If you`re so femme how come you`re not interested in guys ?

[Anonymous]

hi Lena, well a most interesting viewpoint! I thought I might to be the only one to feel so totally different when I am in my male and female aspects, but am so happy to discover there are others out there that feel this way too.

As a male I have no interest in other men, but as Melody I most certainly do! So I am heterosexual both ways, of that I have no doubt. Never having had a sexual encounter with a man (in this life), I can only remember what it’s like, although my SO and I swap roles sometimes and I can be totally feminine and I do enjoy it so much.

It’s funny sometimes when I am walking in the street, I see an attractive lady and the male side is looking as all males do, while at the same time my female side is looking at her clothes, how she wears her hair just as we all do. When I (Mel) see a man that I find attractive sometimes I imagine how nice it would be to make love with him, while my male side is totally detached and not at all interested.

I have never been out in public as Melody (would love to one day) so have to be careful not to be seen making Melody eyes at men, but I do understand that there are two of me in here and we both have our desires and sexual needs.

I have also never met another gurl as Melody and would love to do that one day, sometimes, despite having a wonderfully supportive partner, I feel very much alone.

Thankyou Lena I wish you all peace, love and joy Love Melody

[Anonymous]

Hi Lena,
You used the magic word ‘SEX’. I used to try and join in on Thursday nights or any other night and attempt to spice the boring, mundane conversations up with sexual inuendo and hints of my own sexuality.

I don’t bother any more. I like to call a spade a shovel and to talk in serious sexually driven inuendo, to have fun but… ‘just not on Tranny Radio.

As for ‘no males’ apperaing, I can understand that and I’m sure you do really too. There are so many wankers out there that it would be a shame to ruin what should be a wonderful experience by giving it up to an arse whole male!

[Anonymous]

great topic I am in a different position (hah), when I am dressed I like both guys and girls and like to reveal myself and my interests slowly. I have a few TGirlfriends and we enjoy getting together and dressing and role playing lesbians, I also enjoy the boys maintaining my enfemme personality and having sex is wonderful. As I said love it both ways. When I am in boy mode my interests are mainly women but am seriously attracted to TGirls. Not sure why I just accept it all and enjoy pleasuring all concerned.

Horny Hugs
Christie

[Anonymous]

I think its great that we all have different desires, and that we can accept each other the way we are. But I also enjoy the full femme treatment from guys. The most wonderful time I have ever had was when I went to a group sex night. I guess there was about 10 guys and 6 of us CD Girls. I forgot that we weren’t GG girls, it was wonderful.

Tanya

[Anonymous]

Ok so it finally comes out…. It is ME who is the weirdo…. In boy mode I am 100% totally and wholeheartly BISEXUAL…. I like boys as much as girls (both GG and TG) and unfortunately have been a little indiscrete at times about this in some straight clubs. When dressed, I have absolutely no interest in sex at all, at least not since I was a teenager…lol

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The thing is i want to go out and hit the nightlife in melbourne and experience that male contact although i don’t know how i should tell her???

Claudia the only thing you can tell her is the truth. If you tell her anything else then you are only being dishonest to yourself.

[Alice]

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Ok so it finally comes out…. It is ME who is the weirdo…. In boy mode I am 100% totally and wholeheartly BISEXUAL…. I like boys as much as girls (both GG and TG) and unfortunately have been a little indiscrete at times about this in some straight clubs. When dressed, I have absolutely no interest in sex at all

I find nothing strange about that.

As a male, I’m completely heterosexual in a moderately disinterested way. Married with child and reasonably happy aside from the constant fight with depression that has been with me since long before my marriage.

As a female, I’m completely sexually disinterested.

Now, I’ve come to realise that it is well within the normal characteristics of a autogynephilac.

I find masculinity utterly repulsive and neither like looking masculine nor want anything intimate to do with a male. ❗ I’m content with my physical sex but have shifted my male appearance towards androgeny so that I don’t look too masculine.

