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Are you interested in men?
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I’m surprised I haven’t responded to this thread sooner. When I first started to dress regularly I also began to wonder about my sexuality. I dabbled in bi, and sex (of sorts) with other TGs. It soon became apparent to me that I still had a male hetero-sexual outlook. The result of this was to make me question my femaleness. Even when I started on HRT my GP said that I would start to fancy men. N ot only do I not fancy men but I have almost become a separatist-if men disappeared off the face of the Earth tomorrow it wouldn’t worry me except they’re handy to have around to move heavy stuff. As the old joke goes, “Why did God invent men?
“Because vibrators can’t take out the garbage”.That said I have been thrilled by a compliment from a man. In fact I worry that I’d be a bit of a pr#*k teaser if I scrubbed up better. As for most men who know me, as opposed to meeting me on a night out, they treat me as if I’m a harmless fruitloop. Another reason not to fancy men.
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This is fascinating !
A very broad subject, much like should gays/lesbians marry ?!?
But this particular subject does and must always come down to personal choice.As males (in society), the majority of us deny any homosexual tendencies, …but there are the exception.
If this were a G/G only forum and the same question were asked, …I am certain there would be a few admitting that they liked ladies also.
We may don a dress and wear make up, some of us may also go ‘all the way’ and have our bits removed, but until medical science finds a way to transplant our brains, ….this question shall go on and on.
For we are, – after all said and done – males. We become female as a matter of choice, whether we consider ourselves in the wrong body or remove our genitals is irrelevant, we still retain our male brains, and if there is some small bisexual leaning hidden in our selfconsciousness, it may remain trapped and never ever surface until the right moment. …Until the right time.
…Until the right person comes along. We may never, ever know.On a personal level, I have been greatly attracted to some T/G women, so much so that I have fantasized about a possible’lesbian’ relationship. I become a woman; it follows that I would want to be loved by a woman.
Similarly; I become a woman, it naturally follows that I should want to be loved by a man.I have also found myself attracted to a male as I have also become a woman. .And dreamed of bedroom antics, though I am not homosexual. …And after all, female sexuality must surely be the most eroticlaly sensuous ‘trip’ our beautiful existence has to offer, and so many would give their everything in order to experience it.
If I ever make it to full transition, as is my dream – although age is against me – I would not hesitate to have a sexual relationship with a man, …provided the love I shared with him was returned.
AND, I would also enjoy an intimate relationship with another T/G woman, because who would understand me more than she ??“Hmmm”. ….as one thinks to oneself. (quietly, self diagnosis.)
“OMG !?!” ….”I MUST BE BISEXUAL !?!”
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Despite all the discussion around these topics we DO love to perpetuate the old sex/ gender duality don’t we?
Perhaps it is time that we set a trend and lead the way in establishing a more inclusive, less US and THEM paradigm?
I like the old Taoist truism : Not either or, but AND and AND !
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Quote:Despite all the discussion around these topics we DO love to perpetuate the old sex/ gender duality don’t we?I suspect the more polarised your views on gender and sex are, the more everything has to be black or white, then the more attracted you are to a discussion with a topic like “Are you interested in men?”.
In the last TgR survey respondents were asked to rate their gender anywhere between MMMM (MAN) and FFFF (WOMAN). Surprisingly 79% of the members rated themself as being somewhere in between, but yet in this community, most people like to talk as if they are a man or a woman.
Then when we look at sex the situation, even though based on physical attributes, is equally confused. Members choose to modify their body by cosmetic procedures to place themselves outside the duality of male body / female body. Yet we try to live in a simpler world where man has sex with man or man has sex with woman.
If this was just fantasy in our community then it would be harmless… but the instance on viewing life through the irrelevant gender / sex duality sends a message out to society that gender diversity is all about being a man or a woman. That is so much a misrepresentation that it makes me angry….as a community we should be ashamed of ourselves!
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Yep – if your starting position is that gender is binary, pretty much everything else unravels from thereon: transition, passing, stealth, sexuality etc. What society needs to accept is that nature loves variation. Gender is a bell curve. We should just accept that there are lots of in betweens, and that those in between need not express themselves as if they are at either end of the spectrum. And society should just accept that.
And with the wide degree of diversity in gender, there will be a corresponding diversity of sexuality. So be it. There is no “normal”. And let’s not even contemplate subclasses within each of the possible ranges within sexuality choices.
