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Playing and sexuality
There appears to be some sort of stigma associated with girls who are interested in meeting up with girls which may lead to intimate fun/play.I realise that some girls enjoy purely the thought of being transformed and strutting around and admiring themselves fem.I certainly enjoy doing that and sometimes it is very fullfilling, I do also like to be fully transformed and to be in an intimate situation with another girl, exploring our femenine side to life. I understand that TgR is not a “pick up” site but I believe that people shouldn’t be discouraged or frowned upon for wanting to bring their sexuality out into the open within Tranny Radio.
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I fully agree with you Wendy.
Yes there is a real need in most of us to be accepted as a female person, and that’s a perfectly good reason for dressing and being seen as a woman. If that’s all some of us need, that’s fine.
But for others of us, and I include myself, there’s a very strong sexual aspect of it all. We all need someone to love and be sexual with, and the femme part of me has no desire to be with a male partner. For intimate encounters I would enjoy being close and adventurous with either real girls or transgendered male-to-female companions.
When I am Clare, I want to be wooed and caressed by a person who understands how I feel and what I want. I want soft whispers and long slow times of gentle love, and for that I prefer the company of people who are femme, not homme.
I want softness and sensitivity, perfume and satin, rather than whiskers and body odour.
Good post, Wendy. It should stir up a fair amount of responses.
Bless you, Clare
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I’m with Wendy and Clare on this one. Personally if I was to have a sexual relationship whilst dressed enfemme, it would not be with a male in male attire. With another “sister”. yeah fine, or with a naturally born female. I also would want them to appreciate how I feel as a women, dressed as a women. Straight males, no thanks, nor gays, just not my cup of tea.
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I agree with all 3 of you ! I would like to be caressed by a GG or a MTF girl when dressed “En Femme ” but the other gurl would have to be quite passable for me to feel that way .Me being selfish ?perhaps , but its just the way I feel …
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I concur.
We don’t need more discrimination and prejudice thrust upon us. Especially from our very own, albeit small, community. Our sexuality should be celebrated, not shunned…
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I also agree that our sexuality should be celebrated. I think that we are all adult enough to accept that everyone is different and that should include who we like to share ourselves with.
Perhaps a forum for meeting others could be arranged? Of course, it would have to be tasteful.
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I agree with all of you and for myself, being hetro with a partner, I can’t help but feel attracted to other cd’s when in female dress. Perhaps I’m just a lesbian in a mans body, but it’s something that makes my pulse race.
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Ladies,
I don’t think anyone frowns or discriminates against any member on TR for we all realise we are the same yet individually very different.
The key issues are:
1. TgR is not a “pick up” joint.
2. Most girls do not want unsolicited approaches.
3. If you want to explore the sexual aspect then be honest in your profile disclosure.Cheers,
Wendy
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Feeling aroused whilst dressed is part and parcel of the whole experience. To go one step further and become intimate with another girl is a nother step in exploring the feminine side. Like Wendy I feel that if we meet and are accepting of possible intimate encounters, then subtle statement scontained in our profiles ought to indicate this.
If it is not to explore our female side, then why do we dress?
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Quote:Feeling aroused whilst dressed is part and parcel of the whole experience.
For me, that stopped being the case many, many years ago. Now, dressing is about becoming that persona, presenting that image and being accepted in society as that person when I choose to be her.
There are many, many different points on the T continuum, and arousal whilst dressed is on that continuum. It is a part that almost all T-girls go through. There are some who, like you appear to be saying is the case for you, are at that point right now.
It is no more wrong for someone to live their entire life at that point than for someone else who moves further along the continuum. It is a mistake, however, to assume that because that is where you are at, it is where everybody else is at too.
Quote:To go one step further and become intimate with another girl is a nother step in exploring the feminine side.I guess it is for some. While I am quite happy to socialise with other girls, I can’t say that I have ever been interested in being intimate with another CD, even when I did find dressing arousing.
To me, exploring femininity is about learning to socialise and interact with other people whilst being the female that I want to be when I adopt that persona.
Quote:Like Wendy I feel that if we meet and are accepting of possible intimate encounters, then subtle statement scontained in our profiles ought to indicate this.This is where I would really like to see a section of the profile only visible when logged in. Such statements placed overtly in a publically readable profile has the risk of damaging the public image of transgendered people in general. Considering how bad our image is already with the general public, that’s gotta be bad!
Quote:If it is not to explore our female side, then why do we dress?I dress to be my female self. My female persona is sexually disinterested. Not that my male persona is much more interested…
Alice
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Right at this point I have similar feelings to Alice. Right now I have the sex drive of a brick. Lowering of libido is something that most T-girls face. As I am in the process of trying to get on HRT, it is something that has to be discussed with my shrink.
