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Are you always dressed for Tranny Radio?
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im not dressed often due to my living arrangements
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Hi, I have started to live fulltime as Susan and it’s been hard to start with, but now most people just go with the flow.
I am lucky to have my own shop and as it’s only one of two in town it make life a bit easy, so live your dream and be what you are deep within
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Something weird has happened. I don’t dress any more. I live on my own so can dress any time but I haven ‘t had the urge for some time – maybe a year or so. I’ve been dressing since I was a teenager now I’m in my 40s and I’ve changed. I still keep all my gear ‘just in case’ but I’ve thought about getting rid of it.
Can anyone else relate to this?
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To Jane, the short answer is NO.
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Quote:I don’t dress any more. I live on my own so can dress any time but I haven ‘t had the urge for some time – maybe a year or so. I’ve been dressing since I was a teenager now I’m in my 40s and I’ve changed.
I’ve found that my desire has always varied over time. Sometimes I will make a huge effort to dress frequently in spite of having to leave other important things not done. Other times, I’ll force myself to do other things even though all I want to do is dress. I have had periods of a few months or so where I wasn’t interested in dressing but I’ve always found that sooner or later, the desire comes back as strong as ever.
Quote:I still keep all my gear ‘just in case’ but I’ve thought about getting rid of it.Aside from the possibility that just spending time on line in places like this is enough to replace actual crossdressing, I doubt that you’ll ever escape it.
Alice
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Quote:Something weird has happened. I don’t dress any more. I live on my own so can dress any time but I haven ‘t had the urge for some time – maybe a year or so. I’ve been dressing since I was a teenager now I’m in my 40s and I’ve changed. I still keep all my gear ‘just in case’ but I’ve thought about getting rid of it.
Can anyone else relate to this?
Though never really quite given it up, or wanted to, it has certainly ebbed and flowed with me over the years – but is always there and always part of my interests/desires. Go with the flow…..
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I’m dressed today … but like you, can take it or leave it. On a usage and desire basis, I could almost pack it all away safely and it wouldn’t be a problem … except …
I discovered years ago that it’s not the dressing that’s important, it’s freedom to dress. Put me in a position where I can’t, and the pressure builds and builds. Interestingly, when the opportunity comes, quite often I won’t but still feel happy. It’s the freedom to express how you feel that is important, not the clothes.
Despite all that, I think about dressing far too much. If I see a nice outfit, it’s always ‘how would that look on me?’. If someone has a sale on lingerie I immediately start planning a shopping trip, whether I intend to actually buy anything or not.
So I guess that’s why I don’t dress as much now and I could. I’ve come to a point where the clothes are just one of the ways I express who I am and to be honest, most of the time, I can go either way … so I stay in what I’m wearing (which usually happens to be bloke stuff thanks to my circumstances).
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Since going on hormones and as i have honest genetic girlfriendds i am more relxed in self and hence “DRESS” in female clothes even without makeup at times when out jeans tops I am comfortable with self and know who i am and how i feel i am Jessica 24/7 but like genetice woman not in make up all day etc but my friends treat me as a female and i mix as one is all i need for now we all differ in reasons for dressing i guess once i classed self as just a crossdresser when i was married but single life allowed me time to accept MY REAL SELF others i have chatted to dont dress often shows we are all unique and special in my view:))
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cough… just a crossdresser………It’s an interesting point. Many of us who don’t intend to transition fully feel that there is a prejudice held by those that transition fully against those that don’t. Hijacking the discusion totally I ask you all…is there such a prejudice, a sort of ts hierarchy, or are we egalitarian to the core?
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Quote:cough… just a crossdresser………
Be careful when pulling a phrase out of context. There is always the risk that you will adversely alter the implied meaning.
When read in context, I think that the statement is slightly insulting to crossdressers but it is a turn of phrase used every day by TSes without any intention of it being an insult.
Quote:It’s an interesting point. Many of us who don’t intend to transition fully feel that there is a prejudice held by those that transition fully against those that don’t. Hijacking the discusion totally I ask you all…is there such a prejudice, a sort of ts hierarchy, or are we egalitarian to the core?There is prejudice within the transgender community in all sorts of directions. It isn’t just a “CD vs TS” issue. We have the “dress for sexual gratification vs dress to pass as well as possible” issue and a whole host of other “dividing lines” between sub-species.
The important part is that we, as a whole, need to be able to communicate effectively with each other and be supportive of others within the transgender community because the wider community still see us as basically one group of fruitloops.
To bring this back on topic, perhaps the CDs who go out in public and the TSes out there would like to indicate how much of the time they actually present themselves as passable females as opposed to presenting themselves as androgynous, or worse, as men in womens clothing. While I have no doubt that many make an effort to pass at all times, the public perception I have encountered appears to indicate that the ones who are noticed are those who present themselves in public with an obviously male face either devoid of makeup or poorly made up, often a perceptible bust line and clothing somewhere between androgynous and female.
Alice
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I try to dress a couple of times a week and the few hours leading up to the actual dressing are nearly as exciting as the dressing itself. I don’t know why, perhaps its the anticipation of feeling the feminine side surfacing. I am presently looking forward to having a makeover tomorrow and also having an opportunity to dress for two nights without interruption . The anticipation is definitely growing.
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Quote:The important part is that we, as a whole, need to be able to communicate effectively with each other and be supportive of others within the transgender community because the wider community still see us as basically one group of fruitloops.
I couldn’t agree more with this.
Quote:To bring this back on topic, perhaps the CDs who go out in public and the TSes out there would like to indicate how much of the time they actually present themselves as passable females as opposed to presenting themselves as androgynous, or worse, as men in womens clothing. While I have no doubt that many make an effort to pass at all times, the public perception I have encountered appears to indicate that the ones who are noticed are those who present themselves in public with an obviously male face either devoid of makeup or poorly made up, often a perceptible bust line and clothing somewhere between androgynous and female.I have a few questions here though. Why should it be a concern whether one of us presents as fully femme, androgenous or as a male dressed femme? The distiction seems to confirm that the discrimination I alluded to is well entrenched and accepted. Is there a percentage of time spent being passable that is acceptable or not and is there something wrong with being noticed as different?
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Quote:I have a few questions here though. Why should it be a concern whether one of us presents as fully femme, androgenous or as a male dressed femme?
I’ll remember that question next time I get read because I happen to be in a shop at the same time as someone who has made no effort to be passable.
Quote:The distiction seems to confirm that the discrimination I alluded to is well entrenched and accepted.Like it or not, the general public do discriminate against us. You can be different without inflaming public bias against transgendered people.
Quote:Is there a percentage of time spent being passable that is acceptable or notYes. 100% of the time when in public.
Quote:and is there something wrong with being noticed as different?No, as long as your being different doesn’t adversely impact upon other transgendered people.
That should generate some lively debate.
Alice
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What you are saying if I get it right, is that there is discrimination against ts/tg people and to avoid the consequencees of this all girls, ts and cd should dress 100% passable at all times when out and about. In other words because they can’t identify us as ts/cd we are safe from discrimination.
In one dimension I can see the sense, but are we really dealing with the underlying discrimination? Perhaps being able to be identified as ts but just behaving normally and interacting with people helps reduce the underlying discrimination in the first place. I am not wedded to this viewpoint but it sounds just as reasonable.
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I find that the easy answer to that is not to venture public. I am quite happy to relax at home dressed fem, with my wifes blessing. Saves any chance of embarrasment.
