who do you love?

[Anonymous]

An interesting topic Virginia and yes, I’ll answer truthfully.

“Me, well I still like women, real ones at that.” That is the answer that I give to anyone who asks me and it’s the truth too for that matter. I also make the comment to people that the closest thing to compare me to is a lesbian because I like females. I still check them out and not just to see what they’re wearing at that and no, I’m not ashamed to say that either, not in the least.

As we all know, there are many stereotypes put onto people by society and I try to talk to people that ask me questions in a manner that helps them understand and feel comfortable, hence the abovementioned comments. Personally, even though I do like women, I’m not even remotely interested in relationships and so on. Strange as it may seem to some, I’m just not. This could possibly sound like a round about way of answering the question but it’s the best way for me to say it so sorry if it sounds a bit weird.

Peta A.

[Anonymous]

I received an email in regard to my previous post in this thread about “women, real ones at that”. The email made mention that this person felt that she was a female, just not genetic and that maybe a lot if not all Tg. women may feel the same and consider themselves as real women.

I consider myself to be a woman too for that matter and I understand that general society will still label me as a “tranny” even though I don’t think of myself that way. It is unfortunate but it is something that I have to remember. I stated my post the way that I wanted to and made an explanation as well to my terminology so if I have offended anyone with the way that I explained things then I’m sorry. I work and live in the world of “hard nuts” and “roughies” so maybe it’s something coming through from the conversations that I have at work and at home etc.

Once again, no offence intended to anyone and also, I’m NOT trying to open another “can of worms” either.

Peta A.

[Anonymous]

Hi Peta & Shells. I’m glad someone said something because I was feeling exactly the same way. I think the ‘real’ label is a bit dangerous whether applied to men or women and is usually used to disenfranchise part of the community whether it’s ts, childless woman, feminine men or whatever.
Having said that I’m definitely attracted to real people. Imaginary companions just don’t do it for me
Hugs
Gwen

[Anonymous]

I love women, always have always will….but i also love the clothes they wear the make up they wear,,,,,and the shoes too. So much so that i want to look like one of them. Simple.

[Anonymous]

I’ll stick with the topic – maybe?

I have allowed myself to be attracted to women. Done the marriage/partner thing. But inevitably, the relationships broke down at least in part due to my wanting to be more like them and not the “man” in their lives they thought I should be.

I have found myself wanting to be a “girlfriend” to male close friends on 2 occasions. The friendships were wrecked because they didn’t realise my ambitions when I tried to tell them how I felt (I was still pretty confused back then). Obviously, they were definitely not gay LOL.

I had a gay boyfriend at one time but he dumped me when he found out I wanted to transition. He wanted a boyfriend and was not attracted to girls in any form.

I have met quite a few CD’s and MTF’s and a couple of FTM’s but have not found I am sexually attracted to any of them. Good friends – yes, sex partners – no. But, I have also noticed that for the last couple of years, I am not sexually attracted to anyone full stop. My last attempt at dating a female was a disaster and I have not attempted, or been tempted to, date anyone since.

Maybe, when I start HRT, my sex drive will return. I have finally sorted out my feelings in my head. I know I am TG. I am progressing towards becoming a complete woman. I am not in denial of my male past. I am not sure however, if I can put myself into the jigsaw that is a relationship. Which piece is mine? I am not sure I even want to. Disastrous relationships can have a profound impact on how you view relationships. Only fools keep repeating their mistakes.

So, as for a label, pansexual, autogynephilic, asexual, non-sexual, eunuch, transwoman, bisexual……….. Take your pick. Personally, I am just who I am and finally free of the labels I tried to define myself by. As for sexual attraction – NAH. As for appreciating beauty in any form, male, female, trans, a sunset, a fluffy kitten sleeping, a gorgeously cute baby, a well presented meal, a nice car. I am finding I can appreciate beauty without trying to make it mine.

I think somewhere in there is a response to the thread? 😆

[Anonymous]

Being humans we are very visually orientated in what attracts us whether it be male or female. This is what prompts us to go up to a person and talk to them. Now there does seem to be a bit of confusion when it comes to gender variant people. The LGB movement have based a lot of their drive into Gay Pride. So where does that leave a gay person who is attracted to a gender variant person when they are told to express their pride in same sex relationships?

For myself I am not visually attracted to either gender. In my life I have only been in 2 relationships both with women. The first was when I was 29 wondering what was wrong with me and why I had never been in a relationship. It was only through a friend telling me this woman was interested in me that lead to us connecting. The second relationship was through online chat where we had talked online for hours over months that lead us to see if we could make a relationship out of the connection we felt.

In my appointments with the psychiatrist for approval to go on to hormones we covered psychosexual stimulation. Where you become aroused without any physical component. Back then I could only think of one time and that was after I had gone full time as a woman and this man at work said good morning to me with genuine stunning smile. This of course was very strange for me as I had never considered a relationship with a male before. This has happened to me one other time since then. One night when out at a club with friends. My attention was drawn to another TG on the dance floor. It wasn’t because she was TG that attracted me but the way she moved on the dancefloor. Before this I had said I could never have a relationship with a TG but after this experience I am not discounting anything.

So by this attraction does not have to be whether a person is visually male of female but we can be attracted something person says or does. It can be something small or big. So for me I am not Bi, gay lesbian or hetro for that matter but if I do have an attraction to someone and there is a change to follow up on it whether the person is male female or gender variant.

[Anonymous]

Love whats that????? 😯

I have my love of my two cats as long as I feed and keep them warm! Aside from this love is a land I thought I been to a few times in my life only to find out later on I was very wrong! Just ask the two lawyers who made a nice sum of money out of me for that mistake.And other past relations I have failed in!

I know some of it is my own doing, but they to had there hand in as well!

By the way the cats are more loving than most humans, I should point out at least they know what they want.

As to my fellow humans what ever they be, I given up on love and try to get by as best as possible! I am an owner of a lonely heart and trust me most days I am content with that ideal. Nope no oh sorry to read this stuff. please do not waste the effort! I am fine and many other fine things do fill the void for myself.

To be frank if I ever see the god of love on the street. I will do my first drive by killing and try to make a fast get away.Thats dude has done me over too often and some scores to fix! 😈
Just kidding.

But no I think I almost forgotten what love is no other that of love of family, thats just about it now.

[Anonymous]

Attraction is a strange thing was never attracted to what other guys were attracted to and I never cared what people looked like I was attracted mostly to personalities The personalities of most guys had very little to attract me and while all fanticies involved females there was nothing stoping me from doing that with a male I didn’t find any males attractive untill I met some F2Ms and once we started talking I found them very attractive. I’ve never been in a romantic or sexual relationship I’m much more interested in a romantic relationship. It some ways I feel like I’m Part lesbian Part Asexual sometimes I see myself as a Pan-romantic Asexual neither term fully explains my sexuality but it is better then to just say “I’m different”
Every cis female I’ve been attracted to has had some form of medical problem, disability and/or Mental health issue.