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Telling your partner about the secret life
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That is a fantastic result, looks very promising for the future for you.
Now there is no need to hide it and that will be a relief.
Go girl!
Hugs
June
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Yes Penny congratulations on following through with telling your wife, and a bigger set of congratulations must go to your wife . Remember to go with the flow as that big step you have just taken ….landed on her.
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Hi Penny,
I am so happy that you had a positive outcome, take things slowly won’t you!
Kelly
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hello again everyone, it’s been a week now since I told my wife my life has been a little bit of a roller coaster ride from the fear of telling her every think about my cross dressing to the happiness of her understanding.
We went shopping on Saturday so I could buy some new jeans, we started in Newtown for breakfast no better place to do that. While there I always like to go to the secondhand shops see what’s there, at St Vincent Op shop my wife pulled me into the women’s section and pulled out a few things and asked me you are like them. I told I thought a little big for her, she pulled me closer and told me she was thinking of me. I couldn’t believe it clothing she’d picked were lovely and in my size so, I bought them.
We moved on to Glebe to go the Broadway Centre seeing that I have losted so much weight recently I picked up 2 pairs of jeans.
But I know there’s a nice salvation army shop around the corner I asked if we could go she said yes. While there I picked up two sets of earrings,one necklace, a nice longsleeved top and a lovely wraparound dress in dark purple.When we got home I tried the clothing on,and for the first time my wife met me as Penny, the first thing she said is that I have to lose little more weight around the tummy.
Later on in the evening my wife turned to me and said that she hopes she has helped me and not made it harder. I didn’t have an answer for her but I think she has given me the freedom to be me and is willing to understand without judging me.
Penny..
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Well Penny, it seems like your wife is ok at the start with you, that is so good. I hope that she will eventually wish to join some of us on an outing/get together somewhere. Please make sure that she understands that she would be most welcome too but remember, let it happen at her pace as I said before.
Peta A.
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Gosh Penny, how lucky are you? That sounds like an excellent start to things except that your wife will be putting you on a diet.
I think it bodes well for the future if your wife is so happy to get things for you.
Hugs
June
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Congratulations Penny, wow what a great out come. Dont forget to spoil her for her just being her.
Diet …. mmm as a boy my mother always told me I was too skinny, now she has accepted me as a girl she keeps telling me to keep my weight off, its funny how they see it in a different light in the other gender.
xxx
Kelly Jones
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hi everyone just thought I’d write down what’s been going on. one of the oddest part of my agreed boundaries with my wife is that I do not walk around the house dressed as Penny. But she is more than happy for me to go out to things like Amanda’s restaurant night and just recently to go up to Newcastle for the weekly cafe night (which was absolutely fabulous) so in some aspects my boundaries are the opposites to other people in our community which are only allowed to dress at home.
But like all things new I must try and not over do it too much.
Penny.
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Hi Penny,
This is pretty similar to my situation. She does not want to see me dressed or be asked does this look good but is fine with me going out as long as I am careful about people who don’t know finding out.
As far as I know only 2 people who have know me before going out know about me. Everybody else doesn’t even guess. They are wondering why losing weight and why letting hair grow. The losing weight is sometime related to getting ready to cheat on a wife by looking good to other women but we all know why I would be doing it.
Fran
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HI Penny
we meet last Saturday night its great that your wife is on side with you and goes out with you it shows she has confidance with you when you out togeather.
Don’t go off in leaps and bounds because your wife has granted you freedom . its not all take its better to take BABY STEPS
Because its not all a bed of Roses all the time .
some of the girls if not all of
them will have some story of the Down side of the life of a Married CD or Defacto how they may have taken the freedom grants just too far. sorry but I have been there done that got the Hot tongue and Cold shoulder 😳 . see you at a another event
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Hi Penny,
my wife is now happy for me to dress at home with her; in fact that it is ONLY time she likes me to dress. I guess she wants to keep an eye on me when I’m Julie as she’s still worried about me running away with a man, which is never going to happen.
A big breakthrough the other day …. she came home from shopping with a new skirt for me. It wasn’t a birthday, anniversary, etc; she saw the skirt on sale, knew I’d love it and bought it for me. It is everything I love in a skirt: silky, colourful and short. I could not be happier and am very grateful to have such a loving and accepting wife, (even with the restrictions).Julie
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hello Julie
Nice to hear that your wife is letting you dress around the house you’re very lucky to have such an understanding wife. It just may be that she is worried for you if you go out into public, she may be concerned that you may be attacked.
I have found Sydney to be quite a safe place for the transgender community but I’ve always make sure of what is going on around me.Maybe you could both come to a small get-together like the one that Peta runs in Blacktown every second Monday night. I have made it a habit of going now so hopefully we may meet one day, this coming Monday is the next one. Your wife will get to meet other people in the community and like my wife get a little more comfortable with the people we meet as friends. Or if you want to meet a large section of the Sydney community you could try and come along to transformal which is on the 21st and 22nd of May 2010.
Just a suggestion but it is a couple of way to getting out of the house.Penny
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I have told me partner about Bronwyn, altho she still does not know my fem name. While she accepts that i am a cd she has said that she wants nothing whatsoever to do with my cd life. All very sad. Two close friends know and accept my fem life. Life sux at times. Bronwyn
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Well I did a month ago .. expecting her to leave me.
But she has been brillliant, has helped with clothes and makeup. She even took the initiative to tell some of our broad minded friends.
She encouraged me to go to Seahorse Vic and we are planning a night out at a TG mettinging place here called DT’s.
We’re still working out the ground rules and how we are going to go on into the future, but so far so good. Perhaps it helps that we are a bit older?
Such a relief.
The very best of luck to you. You know love actually does win sometimes.
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i am so envious of your situation Lisa. I dream of that happening to me.
