confidence in going out

[Anonymous]

Hi,

Here is a excuse to consider

Men also do it

Brazilian bikini waxing became a popular American beauty fixture in the late 1980s. During that time, fashion took a turn for the daring with super-low rise jeans and incredibly revealing bikini bottoms. Because many of these styles evolved on the hot beaches of Brazil, fashionistas soon adopted the all-bare bikini wax that Brazilians had long used. Brazilian waxing is now taught in cosmetology schools and is a standard offering on salon waxing menus

I have no hair in my legs, arms etc and wear shorts and T shirts. I am sure a few have noticed but only one coment and it was just a passing coment.

Initially I was fearfull. Now I get on with it and never think about it during the day and most nites.
Or just reduce the hair volume gradually is another possible plan

Jeorjette

[Anonymous]

Also… nows the perfect time to get out there and work on your tan!
No excuses!
S.x

[Anonymous]

Lauren,

I am a bit like you, I love going out, but winter gives a bit of security because of shorter days and different fashions and boots, lovely boots.

In summer I go out at dusk and have no problems about that. During the day I stay in when dressed. As far as legs and arms, as Jeorgette quite rightly said, men shave all over now and nobody seems to worry.

Do it!

Hugs

Helen

[Anonymous]

Hi
I must admit that a brazilin wax is fantastic .
I have for years now gone to Rundel Mall branch of Essential Beauty.
The cost is $160 & you walk out with only the hair on your head Makes all those undies feel so sexy & boosts the confidence no end

Oh by the way ask for Bec she is fantastic

Salinamarie

[Anonymous]

Hi

I have had clean arms and long nails for at least three years. I work with the public in two jobs.
Nobody has ever commented or appears to look twice… most are only concerned about themselves in their own little bit of space…

As Jeorjette said

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Men also do it

I get my back/shoulders/eyebrows waxed and in general conversation the girl told me “that they get alot of men getting all sorts of treatments done”

Simple… its like everything else we do for the first time… once you have done it – no more nerves and it will feel and look good

I cannot tell you to do it … these are just my ideas

Sally

[Anonymous]

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I love going out as a female but i find that im only really more confident in the cooler months when i am able to cover up more and i guess hide myself from the world, but now its warmer and as i go out wearing lighter clothes i find myself a nervous wreck that ill get noticed also im concerned that as i need to shave certain parts ill also get seen at work and probably be asked why i shave my arms and legs.
I would love to tell the people i work with about me but im a little scared to do so.
Any ideas girls Lauren

Moving away from the comments on Brazillian waxes and back to the main question ….. When it comes to arms and legs being smooth and you’re self conscious of them in public, you have a few options as an explanation.

A good one is sports related – cyclists or swimmers usually have hair free bodies. If you can associate a sport you do with being hairless, try that!

Another reason you can cite is something medical. Say you had a skin condition and needed smooth skin for the treatment to be effective. Then say you liked the smooth feeling so much you kept it that way!

After the Winter season, you can just start revealing your smooth limbs progressively and perhaps no will notice the difference from last Summer? If they do, just state its a mid-life crisis thing!

Just use any plausible reason that you can think of that will give some association to being hairless. Or you can simply state you’re a modern guy who’s up with the trendy smooth look!

Whatever works for you Lauren!

CLARE.

PS: I was an Aerobics instructor in the early 90’s and I was hairless all over as was popular in gyms at the time.

[Anonymous]

Its funny i recently had a girl at work ask me why i had little hair on my arms, i told her my wife had been waxing her legs and i asked her if it hurt and she put it on my arm and said “you tell me” so i shaved it all off to match.
Ok so its a little white lie but she got a laugh out of it.
But i cant keep making up that excuse.
Thankyou girls your advise has been most helpful.
Lauren

[Anonymous]

When I was asked the same, I simply replied that I hated body hair, it looked really yuck. They just agreed and then never asked again.

xxx

Kelly Jones

[Anonymous]

I shave all over. I was in a group at work talking and the conversation got int gay guys and they bought up about another guy at work who waxes legs, arms, eyebrows and everything. I just said I shave all over, and waxing hurts way too much, and everyone sort of moved onto other subjects!! I am at the stage now where I don’t really give a toss what they think about me. I work in a very male dominated industry (and mostly homophobic!) I do my job well, and if they don’t like what I chose to do to my body, that is their problem!!!! Plus it just feels SO GOOD!!!
Same with my family, my sister called me a ‘poofter’ 😯 😆 when my other sis asked if I shaved my legs, I just said yes but not only my legs, I shave all over!!!
Its all a confidence thing, I am no longer embarrassed by what I do or who I am.
I heard a great saying the other day, can’t remember where but it goes like this – “what other people think about me is none of my business”

[Anonymous]

One could always tell people what Bruce Chatwin did when he caught ( and died of ) AIDS. He said he caught a rare and unusual disease in far West China . It worked for him.
The first symptom is hair loss in vital areas such as arms, legs, then chest and a peculiar shaping ( in a feminine manner) of the eyebrows. In the critical stages , it can lead to the involuntary application of lipstick and maquillage in general. There is no known cure and will eventually prove to be fatal ( all those affected will eventually die)….. APPARENTLY.
OR…you can always tell the truth..!!!

” A moose licked me!!”

[Anonymous]

I Find the only thing i need to go out in public is confidence,i have many different levels of girlyness to suit the public arena i wish to step into,i recently attended daylesford chillout festival in girl mode for 4 days, went on ausies first tg cruise organised by cwd,and won the dt’s annual drag comp.can’t seem to get a photo on this site,not good at computers,i do have some on facebook. Davina Malloo,i can also be found at most melb tg meetup events,being a tgirl is so much more fun when you are out and about.

[Anonymous]

I think that going out in public is 90 per cent attitude.
Walk with your head held high and look confident. Know where you are going and what you are doing.
If you look nervous and apprehensive people will notice you.
Do’nt try to be too flashy and note how other women are dressed.
If you look confident other women will accept you.

[Anonymous]

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I think that going out in public is 90 per cent attitude.
Walk with your head held high and look confident. Know where you are going and what you are doing.
If you look nervous and apprehensive people will notice you.
Do’nt try to be too flashy and note how other women are dressed.
If you look confident other women will accept you.

Karen has this covered well as its you who must relax and focus on the goals in mind, people look, but in most cases know your just trying to be yourself, SO be who you wish to be at the start be, I do shave all over seeing as I can not get my hands on large tubes of Veet Grrrr 👿 But yes I am more happy now than I was 3 years ago about myself.

[Anonymous]

Old post but thought I would add my own two cents woth.
I have been going out dressed in public now for about a year and each time I slowly gain more confidence. I have now reached the point where I felt ready to spend the entire day as myself, shopping, having lunch and doing normal things in the city centre.

I took along a close genetic female friend to hold my hand and build my confidence and it worked a treat. I have to say I had an absolute ball and will be doing this regularly now.

I am sure I couldnt have done this on my own as I needed some emotional support but hope in the future I won’t need anyone for this. It is more fun shopping with a friend though. I look back on my first forays out when I felt like a deer caught in a car’s headlights and smile to myself wondering what all the fuss was about.

[Anonymous]

I’m with you Rachael.
I too will feel like a deer in car headlights, as do most of us here I am sure.
That part of my transformation I have yet to experience. I wonder how I will cope. I am trying to be as friendly and helpfull to my partner so that she will help me. Failing that I wish for a friendship with someone on this forum, so that we can travel incognito together.

Plus, You look a pass to me, from your tiny avatar.

Jannine. XXX