Hard to find somebody who has like interests

[Anonymous]

Hi Kiki . . . Gurls .
Most of the following comes under the heading of ” Stating the bloody obvious “, but I thought I`d add my 10 cents worth anyway .
Along with another gurl , 12 months ago , I started a private contact group for local { Briz / Goldcoast } ” like minded ” gurls . For the specific purpose of actually instigating meetings in private and I can tell you it`s been an uphill battle all the way .

Out of 12 , supposedly seriously keen members , only 6 have ever fronted up to a get together other than the initial face to face meeting with one of our “founders” to establish that they were genuine .
The majority are of course in hetero relationships of one kind or another which makes finding time and/or place for meetings extremely difficult . Without doubt the biggest problem is finding a safe venue .
But the few get togethers that we`ve managed have been worth the effort and we`ll keep trying throughout 2005 , even though we start the new year having ” culled ” almost half of our membership because of their inactivity .

I know this doesn`t exactly paint a particularly rosey picture for those who are trying to get together with other ” like minded ” gurls , but it is the reality of being a closet CD / TV and you really do have to accept that .

The bottom line of course is ” persistence ” . . . it takes time and effort . All you can do is keep trying . . . keep on sending out those emails , troll the online CD groups and chat rooms and get your profile and pics out there anywhere you can and keep on “surfing” the profiles of other gurls for “possibles ” .

Good luck . . . Kisses . . . Lena

[Anonymous]

Hi All,

Married Melbourne CD here and in similar situation. I am also unfortuantely rather masculine, so find that this prevents others from wanting to meet. I am very keen on meeting others CDs in private, without feeling as though I am being judged. At the end of the day, I just love and need to unwind, I find the best way to do this is to dress.
Hope to be able to help and meet a few of you.
Luv Simone

[Anonymous]

well all abt time judy said something ,,, i do agree with most comments … i get at least 1 email a week asking abt clubs / dressing / seahorse ….
Most girls i hear from are married and wife doesnt know and i agree it is hard to say hello ,,,,i can see it now ,,,, luv i going out for 2 hours be back later ,,,,,, so how is this person going to find time to meet someone in a motel or just a chat to talk abt themselves.. I have 8 people in the sydney area that which to say hi for a chat in a park but cant get away …
also every time i have gone on a work trip around nsw ( 1 a month ) i put out a message if you would like to have a coffee and chat in the local macs ,,,, in 18 months 1 girl in tarree has meet me for a chat only for 10 mins but was her first time to chat to someone…. So i try and will continue to try and help people because i enjoy the look from some people that i have helped …..

Anyway enough from me and if you are in nsw at least say hello when im tripping again

hugs from judy

[Anonymous]

Hi Judy and everyone else.
You are a very caring person Judy and are always trying to help us crpssdressers who,in what ever form are trying to come out.I think most CD’ are careful and are very aware of themselfs so tend to be over carefull,but are doing whÃ¥t they feel is right.It’s great to see the more experianced girls trying to help all they can,keep up the good work.
Love from Sarah[/b]

[Anonymous]

hi, I am guilty of not getting back to people who message me and I do apologise,new year resolution to keep in contact …feel a little apprehensive about meeting- which annoys me more than anyone else
but please keep up the contact girls and the support is great
Luv Cherylxx

[Anonymous]

Hi all again,

Well I agree with a lot of the sentiments that have been expressed. It is hard for a closet CD to get out and about and meet people without making their better halves supsicious. This is especially true if you are like me and essentially a home person i.e. I dont go to the pub or anything like that!

My wife does know about me dressing, but she still would not understand me wanting to meet other people so that means I am really still “in the closet” as they say!

As for getting into the chat room, well my comptuer hours are varied and am not often on here at night times, and if I am would not be in a position to be in a chat room without “getting caught”. Most of the time I have been on this site there has been nobody else logged in.

