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I stuffed up big time, what was i thinking
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Quote:so at the end of the day, my ex will keep my secret and my family and friends are none the wiser, and i am sorry to all the girls who think that i should stand up proud and announce that i am what i am, sorry, that is not for me, at east not at this time.
There is a difference between being a Woman and being A Cross Dresser – one is a Woman, the other is a Man dressing in Womans clothes (or as I keep reminding people a Woman dressed in Pants and a Shirt is a Cross Dresser too.)
As to Dannielle, speaking your opinion is nothing to appologise for (I didn’t see anything offensive in it) – I get so sick of people who attack others simply because they forget one very important rule in life – the Zeroth Commandment:
I might not agree with what yu say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.
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Quote:There is a difference between being a Woman and being A Cross Dresser – one is a Woman, the other is a Man dressing in Womans clothes (or as I keep reminding people a Woman dressed in Pants and a Shirt is a Cross Dresser too.)Ella,
I don’t understand the context of this quote and why it needed to be said.As long as you meant that everyone who is transgender is in fact literally a cross-dresser that is fine.
But what you wrote could also imply that some members of the community are real women and so are not crossdressers.
If you, or any one else reading the quote, supports a divisive view that some transgender girls are in some way different (and better) than others then be prepared to take your views elsewhere.In reality there is no Zeroth Commandment right to say anything on these forums.
Constructive expressions of opinion, like Dannielle’s posting on this thread will always be welcome.
But, as I stated recently in another thread, either attacking another member, or attacking the group that another person associates with, will result in a ban.If anyone wishes to discuss this by email it may be more appropriate than posting here.
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Quote:Quote:so at the end of the day, my ex will keep my secret and my family and friends are none the wiser, and i am sorry to all the girls who think that i should stand up proud and announce that i am what i am, sorry, that is not for me, at east not at this time.There is a difference between being a Woman and being A Cross Dresser – one is a Woman, the other is a Man dressing in Womans clothes (or as I keep reminding people a Woman dressed in Pants and a Shirt is a Cross Dresser too.)
Hi Ella
i don’t take offence at this comment, maybe it was poorly phrased, so i will clarify who i am
I am a transgender, not a cross dresser, i live and go out with GG’s all the time as Jenny, and when i do so i am accepted and treated as a woman and beleive i am, not mearly a bloke in a dress.
even when i am in male mode these same woman still accept, who i want to be and treat and accept me as a female trapped in a male body.
I was just makeing a comment that i am not ready to transition and i am not ready to be out there to my family and friends.
now please don’t take these comments as an attack on your comments, I am only trying to clarify who i am, or more importantly who i believe i am
Love Jenny
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Thank-You Ladies for your heartfelt comments,very much appreciated.
Even tho i may say that i wont back down from any-one who tries to challenge me, does’nt mean i am not a little bit frightend at times, it just means that i try to take my courage to the next level without being to assertive. After all, none of us wish to have harm inflicted upon us, as that would be a foolish thing to do, so i guess that we should asses the situation at the time and keep our virtue intact at all times. -
well so many people have made great comments and some have made unkind comments
but at the end of the day i am happy with the way i have handled my situation and the outcome that has come out of it
i am who i am and nobody can change that, but me
Love Jenny
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Well things are still ok, i even had a meeting with the ex girlfriend on Friday in town, and i was en femme, finnally she would meet me as Jenny.
We chatted for some time over coffee and she asked me heaps of questions this time and it was more like two girls chatting then the inquisition it had been last time,
What a releaf to have her accept Jenny, and she has confirmed to me she will keep our secret, which is what i want at this time.
Love Jenny
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Wow Jenny, I just caught up with this thread. What a close call, I have to say the more of them I have the less I worry about what anyone else thinks but this isn’t about me, it’s about you. I’m seriously glad that she’s responsible enough not to make trouble and seems by your last post to be more accepting as time goes by…. how good is that!?
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Hi Jenny
Found this an interesting read and is one of those “oh my god” stories. These things happen and cant be helped. Everyone makes a mistake and leaves there guard down from time to time. Glad you had a happy ending to your tale. i guess my time will come as I venture out more and more en femme. Good luck to you Jenny
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Hi Jen, it’s Peta. I’ve finally read this whole thread from start to finish and I tell you what, it is a really good story that I do believe a lot of us have, or will face sometime in our lives. I’ve come close a few times myself already and although I did panic at first, I decided what the heck, if they pick me they do, if they don’t, they don’t. You have decided to and are dealing with this in your own way by the sound of things, and that is the most important part. Take advice for sure if you wish, but in the end[this goes for everyone]do whatever you feel happy with and things will happen as they are meant to. Just remember Jen, you know your friends and you will always have support. Peta A.
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well girls, all is well with the ex, she has invited me out to dinner with her and her sister, and they want jenny to be there.
wow i am over the moon that they are now accepting me a jenny, i can’t express in words how i feal, two girls in my life who mean so much to me, now want to spend time with the true me.
I am as nervous as shit, but also so excited, what will i wear, what will i say, i have never been so flustered so much before.
I will keep you all updated on what happens.
Love Jenny
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That’s great news Jenny, I knew this meant a lot to you….Well done
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Good news, remember, dress with class, be yourself and what ever happens take control.
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Hi Jenny
Mel here again. Good news there with your saga.
Since my last post here my ex (wife) has been a huge help with me with my eye brows, make up and dress ideas ect. Without her I wouldn’t have gone to the recent ball.
The morning of the ball I thanked her and we were both emotional, we have a special friendship now just like you have with your ex Jenny.
The lesson here for me is just be honest and up front. My 2 grown up sons know about me and accept it. I am so proud of them.
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Hi all
first of all, thank you to all the support you girls have shown me
I met with the ex for coffee this week just me and her, it went well, untill she said was i dressing because i was gay, i pointed out to her that i was Jenny because that is who i feel i really am and i am so comfortable as a girl and it makes me feel energised and whole.
It had nothing to do with being gay or straight, Jenny is who i want to be, she just sat there shakeing her head and said she did not understand, so i gave her some material i had on transgender people to read.
we parted on a bit of a low, but she did say she wil read the stuff and get back to me
i will keep you all udated when it happens
Love Jenny
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Hi Jen. It’s good to read about what you have just done with the ex. I believe that you are taking control of the situation and are not backing down in regards to who you are. Being proactive is a good thing, congratulations girl.
Peta.
