[Daniel]

Hi I have been seeing him for about 2 years, every easy going. Can be a bit too easy going at times. Have no problems with him. He took over from Dr Steinbeck Any questions just ask.

From Goggle see also http://www.ratemds.com/doctor-ratings/878008/Dr-Jon-Hayes-Sydney-NSW.html

[Daniel]

re Australian surgeonsTry Peter Haertsch who I think is the only other preson in OZ.
http://www.haertsch.com.au/gender-reassignment-surgery.html

[Daniel]

One of the down sides of transgended is all the costs and fun issues like depression that go with it. Living away from the main cities can make a lot of things harder. You are not alone and every girl goes though the same things have a look at the profiles of girls and you will see there are a large number of us living in rural areas.

Maybe we need a new topic about the issues living outside the capital cities (big hint people)

First off with the cost you are covered by the Medicare safety net (http://www.medicareaustralia.gov.au/public/services/msn/index.jsp0

Its gets cheaper to see doctors the more you see them.

Also there s Australian Government’s Better Access to Psychiatrists, Psychologists and General Practitioners through the Medicare Benefits Schedule
Under the Better Access initiative, mental health care a claim can now be made for a rebate for up to 12 (18 in exceptional circumstances) individual and/or 12 group based psychological treatment sessions within a calendar year. This involves a GP, psychiatrist or paediatrician referring a consumer to a psychologist, social worker, occupational therapist or a specially trained GP. NOTE: being transgender is not a “mental illness” but things like dealing with how depress is and nothing to be afraid of.
See http://www.beyondblue.org.au/index.aspx?link_id=7.102#betteraccess
Go see your GP and get a referral

As for help see beyondblue info line
• Phone: 1300 22 4636
• Email: infoline@beyondblue.org.au
• The beyondblue info line provides access to information and referrals to relevant services for depression and anxiety related matters. You can call the info line for the cost of a local call or send an email.
• Web site http://www.beyondblue.org.au/index.aspx?link_id=107
• Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and intersex people (GLBTI) at http://www.beyondblue.org.au/index.aspx?link_id=4.1167
•
See the guide at http://www.beyondblue.org.au/index.aspx?link_id=4.1167&tmp=FileStream&fid=1425
Relating to GBLT matters.

Also there’ Lifeline – 13 11 14.
Also you can log on to the chat room at just about anytime day or night and someone will be there.

On a personal note you will learn that part of being transgender is learning to do things you dislike or think are impossible.
Look at all the other impossible things that you have done in your life, and overcame “Problem what problem?”
Working with family can be hard at the best of times; maybe getting another job may help. If you lived in Orange or Wagga go work driving trucks, good money to sit in aircon all day listing to music!

In fact things like not like not liking writing or having no money can be turned around to help you. One of the ways to help with depression is to set goals. So try save $10.00 a week. The amount and time is not important. Also start writing how you feel each day, write anything, and write about what happened including the funny stuff. . This will help you identify clearly what’s going on plus will help any counseling you have.

NOTES:
I’m not able to spell or write haven’t been since birth, with out spell check and a lot of helpful people, this post would never be.
We all are ‘Standing on the shoulders of giants” go look it up on Wikipedia or goggle it.
Funny: I have a good work friend who will in the space of 5 sentences refer to me as she, he, she, and he her. The lady doesn’t even known she doing it and wonders why some of laugh at her.

[Daniel]

Ok
Did they explain why you should do this? They may have a good reason from their point of view.
Is your jobnetwork provider personal view or the official view of the provider?

Once you have answers to these questions you can then figure out what to do.

If good reasons work with them to over come them or reduce their impact.

If no good reason educate them. Suggest you print out the information Virginia posted and go have a chat with a supervisor of the provider. You may wish to direct them to their lawyer or the gender centre for some training.

From the legal point there are both state and federal laws about anti-discrimination, these laws also have a number of out clauses as well. Also some jobs and/or companies clubs etc are allowed to discriminate for various reasons. People sometime forgot this. If your provider sent you off to interview for one of these jobs than you would need to advise the employer.

Most employers just want some to do the job without problems. They can be sensitive about how others view them. If a mechanic has girls working on cars a lot of guys would most likely not do business with them (for the record I know several girls who can do mechanical work better then guys)*.

In cases like this, it’s a matter of eduction; you sit down with them and work it out.

* In IT this seems not to apply, given some of the interesting types that appear at times.

[Daniel]

In this day and age I think no one will care, after it heals you can take it out as required. Also you can also say your girl friend Lori likes it Also while at it get your nose done.

