybe I am just progressing, who knows?
I love to do boy stuff sometimes, but I can probably do most what I do as a girl. I also feel the urge to experiment sexually, but that is not what drives my dressing (or maybe it is!!!!) I used to do the dress and guilt thing, but I have past thru that phase and now find it a challenge to present myself to be as feminine as I can and go out and be accepted.
I think if you think too hard about where you fit in, what sexual category you fit in too, how should I behave to be able to fit into our little community, then you will end up a nut case. I say do what makes you feel comforatble doing, what you enjoy doing, so long it is not to the detrement of others, and don’t worry about other peoples ideas of norms and accepted behviour (within reason of course)
A good saying I saw the other day stated “Don’t worry about what other people think about you, because it is none of your business”
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Girls
your replies hav egot me thinking more.
So girls are you saying that dressing to get off r laid is normal but evnetually it becomes less sexual.? to the point that a number of things can happen………..such as living as a girl much more to perhaps disovering alternative sezuality.?
i am married and would love to hear from others. Do we still make love to our partners with the same thoughts as a guy. For me it is not at common these days perhaps once a month . I have to say last week i wanted my wife to take control and i could not stop thinking of all feeling to do with a guy doing it to me. Is this strange or a stage we go thru.?
Hugs Madie
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Madeleine, nothing is normal or abnormal. Transgenderism is a continuum of desires, beliefs and experiences. Nothing is right or wrong but it may not suit your situation. I have had to come to terms with the fact that my cross-dressing will see the end of my marriage but will be the beginning of a more female life for me. What’s the old saying? Be careful what you pray for, you might just get it.