So it gets harder and harder (if you would pardon the pun!) to get to meet somebody else that is in the same sort of position I am in…..but thats fine, one day it will happen, I just hope I enjoy it when I do. Maybe the thought is sexier than the actual event, who knows?

Kiki

[Anonymous]

I have quite a few friends who are in the same situation… married and finding it hard to get out. I do quite a few makeovers during the day lunchtime or early finish from work. Once you have the dressing confidence then maybe we can arrange a Melbourne afternoon tea.

Footy season is here soon, A good time to slip away from the game early and dress, especially if your team is loosing! A friend who does makeovers in Sydney once told me the difference between Sydney and Melbourne girls is that, the sydney girls say they are going to the football, but go for makeovers instead. ..The Melbourne girls actually GO to the football and then get dressed!”

And yes sometimes the fantasy is better than the real thing but you’ll never know unless you try. But so far our Melbourne T-girls group has had some fun.
We are going to the Muse Bar for the drag show this friday ofr Tanya’s Birthday if anyone would like to join us. she will be the one with the Birthday cake!

[Anonymous]

Hey girls ,
I am originally from Melbourne ..but was tottally in the closet …I was in the Fashion industry in Sth Yarra wholesale and import …ladies fashion and shoes…I would always order the summer spring autumn and winter SAMPLES from overseas in my size.. only 20% made it thru too production….You were not allowed too sell these items as no duty was paid ……..I just had too take them home ….fantastic you think ????? …. it was until my girl friend got into my special room ….. total denial from MOI!!! Great for the girlfriend as she was so conciderate …….disposed of all these unwanted girl stuff….total purge ….. silly Ella ….get out there girls …have fun

luv Ella

[Anonymous]

Hi Girls ,
I am getting divorced after 18 yrs of marriage …my partener was supportive of my C.D. but found a new group of people who i dont approve ..and is now useing my C.D . as a reason for her bad behavior which i wont accept…..The Good news is I have won custody of my child and have a new partener that accepts ELLA….I went dancing after seperation too meet a partener as ella luvs too dance and my Ex siad if she saw me near another woman she would tell her about my C.D….It was hard but I can tell you there are a lot of understanding parteners out there that are sick of the traditional male ego ….we have a lot too offer …My partener was invited by her work mate too a 30th birthday at the
local leauges club THE LETTER P was the THEME She insisted I Go as ELLA the PROSTITUte…….I went and all the her friends were tottally awe struck and imediatley picked MOI! for who I am …I had a wonderful TIME and now I have a whole group of straight people that want to see more of Ella…………..Get out there girls and have some fun LUV ELLA

[Anonymous]

Hi Girls ,
I am getting divorced after 18 yrs of marriage …my partener was supportive of my C.D. but found a new group of people who i dont approve ..and is now useing my C.D . as a reason for her bad behavior which i wont accept…..The Good news is I have won custody of my child and have a new partener that accepts ELLA….I went dancing after seperation too meet a partener as ella luvs too dance and my Ex siad if she saw me near another woman she would tell her about my C.D….It was hard but I can tell you there are a lot of understanding parteners out there that are sick of the traditional male ego ….we have a lot too offer …My partener was invited by her work mate too a 30th birthday at the
local leauges club THE LETTER P was the THEME She insisted I Go as ELLA the PROSTITUte…….I went and all the her friends were tottally awe struck and imediatley picked MOI! for who I am …I had a wonderful TIME and now I have a whole group of straight people that want to see more of Ella…………..Get out there girls and have some fun LUV ELLA

[Anonymous]

FIrst of all to Ella, I am glad that you have found what you are looking for. That’s great, its not for everybody however.

I am perfectly happy in my marriage, my wife is probably one of the few people that would put up with me for any length of time. Its nice to have a partner that does not judge too much.

To Kristina, well you look pretty good to me, far more convincing than I will ever look. I dont have any desire to join a club or go out in public but just want to find one or two kindred souls that want to share, whether thats in person or anonymously via email. It does not matter to me. I am shy till you get to know me then almost anything goes…….