Alice

[Anonymous]

One thing I find really frustrating is trying to find a guy who is interested in seeing me as a women. I go to all this trouble dressing and being as femme as possible to then find guys want me to penetrate them. I like to have my desire to feel femme, reinforced by having a straight sexual encounter with men. I like to forget that I have male gender parts, and I hate being touched in that area.
Tanya

[Anonymous]

Since a pelvic exam on Friday last indicated I’ve got ovaries as well as testes – something long suspected by the medicos but never before confirmed – I’m probably th last person to ask about sex.

{UPDATE} False alarm, alas. Something even more weird though, so the “don’t ask me” bit holds.[/UPDATE]

Having both sets of gonads means you’re not very good at either role, and role is how you see it, no matter which one you desperately want to play, nor what clothing the biological costume department gave you for your part.

Since the F set staged a palace revolt and flooded my system with enough oestrogen tio turn a football team into a cheerleader squad, all I want to be is as Female on the outside as I’ve always been on the inside. I still love my wife just as much as before, possibly even more so, I guess we’re both Lez.

I’m not attracted to M-M sex in any way. M-F yes, but I’d have to look and feel a lot more F than today. Maybe in a few years.

[Anonymous]

I tend to feel the same way as you Lena but this was not always the case. In my 20s I would have shuddered at the idea that I might fancy having sex with a guy.

I think for me there has a process of sexual feminisation which in time has moved me from being M2F hetero to a sort of bisexuality. I say sort become as I wander around I have never ever found any guy sexually attractive. However I love the idea that they might find me sexually attractive.

However having agreed with you – I’ll now disagree with your opening premise ie. that if your so femme how come….. Gender and sexuality are quite separate, however the TS assessments of the 70s made great play of sexuality and I remember getting caught up in it. And I know it is quite possible to be TS and sexually attracted to GGs….or to be totally sexually disinterested.

Fiona xx

[Anonymous]

Hi girls (and any boys reading!)

As I have posted elsewhere I have only started cross dressing over the last couple of years, and I dont really dress to become a woman but rather to experience the femininity of it all (if that make sense, not sure it does??). I know I am definitely not passable as a woman (not from the neck up anyway)

I was strictly heterosexual up until a few years ago too, had a few offers from men but always knocked them back! However, over the last few years the thought of having sex with a man has become a significant fantasy for me (now I know there is a difference between fantasy and reality but this is quite a strong feeling.) I would also love to meet another cd/tv with me in man mode and treat them as a woman (still heterosexual there I think???) Likewise I would love to meet a cd/tv and get dressed together and have sex as girls (so lesbian tendencies???). I still love sex with my wife(strictly as a man) so I guess at the end of the day I am bi-sexual or at least bi-curious.

Now all of this is strictly fantasy in the absence of offers!! Maybe one day I will be able to fulfill one or more of them until then I will juse enjoy the experience of panties/bra and dress.

Hope some of this made sense?

Kiki

[Anonymous]

Just to keep the ball rolling . . . .

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I go to all this trouble dressing and being as femme as possible to then find guys want me to penetrate them.

Yes well I can relate to that one Tanya and no doubt plenty of other gurls can too . However there are guys out there who are able to relate to you totaly as a female . . . of course trying to find one of them can prove terminally frustrating , but believe me if you do find one the gratification is well worth the effort of the search .
So maybe you should keep up with the group sex nights , with your looks you’re sure to find some nice guy eventually sweetie .

Kiki . . . . my heart goes out to you and your fantasy sweetie . For me real time interaction with others , whether with guys {a guy. Guys ? I should be so lucky!} is everything to me . . . and I don’t necessarily mean sexual interaction .

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….. Gender and sexuality are quite separate

Although we do seem to agree in general , I’m not so sure I agree with you there Fiona , I would have thought the two were inextricably interrelated . . even with a case of any “apparent” lack of sexual interest being in itself one of the complexities of a persons sexual orientation .

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Ok so it finally comes out…. It is ME who is the weirdo….

