Are others happy being a guy but just like to dress up?

[Anonymous]

Hi Melissa, nice question. My answer is that I used to be in the same frame of mind as you. However my outlook changed and now I am going to work towards being fulltime at the bare minimum. Before that change in my journey though, I did quite like the “best of both worlds”.

Peta A.

[June]

Hi Melisssa,

Interesting point. I have noticed a lot of the girls I chat to on here seem to be either transitioning or working towards it. Personally I don’t see me as a candidate bit rather like you dressing when I can and when I feel the urge. But I like to talk to them on line as I can relate to what they are doing.

I must admit I quite often dress, not always fully and do wear panties and nighties every day but I have enough reasons to stay male and to act so for the majority of the time. My interludes en femme are a great relief and ease my stress levels, and my ventures outdoors while few have been exciting and feel good.

Perhaps if I did not have the reasons and friendships that make transitioning unwanted I may look to get some surgical assistance in my appearance. I am also aware that one should be careful what one wishes for in case it comes true. The actuality of becoming a woman physically may not come up to ones expectations.

So like you, I will remain male except for those times I can escape into my feminine alter ego.

June

[Anonymous]

Hi Mel

This is one of the great things about who we are and it really comes down to your own personnel choice and life situation to how far you wish to travel down the road and there should not be any condemation if you reach a comport zone and decide that is where you want to stay. On a personnel level I have pretty much explored my road over many years up to the point of surgery and that’s when I came to the conclusion I am happy just to be me a trans whatever, weather I will stay at this point or move on another route who knows but it will be an adventure.

hugz

Rhi

[Anonymous]

One thing I have noticed since my dressing became a major part of my life two years ago is that we are all different in where we see ourselves as being and where we want to go. As well as being a wonderful forum to find solace with like minded gurls it’s really interesting to see how much we all differ. Personally I feel like a female spirit in a male body. I’ve always been a bit of a fatalist when it comes to anything in life so I’ve never felt the need to change my body. I’m comfortable being a gurl with odd plumbing. I’d love to wake up one day free of body hair and with breasts but that’s unlikely. I enjoy the challenge of making the best of what I have. I guess my most realistic dream is to one day live as a woman as much as I can while occasionally sneaking back across the border to boydom.

[Anonymous]

I was much the same as you Melissa until my mother passed away. At work I started getting moody and snappy and decided to take time off and get some counselling. As we went through my past and issues I have had to deal with I started taking stock of my life and what needed to be changed. Looking at my life I saw myself always on the outside looking in because I felt like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. I advised my counsellor of my crossdressing and he was happy for me to continue as this seemed to be my way of not being the rock supporting everyone around me. Mr Responsible. As I was off work I started spending more and more time as Stephanie and started to find my centre so when I returned to work I returned as Stephanie which has opened a whole new world to me and now I am re evaluating whether I want to stay as I am or go further towards being who I need to be.

[Anonymous]

What a gr8 ??? and thread. For me I’m married very lucky to have a wife and kids. My wife allows me to dress full on once a month (not nearly enough but I’m not arguing) but every 2nd day I’m wearing female underwear. My closet is slowing getting to the stage that I have more female clothes than male and definately more female shoes than male shoes. Have come out to the elder kids just the other week as I believe honesty is the best policy but was very hard for me to do. Sorry getting away from the ? Overall am a male most of the time but am constanly looking and thinking about being a female, who knows what and where life will take you aslong. What is normal anyway and who really cares?? well we all do don’t we. Society tells us how things should be and anything else is weird or not ok, wouldn’t it be nice to go to work as a female as you feel and visa versa without worrying about what other people are thinking. It should be what’s inside that matters not what your wear. Back to the ? For me at the moment I love to dress and feal like a women even if it only once a month, if circumstances were different I would not rule out a full transition XXX.

[Anonymous]

I can see where your coming from for sure, I feel that I am fairly much the same at the moment but feel I will push the limmits. I love being a guy and doing all the guy stuff but if i had a choice I would rather of been born a woman.
As I have improved my look over time I have found it consumes me and I’m always looking for the next way to improved my look, nothing matches the way I feel when I’m dressed, so happy, so relaxed.
I guess I will keep trying to find the look that let’s me go either way but when I’m in guy mode I want to look like a guy and visa versa.
I have no idea where I will end up but I got sic of worrying about it a long time ago, I just plan to make the most of whatever situation I’m in. It’s hard to keep the girl inside me away for very long at all but it’s so much fun.