Stay cool girls, enjoy what you enjoy getting out of dressing and forget the rest.!

Kiki

[Anonymous]

Hi Kiki, it is a shame when we can’t do more for each other, I’m married too, to a wonderful lady who indulges me in my desires. I tend not to go out these days, I used to a lot but time has faded the desire or need to do this. Most times we spend here at home chatting to friends on the net, via Yahoo and even using a web camera which can be fun.
If you want to chat why not e-mail me, maybe we can link up sometime?
Does your wife know about you? Phaedra, my wife and mistress, finds it sad that so many of us are practically alone and often she will spend time chatting to them while I go about the house work. FAir division of work, **LOL**
Anyway, if you feel like it, write.
Helen

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Hi all,

Not sure this is in the right place but anyway…..

I have been looking for a like minded cross dresser to share experiences with but am not having much luck at all….

It is difficult being a married cross dresser. I do it for the enjoyment not because I look good or anything remotely like that . I have no desire to go out in public like a lot of you other girls but would like to meet and dress in a private setting with other girl/s. After that I am not sure what I want but that is part of the allure I guess.
Kiki (Andrew)

[Anonymous]

“Getting a nice group of girls together for any activity is like pulling teeth” as I,and others, have said on numerous occassions. I go out to nightclubs etc with a great group of girls which is a lot of fun but I really want to drag the housebound gals out as well…it is not anywhere near as scary as you percieve ladies and if indulged in excess can be even more fun
I got a bit peeved off with such a small social group (my interstate friends who know me understand that I am a very social person) so I started my own local yahoo group for the sole express purpose of getting anyone who was interested to join and start socialising – intially online and then in person. I started it in august and now have about 20 members. I am very strict about who I let in and I police any application unless it’ someone I know personally or someone who’s been referred. NO TROLLS/NO FAKES.I have used this place (TrannyRadio) as a model of administration and it’s been quite successful.
I try to make the site interesting and fun with polls and little stories so that people want to be involved. We are at the stage now where we have a venue and a face-to-face thingy is imminent. That being said, and taking into account Lena’s wise words, we’ll wait and see but unless we get off our wiggling behinds and try things nothing will ever happen.
I dont expect everyone who joins will eventually get out into the real world but if I can get a few more out I will have done my job.
If anyone elsewhere would like to know more about this with a view of setting something up in their home town please feel free to contact me.
Other than that, have a merry xmas one and all!

Emma
xxxxx

[Anonymous]

hi emma

I am tgirl in melbourne, 35, non smoker, social drinker, have girlfriend but would really like tgirl friends in melbourne to go out clubbing with and to chat to. I have been dressing for several years now but have only been out once dressed, would like to go out more often but with group of people i can trust, so let me know if you ever want to start group in melbourne, there is seahorse club but i haven’t been yet. Would be good to go out to nightspots in melbourne with group of tgirls as friends and have fun. I know what you mean when you say it is hard to find people to go out with who are tgirls, very hard even in melbourne. Anyway Have a good xmas, and happy new year. email my anytime at melissacd04@yahoo.com.au

Melissa
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[Anonymous]

melissa,
Yes I’m sure the problems I have found in dear old Adelaide are common in Melbourne and to all parts of Oz honey, and probably common to all parts of the world!
I think it was Ron Barassi who said: ‘If it is to be it is up to me’. Wise words from a boofhead ex-footballer lol. I get to Melbourne occassionally through each year for work so maybe we can do something over there also. A lovely Melbourne girl has just joined my Adelaide group so maybe between us all we can start something there also!
The link to my group is on my profile Melissa so please feel free to join an lets see if we can get you Vic gals up and running.
There are girls all over the country who are willing to help anyone who is genuine to get out and about. I know Judy and Wendy and Rosemarie do wonderful work with people in NSW (I’m sure there are loads of others too)

Emma xxxx