As always – that’s just me. I’m sure there are lots of differences in opinion out there. My view is that it’s best to channel any anger associated with this towards trying to make this world a better place. We would be in a terrible situation if Copernicus, Marie Curie, Alexander Fleming, Albert Einstein or Martin Luther King decided to just stay home and go on Facebook (mind you, Adolf Hitler could have done with a bit of FB time, IMHO).
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I’ve always loved women, i love the beauty of the female form, i love femininity, all my life i’ve tried to become a woman with what i had at my disposal at the time. Like other girls here i’ve never been attracted to males especially while i was in male mode myself, but as things progressed into crossdressing i found it hard to find a GG that would accept my choice , i’ve always been attracted to TG women and crossdressers i think because primarily they are in essence female and can easily identify with other crossdressers and accept them. I enjoy the intimacy with TG/CD while i’m in either male mode or female mode though i prefer being feminine and i adore feminine company. My first encounter with a man left me with mixed feelings, at the time i enjoyed being with him but afterward i was wondering what the devil i was doing, i went home and showered while heavily scrubbing myself as i felt, for want of a better description, dirty. I kept thinking about it and as time went by it became less distasteful, now when i’m fem i would have an interest in some men but my preference now will be first female…whether that is TG/CD/GG and men take the back seat.
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I like looking like a female I guess it comes with the territory ,men that is men are ok but i carnt say any more as I may incriminate myself lol
what a great question
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When I am in male mode I have absolutely no interest in sex or intimacy with a man. However when I shift into femme mode my mind does in fact think about it and I find that it appeals to me to be a woman and to be intimate with a man. This also applies to other CD’s as I am sure many have the same feelings as I do. I think that these feelings stem from wanting to experience everything a woman experiences and while that may not be biologically possible the fantasy of it is very appealing. Having said all that I am still in the closet and haven’t ventured out as yet so if a man did try to seduce me I may or may not run screaming off into the night. In our particular life style choice I don’t think Homo or hetero apply as we are ourselves drifting between sexual orientation so if I am with a man as a woman does this make me homosexual or heterosexual. Whatever each of us chooses I hope that you all accept it and relish the choices you make and don’t let any other people make you feel less of a valuable person because of those choices
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Interesting topic ladies, most seem to relate back to their own sexuality as to wether straight, bi or homosexual, for me being a pansexual being, it is different.
Pansexual’s believe that we are all non-sexual at the time of creation and decide over the first few weeks what sex we want to be, sometimes the wrong choice is obviously made.
My view is that the human form wether male or female, is just a carcase and the spirit that inhabits it is non-sexual, and you decide to use your form as a male or female.
Getting back to the original question, do you like men, for me it is a case of do you like the spirit of the man or woman whom you are with, the connection is made on a higher level, just meeting of two like minded spirits.
Lots of people get hung up on labels, he is a homo, she is a lessie, don’t get caught in that trap, we are all just beings that inhabit a human form, and when we depart, that form returns to its original state, ashes to ashes, ladies,, we are what we eat, so eat well and embrace your form and make it what you desire.
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A very interesting subject. I can’t say that I have ever been interested in Men but perhaps that’s because I have a supportive SO. Would I be the same if I was single ? I think I would embrace experimenting more to see if a sexual experience actually had boundaries and probably more to the point to find out how I would portray myself and find out more about who I really am. I think though, lifelong relationships that are started from a casual indiscretion don’t exist..
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I am over the line now, being female I do have a male on weekends now. the relationship is far from serious, but fun.
If you asked me ten years ago my answer would have been no, But I moved on a lot since then.
I also wish to add this male has taken me out and brought me flowers and yes helped me come out my shell in so many ways.
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The question makes me squirm, I wonder why?
I’ve questioned my sexuallity over the years, many years but have always come to the conclusion that I’m hetero, or am I sexually fluid and change from day to day.
I love looking at good looking birds, anything from 18 to 80 and males do nothing for me, on the contrary, they make me puke. Nothing beats a good looking chick in a mini one inch below see level. -
Yes.
I am attracted to men who have a specific look about them.
Being bi sexual its part of the attraction for me… I like both genders and dont discriminate based on looks.
Its the person who I eventually want to get a hold of and see what they have to offer, and what we can offer each other
Great question!
XXX
Bree
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Good question too….
Well, I’m naturally attracted to women, but I do sometimes also have an interest in some men.
I’m not on hormones yet, but that may also make my feelings stronger for them….
Have any other transwomen felt this?
MJ
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Well i have all ways been interested in attracted men, and not attracted to women in any way.
I have always been a girl inside and have always been attracted to males. i would love to find the right male for me and even get married to one.
Amanda
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