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Telling your partner about the secret life
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Wendy, it is nice that your first post here is one where you were honest with your wife, well done. It is a very scary thing to do and the longer you leave it the harder it gets. Remember to give her the time to absorb the news and all its implications for her, keep in mind that you have had ( how many years ) to come to terms with your feminine side and she is a newbie!
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Good on you Wendy, it would most definitely have been scary for you but you faced your demons and that deserves congratulations. Like other people here will tell you, your wife will need time so don’t push things too quickly huh? Just as much as anyone else here on TR who is part time, the thought of telling a partner about “the secret life” would be especially hard and yes, I honestly feel for all of you. In a way, it is a lot like transitioning at work except for the fact that your partner (unless they are the money earner) doesn’t pay the bills. Congratulations once again Wendy, as well as anyone else here on TR who has come out to their life partners because your courage does stand for a lot.
Peta A.
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Hello Wendy
Let me start by saying congratulations I know from experience that it is scary conversation to have, but as long as you keep talking with your partner hopefully things will be okay. It’s good that you’ve set rules for yourself and I found having boundaries will not affect your lifestyle or you dressing.
But just remember to take things slowly one step at a time, your partner at this moment is trying to understand lot of information from the answers you are giving. Just remember to keep talking to your partner and remember to tell them that you are the luckiest person on earth to have them.
Penny
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I agree with Tasha, Your wife already knows about you but perhaps has not been given the chance to share in your life. Whats important is that you sit down with her and tell her honestly. That’s what your marriage is based on. Honesty and Love. You may find she isn’t all that comfortable with it at the start, but you can always negotiate what outcomes you want. If its just time to be who you are and she doesn’t share but is accepting, thats a start.
I had the same issue with my partner. She has know for a year now and life for the two of us is better than ever.xx
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hi i just told my sisters and my brother a few weeks ago and there familys are ok about it as well. it was hard for me to tell them and i was very upset for a few days be for i told them. but now its all good and thay still love me as much as i love them and its made us more close yours kindly nicole
