[Rosie Rondini]

I realise, that I am a lot happier accepting Rosie, and I am non Binary. By accepting my duality, I find that I don’t have the problem with who I am, it’s the other person’s problem. With the support of other CD’s who I have meet with Seahorse and TGR, I feel accepted and normal. My confidence, well it has soared, and what has helped me be Rosie is my dancing. Yes I love to dance and don’t restrict myself. It’s opened a world that I didn’t know existed. Some women really like and are affectionate to Rosie.

[Rosie Rondini]

Just a wonderful article. So helpful, plus I have identified the method which I am doing on my own volition. For me the “Slow reveal”. It’s been wonderful. For an older girl/woman it’s so much easier. Had a interesting discussion last night with the ex wife… (that’s why we divorced, the cross dressing). We were married 18 years and now divorced for 12 years. She thought I would “grow out” of cross dressing. The surprise when I told her I went to the Ball as Rosie. Thanks for reading.

[Rosie Rondini]

Booked a ticket, getting a new outfit, this will be fun

[Rosie Rondini]

“I wear my gift now as battle armour. I came out thirty two years ago, which means I’ve fought my through for a bloody long time” (Eddie Izzard)

I love what this person has written. From my own experience, I have had a different fight, it was a fight within myself not to cross dress. The battle raged for 44 years. Now when I dress as Rosie, it is fun without being the freak. (this is the battle which raged in my head). Why didn’t I seek professional help, I did, but it didn’t gel with me until I meet others like me.

Going out as Rosie now, I have enter my “second life”, where I can say to anyone, “you look nice”, or “that’s a nice outfit” because the Feminine life (the battle armour) allows you to do this. All my life I have been an creative, motivated, relatively successful, alpha male, but it was wearing me out. Sometimes I just want to be nice, and on occasion admired. Does this sound vain?

Someone please tell me. I am not worried anymore about it. So far since my debut, I have told 4 other trusted friends and my brother. Each reaction was so different, and none damning. The one that surprised me the most, was “C” a good friend up the north coast (still a very fit surfer). I showed him a picture of Rosie, he said I looked hot, which was a nice thing to say, but he then said, we have talked about this before, about cross dressing.

No way, I said, as I was so sure. Then he reminder how he, “M” and me when to a party in our 20’s (over 40 yrs ago and had never discussed it since) which was a “gender bender” party. Being young, fit, tanned with long sun bleached natural hair, we all looked very passable, “C” more so than “M” and me.

“C” told me that I said that “being dressed as a woman was so much fun, firstly because no one knew who we were, and secondly we could do feminine things without be labelled “a poofter” “( a terrible term popular in Sydney in the 80’s a period where some gay men were being thrown off cliffs and attacked in the Eastern Suburbs) (Moderators take this comment out if inappropriate). This story reminds me as I contemplate the next Rosie adventure, where I have “armour” in the wardrobe, thatallows me to walk into a “second life”. A real second life with no computer simulation, btw their is a computer game called “Second Life”.

I am a lucky man.

• This reply was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by  Rosie Rondini.

[Rosie Rondini]

Hi Shaylee, thanks for sharing your story, especially about telling your new wife. I am about to do that, but it will be a bit easier, as she knows already, however when I told her early in the relationship there were some strict conditions. Now I am going to spin back in time, 12 years ago, and this may be relevant to other readers. My first wife was outraged by my crossdressing. She said things like “I am the sexy one in this relationship, why contest it?”

Then the other one that really stung, was “I thought I a married a man, not some variation of a man!” ouch, that last comment lay imbedded with me for decades. We still remained married for a year or two after those comments but one day she said, “I thought if you cross dressed in the garage only that would be fine, but no, you need to move out”.

We had been married for 18 years, had a 14 year old son, and I was sent packing. What did I do? Well I left (first mistake) then moved in a house by myself, (second mistake as I needed people around me) but the house on my own allowed me to cross dress, whenever I wanted too. But her comments about my cross dressing. (I still loved her, even though she asked me to leave.) I still talk to her now and she is still beautiful to me. Her comments haunted me to only recently. It’s funny that the worst emotional stings, come from those you love the deepest.

Btw, only two years ago, my ex wife said to me. “I made a mistake divorcing you, I have meet many men since, and you are the best”. I did choke up a bit, but it was a final vindication, there is nothing wrong with me.

Rosie

[Rosie Rondini]

I have recently made my debut after 44 years. Yes I have purged about 4 times. It was always preceded with guilt, and that I need to be a proper man. Well, I am a proper man, as I have always been but now after the debut at Transactshon at Katoomba on the 14th of October, my life changed for the better. I have another side, a “Second Life” and I love that. This whole cross dressing, in the past for me, has been something that I was ashamed of. No longer, I am proud of it.

[Rosie Rondini]

Well not quite outed, I admitted to it. My first night out as Rosie, and my debut was Tranactshon, at Katoomba. I was dressed in male mode, and was walking in the hallway, where I meet an acquaintance who was prominent in the rural NSW Centre where I lived. He greeted me cordially, but immediately asked, “What are you doing here?” I replied, “Going to the Ball”. He continued the questioning, “As a partner?”

Moment of truth time, right here, “No, I am going dressed”. He looked surprised, then said “Let’s meet for a drink in twenty minutes”.

We meet for a drink and I learned a bit about the Regional NSW town where I lived. It was a great catch up, and fitting start to my debut as Rosie. The proverbial genie was out of the bottle.

[Rosie Rondini]

What a great reply, and I agree with Adrian, there are very few, exclusively friendly CD venues, however I go out in public quite a lot. Often I am the only CD in the venue. I will often choose LGBTQ friendly places as they seem to be less judgmental, and you don’t get stares. (something I don’t like). I live in Regional Coffs harbour and I went to a venue the Hoey Moey. I was warned to take precautions, like ask security if I was safe to go. I did, and had the most wonderful time. I should note, I left at 11.00pm, because trouble often starts after this time. No matter who is in the licensed premises.

[Rosie Rondini]

Just got my ticket.

[Rosie Rondini]

May I suggest a chat with Nikki. If you don’t know here, I can put you in contact with her. She wants a regular meet up

[Rosie Rondini]

Hope you do, love to see you

[Rosie Rondini]

I just spoke to Albany, she will be there tomorrow night as well.