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Are You Happy Being Trans-gender?
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Great topic !! short answer is YES.. I have met some lovely people and made some very deep friendships as a consequence of being “the way I am”. wouldnt want to change anything about how I came to be this way.
I didnt even know what transgender meant when I was pre pubescent but I clearly remember a longing that i wanted to be female. you then grow older ..you suppress these thoughts because you are ashamed ,embarrassed or fearful of being caught trying on female clothing…. you get married raise a child or two and for me those early desires about wanting to be female came back. For me it involved years of concealment , business trips away provided a release, hotel rooms being an opportunity to dress.
lucky these days my wife is very supportive and enjoys socialising with my TGR friends.
So its been a struggle on many occasions but overwhelmingly I love this aspect of my physical being
I just plan on enjoying life as someone who is somewhere on the F side of the spectrum of personality
Caroline
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Yes, finally I am.
At last I have managed to stop worrying or thinking that everyone is looking at me and now I just go about being me. It’s no longer a big deal if someone works out who I am, I don’t know them and I am not going to see them again so what does it matter. Lets face it do I really know they have spotted me – no usually it’s all in my silly mind. People are too wrapped up in their own worlds to give me a second thought.
Sometimes my voice or a cough will give me away but has anyone really noticed and even if they have there is no point worrying about it, I just push it out of my mind get on with life.
When I am dressed as a woman I am a woman, I have my head held high, shoulders back, trying not to make eye contact with anyone and staying calm relaxed.
I believe in me and that’s all that matters, so yes I am very happy being transgender in fact I am the happiest I have ever been.
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I am ten years post op this year and U can honestly say I am truly happy and proud.of the lady that I am. If I could re live my life I would have preferred to he born in the correct body as it would have saved years of loneliness and pain. Ten years on from SRS I can say I am totally at ease with who and what I am and I have no regrets with the brave decisions I made to become my true self.
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My only concern is a growing level of happiness, indeed the surge of joy, that comes from being dressed. I want more. I love the planning, the preparation, the long, slow mastery of make-up, the sheer thrill of being so gorgeous in front of the mirror, the rush of adrenaline as I venture into the night, the taxi driver’s advances, the compliments, the flattery, the bubbles, a smoke, the hours that go too fast, a hand stroking my taut thighs in the darkness of the bar, touched tongues, the decision whether to go to my bed alone…
How can this not be happiness?
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I have to agree with Jane’s comments above. Transgender embraces many aspects or levels of being who we are. The thrill of an escape for a weekend and getting ready to go out, The comments added to the many discussions in these forums, The people that organize outings or support others are all about being transgender and being happy about it.
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Wow that topic was nearly two years ago and I think I am happier now than back then.
1. All my family now know about Caroline . Reaction :- :Positive
2. All my close circle of friends know about Caroline Reaction :- Positive
3. Several of my work colleagues (including Boss) know about Caroline Reaction:- Positive
4. I now have a Lady membership at a new golf club Reaction from others :- Positive
5. Experience after being on Hormones for just over 2 years . Wonderful!!Never thought it could get to be like this but it takes time and care with the feelings of others
As you said Claire would you choose the Red or the Blue
Definitely the Blue for meCaroline
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With such positive growth and acceptance, I can’t wait for the report card in the next 12 months. Who knows where this growth and acceptance can lead to !
As the famous mountaineer and Scottish author, W.H. Murray once said, ” Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”
…….. And it DOES work!!! How do I know? Because I live that truth each and every day.
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Oh yes, oh yes, oh yes, today of all days. I legally changed my name to Carol at the end of September and have been arranging various cards since. I now have Medicare, driving licence, seniors card, Opal, and credit card in my new name.
Today I started with a visit to pathology to have blood hormone levels checked after my latest estradiol implant (I’ve been on hormones now for over 4 years). Then I updated my Medicare details with my GP’s reception. I’ll be seeing the GP on Monday to see what the pathology results are. Next a visit to Medibank Private to wonder why they haven’t yet sent me my new card while all other agencies have. Promises gained that they’ll fix it. At least they’ve been sending emails to Carol. Then a visit to my wife to watch the results of the postal survey. Yahoo! With luck the flow on will mean that we don’t have to divorce to allow me to press on with transition. Back home to find a letter from my hair transplant surgeon inviting me for a follow-up 6 months after my surgery.
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I’m kinda of envious of some of the commentary here. I can’t say I’m truly happy but I’m not unhappy either …. best probably frustrated. Personal circumstances make it hard and the lack of opportunity to express my gender can be depressing at times.
At the moment its about priorities. I’ve found making new friends very difficult ….and perhaps that’s all about me.
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Hi Lynnie,
When it comes to priorities, exatly where do YOU come in the list? First, last, or not accounted for?
If priorities aren’t working,perhaps choice will.
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Lynnie
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Priorities can be vital to achieving particular outcomes. Those outcomes may be broader than others might be aware. Lynnie you might be very strategic while seeming to others to be simply not looking after yourself. Hope that is the case.
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Hi gorgeous Lynnie,
Anytime you need to chat here for you. It’s truly depressing at times for sure but you’re in the right place! x0x -
With my Klinefelter syndrome (XXY) I adore being transgender especially now my kids, close friends and partner know. The downside is my partner ‘married a man’ and is less than happy if I cross dress. Intrinsically I’m female so being a male and doing boy stuff is OK if not fun but I feel happier as a female. Luckily my wife travels for a couple of weeks a year and I get to live mostly as a female during that time. I’m a fashion designer and dress maker by trade, and working with pretty floaty fabrics somehow keeps me going! If I could turn back the clock though… the story would be so so different! Ain’t hindsight wonderful. Thanks, Andi. and if anyone needs to chat about this… happy to anytime! You are all special and totally gorgeous no matter what! x0x
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For the past few years I’ve felt happy. I’ve come to accept myself as I am and most importantly, my friends and family accept me as I am. Happiness though, can be fleeting.
Over the last few days I have seen further evidence that we in this ‘community’ can be our own worst enemies. Once again I see the term “transgender” being allocated an exclusive nature because, according to some, those of us who do not present as women all the time, or who do not seek to transition, are not transgender at all. We are just hobbyists. We may feel feminine, we may express feminine sentiments or display feminine behaviour but it seems we are not “really transgender” because it’s just a hobby.
Well, leaving aside the efforts of those who seek to undermine my happiness, I am still happy being me. If I’m just a hobbyist then so be it. Do I want to stop crossdressing? Not anymore. That’s what happiness is.
P.S. – I didn’t witness that exclusivity I mentioned on TgR though, it was on another so-called transgender site.