My personal view is that the Idea of penetrative sex in any form is something of a turn off for me. And with a male partner, well we all remember how we felt . I suppose that when I have gone as far with my transformation as I feel makes me comfortable. Then I will be what a t-girl friend called me a few weeks ago ” a dyke with a dick”. That’s it in a nut shell -
It is just the same principle as Maslow purports in his hierarchy of needs! His end result being self actualisation. Meaning (inferring) the body is no longer needed as the spirtual side is all powerful. We progress as humans through various phases at various rates and in this forum there are representatives of all. Hence our discussions.
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Quote:Ladies,
I don’t think anyone frowns or discriminates against any member on TR for we all realise we are the same yet individually very different.Are you sure?
Quote:1. TgR is not a “pick up” joint.You honestly don’t think people have “picked up” here?
Quote:2. Most girls do not want unsolicited approaches.How do you know? You speak for “most girls” now?
Quote:3. If you want to explore the sexual aspect then be honest in your profile disclosure.Concur…
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Quote:Quote:1. TgR is not a “pick up” joint.
You honestly don’t think people have “picked up” here?
Many probably have whether it was for a simple one nighter or a more committed relationship but it isn’t the picking up that is the point here. Perhaps Wendy should have rephrased “pick up joint”. To be a little more accurate TR is not a “meat market” that allows advertising for sex. I’m sure you know what is meant by that and have seen web sites that cater for just that sort of thing.
Quote:Quote:2. Most girls do not want unsolicited approaches.How do you know? You speak for “most girls” now?
I don’t know about most girls but she sure is speaking on my behalf. One of the most annoying things is having written specifically in my profile that I am not interested in that side of things yet STILL having guys sending through messages which are less than savory. Oh and when I use the term “guys” that is how I chose to view the people that do this sort of thing, lets face it they aren’t “ladies”
Sexuality shouldn’t be some thing that is repressed or suppressed, but there should be a common respect that there is a time and place to express those feelings and emotions. Some people, such as myself have no issues discussing sexuality, other people may not be as open. It really is just respect for other peoples feelings that denotes what the right time and place actually is…..
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Well, as far as I am concerned, I don’t discriminate or at best I try to be tolerant and accept there are differences. I haven’t found a lot of intolerance here, at least not enough to be overwhelming!
As far as ‘Pick up Joint’ is concerned, it depends on your personal aspirations and needs. I believe there are have to be a few who have become friends. Whatever develops from that is another story, but I don’t get the impression that this is a ‘Pick up Joint’.
And yes, I do believe that most girls don’t want solicited approaches, going through most groups and the girls profiles that state the person is taken, in a relationship and are not interested in anything other than friendship.
Oh, and one other thing, I don’t think Wendy was claiming to ‘speak for most girls’Quote:Quote:Ladies,
I don’t think anyone frowns or discriminates against any member on TR for we all realise we are the same yet individually very different.Are you sure?
Quote:1. TgR is not a “pick up” joint.You honestly don’t think people have “picked up” here?
Quote:2. Most girls do not want unsolicited approaches.How do you know? You speak for “most girls” now?
Quote:3. If you want to explore the sexual aspect then be honest in your profile disclosure.Concur…
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The thread of this particular forum seems to have stopped back in August but I’ll put my 10 cents worth in anyway . or at least , my perspective .
I started dressing for a full femme transformation about 7 years ago and found that over the first 18 months I developed a completely female persona when I was dressed . . . with my male counter-part still remaining hetero . Like many other ‘new’ gurls , at first I wasn’t interested in guys at all , a left over of course of my dominating hetero male alter-ego . . . and only got together with other gurls . But as my female personality became complete and started to instantly take over once the gurl clothes and make-up went on I found myself becoming more attracted to men . Now I’m far less attracted sexually to other gurls but have what I see as a pefectly normal female attraction to men .
. . With regard “Pick up joints” . . . . Any group website of whatever nature is going to give like minded members the opportunity to develop personal friendships and in many cases , meet up and share some aspect of whatever the group interest is . TR is no different from any other group in this respect .
Over the years I’ve been a member at TR I’ve personaly met up with several really nice guys who’ve contacted me through seeing my profile here at TR and I don’t see anything wrong with this happening .
As for unwanted attention from men , well gurl just get used to it and stop whining . . . it goes with the territory . . ask any GG . LOL And if you’re half the woman you like to think you are , you’ll easily put them in their place .As a P.S I would add that I find this comment made by one gurl a little sad .
Quote:My female persona is sexually disinterested. Not that my male persona is much more interested…Ronda