[Anonymous]

I’d love to be a girl but I don’t want it enough yet to make the enormous committment at the moment as I can pretty much dress whenever I want to. Still, I want to be a girl much more than I used to so who knows where it will end up.

I’m not much interested in guy stuff – I find being a guy just so boring when I can see the alternative.

[Anonymous]

Hi Melissa

you are certainly not alone. I know exactly what you mean. It’s good to be a guy but it feels good to dress as a girl too. I’ve given up trying to work out why. It’s how it is. I have no great desire to go out in public dressed or take hormones or have surgery. I’m not on any journey from one place on the transgender spectrum to another. I’ve been fairly consistent my whole adult life and really just varied how often I dress depending on circumstances or how I feel at the time. But having said that I don’t rule anything out if I feel different in the future.

It’s good that there is range of different people on this site. All types are equally valid. We should all try to find a place or direction that makes us happy and be accepting and supportive of others.

Jane

[Anonymous]

Hi Melissa,

Good topic this one Mel (from one Mel to another!). Great replies here from every-one.

Me, well like Jane like the best of both worlds. As a male in my cycling gear on a long ride to being the girl – all femme, perfume, make up and feeling “nice”. Like Jane I don’t have the desire to take hormones ect. (yet!) but at times and do love going out dressed, been seen in public. That has become my greatest love the last 6 months I think.

Karen (my former name) yes it does take enormous committment to do what some of the girls here have under gone. Bambi’s story in “Bambi’s Place” for example is an amzing story. That’s courage, I don’t think I could do it.

Love to see our stories this time in 2010 – who knows what lies ahead in our journeys? I know I would not change it for the world.

Take care,
Melanie

[Anonymous]

Hi All

For those that can stay a guy and do the girl thing when they wish do have good parts.

I am now full time girl and I would never change it for anything but I must admit your focus does change a lot.

The first major change I found was that you dont the looking forward to the next time you dress, for me it was my “happy time” where I would feel the best and most alive feelings living as a girl, where you can not take my smile off with a dozer. Now it is just normal, although it is much better in someways, you miss that excitement.

I also find I have to put the effort into everytime I go out, I always did take pride in my appearance but I can not just shoot down to the corner store for some milk without making myself presentable, when I was a guy it did not matter as much, a moment of scruffness was ok. I dont find it too much of a problem but it is a differance. But I can not just change back to guy mode and not care.

I just find myself fitting into normal life as a girl so I dont have the major ups to look forward to like I did, but I guess the downs are not there either lol.

So for those that keep it for a part time thing, its not really that bad. I just found it like a drug, the more I did it the more I wanted, till I got to the point of no return.

Been a girl completes me, it is who I really am, thats also the main differance, some part timers dont have that need or desire.

xxxx

Kelly Jones and Emma

[Anonymous]

HI ALL
Melissa has open up another can of worms ,what I mean by this that we have Two side to our lives one the male side which for me is cars . hot rodding old cars and vegging out at my bush retreat . but my fem side is into cooking , gardening making jewelly fashion and shopping oh love that but sometimes the two cross over not so much with the car’s stuff .Because I have work on my farm as BOTH and as we are born and brought as males sure there be time’s the male side is going to be strong and you do what you just gotta do
now come the really hard part are u attacted to men or woman and here the kicker does not matter what the answer is because your are gay . Y IS THAT SO if you declare your a woman and you just happend to fall in love with a nice lady u r a lesso if you fall in love with a guy because your are a woman and all u beleive that what you are society said you are gay to day I say I Stuff em do what you want cross the lines because real girls do it daily do it all work on your car in a mini skirt well i do some times a old worn out mini see ya steffi :compress:

[Anonymous]

Hey Mel, like a lot of the girls here I am very much part time, and am happy enough in guy mode for the day to day biz. Can’t see that changing (in the near future anyway).

Cheers

Tash

[Anonymous]

No Melissa I have left it too late. When I was 18 and saw a DR about my problem I was told to go home and do the “boy thing” Well I have done all that and 35 years later it still wont go away. I would love to be on hormones but would not now go all the way. Besides with a very good S.O. I have the best of both worlds at home. If only there was a magic pill to stop this stuff growing on my face it would be a lot better

[Anonymous]

Hi Girls,

I’m quite happy dressing part time. My carreer doesn’t allow me to do any more than I currently can. I work in remote locations around Australia and have very little time to myself to get the chance to dress. My one week off every month has limited me to a tiny amount of dressing after catching up with friends and family on my week off, so even though I’d like to dress more often, wear makeup more often and work on my femenine appearence more often I’m limited to what I can do. Otherwise I also enjoy being a man.