Sorry Cathii but it’s not just you , the bottom line is . . {at the risk of causing mass offence} . . we’re all weirdo’s sweetie . . . . LOL

My own story is , that after years {since childhood} of having a casual but not obsessive lingerie fetish and remaining heterosexual throughout , I’ve only actually come into my own as a total female personality over the last 5-6 years and only since the first stirrings of my personal genesis prompted my male alter ego to buy my first complete femme outfit and make-up . Since I’ve established myself as a seperate personality my male alter ego has lost all interest in lingerie unless it’s on an attractive female . . . he’s terminally heterosexual .
When I first went full femme I was only interested in interracting with gurls like myself but over the last two to three years I’ve gradually developed a normal female attraction to guys too .
I have no sexual interest in gg’s , except for a certain amount of “tit envy” . . LOL . . and I had this confirmed recently when , against my better judgement , I allowed myself to be talked into a 3some by a “gurl” friend . . The third party was a gg with a penchance for cd’s . I found that not only was I unable to “rise to the occasion” but at the sight of an attractive naked gg my male alter ego “took over” . . . but being dressed in one of my outfits “he” was too embarrassed to “perform” either .
This strange tale has a slightly happier sequel in that “he” {my male alter ego} repeated the 3some in person a couple of weeks later and although not too happy with being in a sexual situation with another guy and preferring to have been alone with the GG he performed well enough and generally had fun . . . But I don’t think he’ll be repeating the exercise unless the 3some is with two other gg’s . . LOL . .
This all only confirmed what “we” already knew . . . . we are two quite different and independant personalities .

[Alice]

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Just to keep the ball rolling . . .

I really wish you hadn’t.

I have no idea what makes you think that this is an R-rated forum, but I for one certainly don’t believe that details of your sexual activity belong here. I consider there to be a very significant difference between discussing preferences and discussing specific sexual acts.

Perhaps it’s me who is out of step with others here. If so, I’ll leave.

Alice

[Anonymous]

Ok Alice . . .
Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I respect yours and your right to express it , but ! !
I personally started this topic with the opening line . . .

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Hi gurls . .
Let`s talk about sex !
A topic that often seems to be taboo amongst crossdressers .

I haven’t assumed that this is an R rated forum , nor for that matter that it isn’t , simply that we are all adults . Any discussion on a topic such as this one is obviously going to include a certain amount of sexual objectivity and for my part I’ve consciously restricted this to polite euphemisms . I considered that my little story was an interesting illustration of the percularities of my own situation and offer no apologies for recounting it here . . . after all I did say quite unambiguously , “Let’s talk about sex !”
I don’t consider anyone to be either in or out of step . As they say ,” we all march to the beat of a different drum” and this can clearly be seen in the replies to this topic . . . and frequently the significant difference in preferences does come down to a matter of the liking or disliking for specific sexual acts , which other gurls have also politely alluded to in several posts in this forum .

. . . . Lena

[Anonymous]

Diane wrote :

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As for ‘no males’ appearing , I can understand that and I’m sure you do really too. There are so many wankers out there . . .

Not going to disagree with you there Diane , but gurls like us have one distinct advantage over gg’s . . . an insight into the male psyche .
Any gurl with more than one online profile with a photo on it know’s from their email responses what wankers many {most?} guys can be , but with our mixture of feminine wiles and male insight I’ve found that most of them can be easily handled and are usualy quick to apologise for their initial crassness .

Lena

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[Anonymous]

I am still trying to find my way though this.
In Jan went to my first support group meeting so you can see I am still in early days.

Questions
Like how to address the desire to be in a relationship with a GG but also wanting to be one Seriously wishing I was female in a lesbian relationship.

As far as sexual preference goes I am 100% to female. Just talking to macho guys is very hard, we have nothing in common. These guys seem like idiots. Talking to effeninate fellas is OK they don’t seem so hell bent on arguing to prove they are top dog even when they know nothing about the topic they are barking about. This makes it impossible to discuss anything. Mind though there are some women like this to.

I get high just being in the presence of women, I feel I am in my element when with women. In male environments I feel seriously out of place, like I do not belong there.

I adore girls and love to be soft, gentle and caring to girls. I love making girls calm and happy

Heaven is being dressed as a girl with girls and being as feminine as a I like.
Being feminine feels so comfortable and feels wonderful.

Just a few random ideas