More feminine than the girls?

[Anonymous]

hi i was just reading your post and i would say yes we are more fem than females
why we have had a long time to think about dressing and how a woman should look and iam not just saying from the out side the visual but from the inside this is where your female side is

it seems a lot of girls forget that side most are only into the out side look what people can see the real beauty comes from the inside and it will flow out to the way you look your visual appearance

its true the real beauty comes from the inside so girls take care of your inner girl and under stand her you may find you will be happer than you think

[Anonymous]

i just like to be classy femme. it doesn’t happen all that much so its not a lot of trouble.

[cathybch]

i agree with what you say i have simular thoughts
love when woman wore hats and gloves no mant do now days even to the horse races lots just wear fasinaters not real hats

[fiona]

There is across dressing cartoon, where 2 drop dead georgous young girls are looking in a shop Widow and one says to the other
” isn’t this a shop where men can buy ladies clothes.?” The other girl replies. ” oh yes , but they are way to feminine for us!”

[Anonymous]

Because I’m tall and in other ways not overly “passable” I make a conscious effort to be as “presentable” as possible for each situation (work, shopping etc). I receive a lot of compliments on my attire from work colleagues, and sometimes from randoms in the street. My 40s red hat (felt trilby-like) gets of lot of comments. Although, in a way, I’m over-compensating, I love the style that I’ve developed, which is a mix of 30s/40s and modern. Interestingly, there’s a strong hint of that era in the current fashions.

I was in Paris in early January: now there’s a place with very chic, fashionable females. I was daggy by comparison.

Regards,

Chantelle

[Anonymous]

I personally enjoy feminine clothing, heels and accessories. When home alone, I dress in more boring attire but always try to dress to impress when out. I definitely dress with more feminine clothing / style than many of my genetic friends. As said by many on this topic, I guess I agree I am somewhat trying to overcompensate for what my body structure lacks and my voice gives away. My grandmother and own mum always adopted to look your best when out of the house, so in a way, it comes naturally to me.

If I were to transition, I don’t think the effort to appear so feminine would be sustainable in the work place. However, that will not be in the foreseeable future. Until then, I am content trying to be as feminine as possible in appearance, even if somewhat more than the genetic women I pass on the street.

[Deleted User]

Sammie_1 wrote:

My grandmother and own mum always adopted to look your best when out of the house, so in a way, it comes naturally to me.

Thank You Sammie for giving a reason to explain something I have always subscribed to. My mother, and her sister, my favourite auntie, were always stylishly dressed and never left the house without making sure they were presentable.
I still do it, even if in boy mode, I won’t go out unless I feel I am, at the very least, neatly attired.

[Martina]

ClaireStafford wrote:

I still do it, even if in boy mode, I won’t go out unless I feel I am, at the very least, neatly attired.

Same here Claire. Sometimes I feel a little overdressed among the slobs of Upper Woy Woy!

[JaneHenderson]

What a lovely thread.

For me there are two things. One is that I love the act of becoming (sexy) feminine. So the two or more hours I spend becoming Jane — putting aside the joys of thinking about it for days in advance — are as wonderful as the moment I stand gorgeous in front of the mirror. Getting ready is never a chore.

Then there is the joy of being a sexy woman, and here other woman are my allies, not yardsticks to be judged against or bettered. I love the intimacy that comes with their feeling the fabric of my dress, and my bony hips, and praising them both. And I love their fun in steering me towards the man that we’ve chosen as my prey.

Enough. I love this too much. xx

[Anonymous]

The day after my post, I wore a new outfit to work and received glowing compliments from three of my female colleagues. One went on to say that she appreciates my efforts to look as feminine as possible, which decreases the incongruence she experiences when interacting with me. She also said that she wished more of the cross-dressers (her term, not mine) she knows would make the same effort. I’m not sure how many she knows and where.

I’m fortunate in that I have, at times, the financial resources and, more importantly, the freedom to “make the effort”. Nevertheless, the message I got from that interaction is that some people want and/or expect us to be as feminine as possible, even to (or definitely to) the point of being more feminine than the girls.

Regards,

Chantelle