Healing times are quoted as long as 12 months! It depends a lot on the person, their well being and how well it is done. The important thing is keep it clean. You normally find after a few weeks you can take it out but I would suggest leaving it in as long as possible. Beside no one can see it unlike your ears. Do not go to your local hair dresser, go to a professional. Ensure they have good hygiene standards; health department approved and use sterilisation technology including autoclaving. Would suggest you get a banana bar not a ring, but a professional will tell you what’s right for you. Get good quality jewellery, solid 14k gold, titanium, or stainless steel not what you find down at the markets to wear at first. A banana bar is less likely to catch on things. Tip: cover with a large band aid when doing any lifting while healing and get used to it being there. It’s amazing how it will catch on things at first, until you get use to it.

Search Google using piercing healing times
General information at:
http://wiki.bmezine.com/index.php/Navel_Piercing
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Navel_piercing
US Association of Professional Piercers. http://www.safepiercing.org/ As a number PDF brochures dealing with care choosing someone etc direct link is http://www.safepiercing.org/publications/brochures/body-aftercare

[Daniel]

There are a number of good , bad and interesting side effects. You may get some, all or none of them. They effect your whole body from hair to weight, to eyes and mood. . Remember ask questions just do not belive what others tell you without checking. Asking on TR is a good step, the people come from a wide range of backgrounds and deal with this everyday.

Try the following;
Read the HRT posts on TR

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hormone_replacement_therapy_%28male-to-female%29

In general search wikipedia but remember has stated “Wikipedia is written collaboratively by largely anonymous internet users who write without pay” Its a good start but only a guide.

Goggle the names of the various hormones. Try the makers web sites; all Hormones come with information sheets, which list the side effects. Ask someone already on hormones to give you copies, they get one in each box! Currenty I have about 30 of the thngs, there like rabbits.

Also try;
http://home.earthlink.net/~miche1/hormones.html#estradiol-valerate
http://www.kingcounty.gov/healthservices/health/personal/glbt.asp

Plus theres 100’s other sites, maybe one day someone will do some reserch and post a complete list on TR

PS for sensitive nipples try ice packs and wear very light and lose tops.

[Daniel]

Found the following posted it here as not sure where to place

“New South Wales has become the second state in Australia to allow intersex people to change the sex on their birth certificates” ….”Now people need only provide proof that they are intersex and are living in the gender they wish to change to for their official documents to be changed.”

http://intersexnews.blogspot.com/2009/11/intersex-identity-process-simplified.html or try
http://www.starobserver.com.au/community/2009/11/18/intersex-identity-process-simplified/18300

Note It may be sometime before it becomes fact.

[Daniel]

Good news, remember, dress with class, be yourself and what ever happens take control.
You have people here to support you. If still not sure ask a friend for help.
good luck

[Daniel]

OK so spill the beans, name of episode, youtube clip, P2P down load etc. That way I make sure I will watch it if it ever gets to Oz. If you have the tech skill to go to the Dr Who site (http://www.bbc.co.uk/doctorwho/) and view it direct. NOTE: you need to know how to fool the site into beliveing you are in the UK.

I think Dr Who has in the past handle dthe issue of mixed gender, if only dressed up as aliens.

[Daniel]

Hi Jenny

Stuff up no way, just a natural reaction.
If anyone says anything be upfront and open, you have nothing to hide. It will be very upsetting for you but you will find that it gets easier each time you tell someone. I suggest advising people who you trust and have know a while to gain practice before telling family. Have a dry run with someone or by yourself and think of the question and answers. You may wish to go visit the ex and sit down and have a chat.
You may find you will have a friend leave there and there but overall people are more curious and just want to ensure you are not hurting yourself.
Yes it will scare the pants off you but in the long run you will feel better.

Get some written information to hand out to back up what your say. People like to be able read and have a think. Also remember to say any questions back to me and ask; leave the door open to help them find out more.
See:
http://www.gendercentre.org.au/index1.htm various things there. If you need advise on how to handle the issue give them a call. There at 7 Bent Street Petersham NSW 2049 Phone: (02) 9569 2366

http://www.transgendervictoria.com/ go to GLHV resources look for the PDF file titled Gender Questioning way at the bottom of the page. Direct link http://www.glhv.org.au/node/242
Be safe and have fun
Daniel

[Daniel]

Aquote fro mthe above “A transgender friend provided the best and simplest explanation I have heard: We are born with this, we fight it as long as we can, and in the end it wins.” which I yhink lot of us can relate to.
Christine Daniels of the Los Angeles Times
from http://www.latimes.com/sports/la-sp-oldmike26apr26,0,588768,full.story?coll=la-home-headlines

An just to show she not the only see
just call me donna a another sports writer
http://www.media-diversity.org/downloaded%20articles/Press%20Gazette%20Online_Just%20Call%20me%20Donna.htm